Well I am new to the discussion forum, I have been reading up on the basic concepts for a few months now though. My hubby and I have been seperated since December. Then he told me that he didn't want to get back together, but then in late January he told me he loved me and didn't want to divorce, he even bought me a birthday present, which he has never done before (14 years together and this was the first) we started spending more time together and the week before last was one of the best times we had spent together in a long time, he was so affectionate, and said all the right things. At the time he was not speaking to his brother (which I believe is our biggest problem) but then his brother called him and needed a job and he gave him his job back, two days later, he told me I was crowding him and spending too much time there. I just lost it. Then he locked me out of our house, I know it was wrong, but I kicked the door in to prove I could get in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I was so hurt, I didn't know what else to do. He came over last night and had dinner with our daughter and brought her valentines gift, he even bought me one from her, not him! But then he ate dinner and left with a bad attitude. He said he would give me the money for day care and then said no, he wants our daughter to stay the night with him tonight, but I don't want to let her go, he keeps playing games with me and now even holding back support to hurt me, but I know it will also hurt our daughter to not get to go and I also know that visitation is for the child, so my question is what do I do, give him everything he wants and just do without what he is supposed to do, take all the responsibilities on myself and just let him have his cake and eat it too? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> He got the house and furniture, I just took personal items, and he even moved his friend in and my daughter says they send her to her room the whole time she is there. I don't want a divorce, I still love him very much, even though he hurts me emotionally. Any good advise would be appreciated.