I have been doing really hard thinking and reading past posts. Am I stupid? Is he having his cake and eating it too? He's much happier not living here, goes out every night, but wants to date me? Iam beginning to wonder if he is seeing someone. I have asked a million times and he says no. I just don't know anymore.

I would be very careful; pay close attention. Of course he is going to say to you that he's not dating anyone, whether he is or isn't. And I doubt he'd tell his mom the truth either, because, like everyone, I am sure he wants his mom to think highly of him, and knowing that her son is sleeping around is not going to do that.

You said the two of you are not having sex--good. I was most concerned about that. That is what I meant by having his cake..

Do some things for yourself that will make you more attractive/appealing/interesting.... get a new haircut, find yourself a new hobby. I think if it looks like you are going on and not crying in a corner somewhere, you will look fun and interesting and it may give him the jolt he needs.
My stbx always seemed happier away from me, but yet always denied that he was. So I don;t know what to tell you about that.

Stay strong. Read all you can about seperation, divorce, ect. I am prob. going to buy that "stop your divorce" book. But I don't think I'm going to persue him. And though I wish he would, he probably isn't going to persue me either. Good luck to you.

<small>[ March 02, 2003, 03:26 AM: Message edited by: Epiph0ny ]</small>