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I filed for divorce last week, because I felt there was no longer ANY hope at all that H would change his mind.
I'd been telling him I'd NEVER file, because I didn't want a divorce. Then he did some crazy things that pushed me to the limit.
Over the last few days H & I started talking civilly again. Last night he admitted that maybe he gave up on the marriage too soon.
I didn't expect this.
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Joined: Mar 2002
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Since you just now filed for D, you have a mandatory waiting period before you can go further. Use this time to determine if H is REALLY committed to making things right, IF you feel it's not too late. A divorce can be stopped anytime before the gavel comes down.
Lots of talking and counselling may be the way to go..again, if YOU want to.
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so hurt, Since I was married to an addict/alcoholic, the words "drunken ONS" and "erratic behavior" are red flags for me. If alcohol is a problem, I'd suggest Al-Anon and not making any radical decisions until you're sure what you want and are willing to set some pretty firm limits.
As doogie said, use this time to determine if he's really committed. You've been through a lot and I know from my own experience it hurts just as much each time you get your hopes up and then discover more betrayal. Take care of yourself and your baby!
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