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Has anyone who is pursuing a divorce gone to an attorney with your spouse? Do you have to have two seperate attorneys?
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You can go together to an attorney who acts as a mediator, but don't use the same attorney. You will want a separate attorney to review anything to which you've agreed in mediation.
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I know of someone who got divorced and they both used the same attorney. Only one person could talk to the atorney while the other basically represented themself.
In todays litigious society I would suggest you use separate attorneys
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I know a guy who tried that, he took his wife to HIS lawyer, they got papers drawn, then she got her OWN lawyer and slaughtered the first agreement, get your own lawyer
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According to respect for each other. You should have your own attorney. Or you two just could represent yourself by going to a mediator. Then they select an attorney to go to the judge to represent you.
Are you two trying to keep costs down. If so, just make a agreement prior to going to mediation, and all they have to do is draft the papers, and sign.
Otherwise, if you two can't agree, you need someone to be your spokeperson.
I have found that if I had not gotten an attorney, I would be so in the ditch. My husband is intelligent, and shrew. So I have a good attorney, and that is what is keeping me alive. His attorney is a A&&hole, and my husband is having a hard time. But I don't want to tear my husband apart, but he is getting what he started. I am just doing what I was told to do.
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