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My husband and I have been married for 7 yrs now. We have been together for almost 9. I am 36 he is 32. Five yrs ago he had an affair and recently has started to "play" on the internet. When confronted about the issues and if he wants to repair this marriage a new issue has come up that puts a whole different spin on things. He now wants children. He has doubts about saving this marriage b/c of that issue. He knew from the start of this relationship this was an issue. I could not have them and did not want to try nor did I want to adopt. Are they any couples out there who have survived this issue. I can't ask him to live the rest of his life childless and vice versa. I am so heartbroken and lost. This is the third serious relationship (but only 1 marriage) that has fallen part due to this issue. <P>Abby
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Hmm I see a pattern here. If this is the third relationship that has fallen apart because of this issue I think that children is not the issure at all. Since he knew from the beginning that children were not in the cards for you and now it is suddenly an issue? This is a smokescreen for something else.<P>Curious, how long was he married to his first wife? If his first marriage and other relationships failed after 5-7 years then I would say that he has a problem sustaining a longterm relationship such a a marriage.
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This is the first marriage for both of us. As far as I know, he has not had a relationship that has lasted as long as ours. <BR>He has had other relationships that did not last long - not even to one year that he has ever mentioned.
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