WGTT....You don't know how much I pray daily for that to be true.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Hi all,
Just wanted to give a quick update on my situation of marriage. Everything is going great. I'll have to admit I was skeptical in the beginning. I really did't think H would stick to his changes he promised to make, and frankly didn't care at the time, but felt after 22 years he deserved one more chance. Since before Christmas, when he asked what he had to do to stay, he has done it all. The meds have really helped his moods and temper. There have been maybe 3 minor infarctions on our agreement, when he woud start getting loud or harsh sounding and I would just remind him we are not doing that anymore and that was the end of it. He has done a complete turn around. He treats me like a queen, treats the kids very well, helps me without my asking and even went to church with us last Sunday. I have really regained all respect for this man, although it was slow coming.

All of the old issues are out of the picture except to remember enough not to do them anymore. He is trying really hard and succeeding. The counseling helped also.

I told him in the beginning I had a lot of expectations and didn't want him to have any of me. This sounds unfair and maybe it is but it was the only way I felt like I could give this another chance, because I didn't care anymore what happened. I just wanted a peaceful life.

The counselor doesn't think we need to see her again at this point. H actually still wants to so we will see her again at some point when H feels it is necessary. The biggest thing the C did for us was to help us get the lines of communication open again and go over why some things are totally not acceptable in a relaionship.

I have not pushed him in any direction. This is something I felt he had to do on his own. I did have expectations of what I would accept but didn't want to have to threaten or push to get it. When all is basically lost, you surrender completly to God and He can and does restore it.

I still believe it was the total surrender of the marriage that allowed God to take over and fix the mess we made of it.

I always believed it and now I'm living it, With God, All things are possible.

May God touch each of you in a special way today!
Free

The answered prayer list is definately getting bigger! PRAISE THE LORD!!!!!
God Bless you all! and may He give you His clear direction whatever circumstances you are in!
This is such an awesom thread! God is moving among us, and I so look forward to this thread turning into more of a praise thread, of prayers answered! Thankyou all for your prayers for one another, it is good to know that we all have our hearts in the right place!
Love in Christ, SW

So far downhill. It has gotten so much worse. stbxH is now living with OW and her two year old son. And he is teaching my son to lie about it.

My son is soooo confused now. When he goes to a visit to his father's, there is this new much younger child there in his old house, playing in his room and his daddy sees this child so much more than his own son. It is awful.

Hurling relentlessly toward the divorce which should be next month. He is now in contempt of court. I had to file papers last friday. He hasn't paid us at all in three months.

i feel a little left out here lately, but i know that it is just the depression talking when i feel that way.

Here is the series of phone calls i just had to make and i am just wrung out over them:

Call to ex re the sale of our jointly owned property. she was cold at best, and I am praying for her return?....I hope God knows what he is doing!

Call to bank about why i am behind on payments to them for a loan...stressful but am working on the loan, anyway.

call to sears about past due account....

call to other bank re the past due credit card bill.....blech

call to electric company to ask them to not turn off electricity as i will have some money when house finally closes.

next call is to mortgage company to stall them for another month.....

next call after that is to GP to ask why i am still TIRED all the time and want only to sleep, even though i am on antidepressant medication.

i have all theses bills, because, before she left, we had to buy new appliances (washer, dryer, fridge all died in a 4 week span of time) and started doing renovations on the house and i had a good job at the time.

i am feeling tired and dragged out and not at all hopeful about this already EX-marriage and other things...can someone PLEASE pray for me?.........

Thank you,
NMW

notpeachy, i feel a little foolish for posting about my problems when i read of yours, i will pray hard for you and your son.

NMW

notpeachy & NMWBTWBD, It's wonderful to hear about the marriages moving toward restoration, but there are some of us here, myself included, for whom this does not seem imminent. We still need to have faith that what God has planned for us is for the best. Maybe our WS's will never come around - they do have free will. And maybe we're better off without them if this is the case. Maybe that's just how it has to be FOR NOW. Maybe He has other things planned for us, for now at least.

Look at cajunky, how he has turned his shortcomings into a ministry for others, both here and in his church. We have no idea what God has in store for us and we would probably be limiting ourselves if we try to second guess His will for us.

Dear LetsTry:

Thank you for your insight.

My own marriage does not really seem headed for restoration, either, but I feel called to pray for it anyway for now.

Your observations on what God may or may not want and where this all might really be leading are very astute. My wife leaving me has already helped bring me back to God and my faith...THAT is a good thing. I will pray for your happiness.

NMW

Thanks letstry and nmwbtwbd.

I keep you all in my prayers. Sometimes when your heart is soooo heavy you feel like you can't even begin to pour it all out to God. I totally understand the bills part. It is almost too much and lately like you, I want to sleep alot despite being on a 1/2 dose mild antidepressant also. Just the nasty situation.

And it hurts to see what has happened to our WS's. But I am certain God will take care of son and I and that we will soon see a brighter day. God's been good. Tomorrow morning I am going to go for the day and night to a luxury resort and the STATE SOCIETY I am head of is paying for it!!!And the treasurer of it, a wonderful friend and Christian lady is going to in order to help me. I have to attend a two hour meeting tomorrow around noon and then the whole day is open. Have to plan our state convention and tie up loose ends. But to have the blessing of staying free at a wonderful place in the mountains is awesome. I am bringing Bible, new book, and new palm pilot from Christmas (relatives). Getting work done and will have afternoon off to relax. State is even paying for my misc. expenses and all food...I am blessed to have even one day away.

But pray..Son is with stbx and the live in girlfriend and the child. I can't even bear to think about it sometimes b/c it hurts me to see what's happening in front of my baby.

I wanted to post an update to Cajunky and started reading everyone else's posts...wow.

First, Cajunky, although my WH and I are no closer to reconciliation then before, I have felt much more peace with the situation...far from happy, but peace. I attribute this to God's grace and the prayers of many friends. I often take long walks at night and in those quiet reflective times, Scripture verses come to me, some I didn't even really know completely. It is a great comfort. I know my H is in God's hands, and God knows my heart. I also know the OW is deep into New Age "crap" and I feel this has opened a door to an evil creeping in. I have to protect myself and my youngest daughter from this. So thank you for your continued example, support and prayers.

Steadfast, that is a wonderful and uplifting post! I'm truly happy for you. Indeed, with God all things are possible.

NMWBTWBD, my heart goes out to you. I am dealing with many of the same issues myself..and yes, sometimes I feel my life has taken on a "Rip VanWinkle" quality. (Fortunately for me, shortly before he split, my H had purchased a brand new bedroome suite for us ("My wife should have the bedroom suite she wants"!!??!!) and even more fortunately he is still paying for it! It is snug and cozy, but boy is it lonely!!) Some days I just want to pull the covers over my head!
Please take care! This too shall pass.

Keeping everyone in prayer...

Dear broken, peachy, letstry, and all others,

I am going to say a Rosary for all of us tonight. I find that praying the Rosary ALWAYS helps me to feel more grounded and closer to Christ.

I am very sorry to hear that the difficulties I face are also are being faced by so many others. However, God has used these trials to bring me closer to Him and to show me the value of Christian Fellowship. God Bless you all.

NMW

Andy,

During a very dark time, a friend gave me a little booklet " Miracle Hour ... a method of prayer that will change your life: by Linda Schubert. Miracles of the Heart Ministries website

I did start to pray as the book suggested and it transformed my prayer life, and come to think of it, my life too. Just yesterday, I was thinking that I need to get the book out again. Thank you, I had to get the book out to give you the name. See God knows what he is doing! I got quite a few from my prayer group, so if you want me to send you one, just email me.

Andy, what kind of renovations have you been doing on your house? Sounds like a kitchen from all the appliances you bought! We renovated an older home one time - completely gutted it. It takes a lot of work and money. Like the movie the money pit. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Keep sharing on this board. I know it is hard to contact creditors, (it's not my favorite thing either) but just being pro-active can help.

As far as your physical situation, when was the last time you remember feeling good? What is different since then?

God Bless,

D.