I filed for divorce about a month ago and we are trying to do things as amicably as possible but sometimes this doesn't work out. We are getting divorced because of his pathological attachment to his parents. My FIL tried to physically assault me at some point and my stbx H's response was "How dare you make my father angry, you will give him a heart attack". Here is the question, stbx H tries to kiss and fondle me from time to time but also openly says that he doesn't love me and has been putting up with me for years because of our child. When I ask why he is trying to get into a sexual relationship with me although he doesn't love me, he says he is trying to be kind. I am very determined to divorce this man but I would like to know if anybody else has encountered this type of behaviour and WHY he might be acting so weird.
ruby

Hello ruby,
I guess u need set some boundrys for yourself, if you dont, it will mess with your mind and emotions. If u r determined to get a divorce and r sure of it, he will eventually get tired of trying, but he more than likely put you thru some emotional abuse for setting boundries. Men are more sexual than woman in some cases and it helps get his emotional needs met. It sounds like your very hurt inside, but this is where friends come in that will listen to u vent. Writing such as you have also helps. U may need to learn to stay under control and it may be very hard not to give in to sex or loose your temper. If u dont know Jesus, this will be even tougher along with everything in life. If you want to experience what he has to offer, ask him into your heart and take control of your life if you havnt done that already. He will calm any storm if you believe. Without faith in him, we cannot please him. I hope that you take charge of whatever you feel you have to and may your outcome be what you and god want..........With love, Tom