First of all, I have to say, I would never marry anyone who's twice divorced (or anyone who can't prove they did they best to make the M work). Not anymore, I did.
And here I am now, soon to be divorced.
WH is pushing for me to sign, and then be eternally happy thrice D'd.
He had wanted to take his OW#2 (A going on 8 months now) to visit his parents. They refused,
"As long as you are still legally married, no, too early.." So, what does he do, puts on pressure to get D going.
OW is probably getting her D finalized too. Her H wanted her back, I wouldn't be suprised, if not anymore.
H and OW are going to be one great couple with a baggage of 4 divorces between them. All the 3 divorces H has initiated.
Maybe you can understand one D, in certain circumstances, but THREE!!!
And 7 kids + 3 ex-spouses to deal with, because of the kids.
Is this something what's going to last?
What's going on here?
They say the 2nd marriages are more likely to fail, how about the 4th?

IMO the chances of a 4th marriage working in any healthy way is zero. They may end up remaining married because of age, but I doubt the relationship would be anything but superficial and self-serving.

That's quite a story!

I would agree with Lurking.

I do know one woman who is on her third marriage after cheating on husbands number 1 and 2. She's been with the third husband for about 10 years now, the longest marriage so far. This couple has six children between them, from a combined total of four previous marriages between both of them.

Take care,
H_P

Darth will be soon working on his third divorce (he is almost 35) and Ms. Family Values is either as I suspect non ever married or if is was just married briefly and working on her second. Four d's inbetween them...And they are 35 and 25 respectively.

Don't some people ever get it? If you keep doing the same thing the same old way you will keep getting the same result--Dr. Phil says that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Bears....a very similar situation to my X and his wife to be. She has been divorced three imes, so between them they will have had four failed marriages. And they think THIS one will work?

She has no kids, so I think that actually makes it easier for them. My sister in law divorced and remarried a man who had divorced his wife for her. He had three kids, but they had none together. They are still together.

Love and light,

Jacky

My SO is also divorced, and so am i, both of us had to deal with the same WS concepts, we have been seeing each other for about two years. . . and when the topic of marriage comes up, we both laugh, and then run, and change the topic. . . get real nervous, and say, na!

we avoid the L word most of the time, because that means something we might not want to do until maybe in about 10 years, or so. . . .

what is the damn hurry anyway? we aren't having any more kids. . . we are great recreational companions. . . why not just keep it that way until the X spouses get killed in on the job accidents? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
wiftty

ROTFLMAO <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

wiftty, I just had to reply when I read your post.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My SO is also divorced, and so am i, both of us had to deal with the same WS concepts, we have been seeing each other for about two years. . . and when the topic of marriage comes up, we both laugh, and then run, and change the topic. . . get real nervous, and say, na!

we avoid the L word most of the time, because that means something we might not want to do until maybe in about 10 years, or so. . . .

what is the damn hurry anyway? we aren't having any more kids. . . we are great recreational companions. . . why not just keep it that way until the X spouses get killed in on the job accidents?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">BTW, I'm an INFP who was married to an ENTJ. I could almost have written your post, except that my SO is divorced, but his heart was broken by a short-term relationship and I'm in the process of getting divorced (filed 6/00) and we've been seeing each other for about 7 months. The rest I could have written except that since my STBXH is a drug addict/alcoholic and hasn't worked in over two years, the chances of him getting killed in an on the job accident are slim to none. But as obnoxious and belligerent as he is and as many people who've expressed the desire to kill him, there's always the chance that he'll actually run into someone who'd do it, not just say it... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Is there not an element here of not learning anything about yourself.

See Lora's post about opposites attract;

Although my soon to be ex wife use the following motto in life:

She believes in marrying Mr Right and keep on marrying until you get it right.

Wonder why she is now heading for the next Mr Right. I really do hope she finds it or finds herself - but I am just plain burnt out and want to move on - even if it means being alone.

The gist of what you are all saying is true enough but look for the signs of permanent change it does happen we have all seen it even though it is rare.