To say the least I had an interesting evening. I got home and discovered only one piece of mail awaiting me. However, the letter was from the OM's (whom my X is now living with) x-wife. The letter simply said that she had some questions for me and to give her a call.

So I called and she asked about an incident at the YMCA that her daughter was having a hard time dealing with. Then we talked and quite frankly "compared notes". She wasn't divorced till almost a year after me. But was shocked to find out that her XH was with my XW during that whole year.

Also found out that OM is into "Group Sex" and even had the gall to aproach his wife, while married, and asked her to have group sex with my X, whom he was cheating with. Also found out that OM is into Child Porn, which is scary as HE!! to me right now. OH and let's not forget that he abused her and the kids while married.

At the end of the conversation we agreed to stay in touch and share anything that we thought was important.

Let's just say that it was in interesting evening.

<small>[ March 07, 2003, 08:14 AM: Message edited by: LostHusband ]</small>

If the child porn thing can be substantiated I would suggest going back to get full custody. You dont want your kids around him at all!

I agree with John C, child porn is an INSTANT pass to full residential custody, I would hire a private investigator to prove it. IF he had any in his house and he was jailed for it the courts would forbid him from ever being near your kids, protect them at all cost from this pervert,dont let this jerk ruin their lives. It may be a good idea to discuss your options with a good lawyer.

GEEZ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

LH, don't you ever just go home and watch TV like the rest of us??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I hardly know what to say other than that this seems to be par for the course for IG (Idiot Girl). I swear she must be blind or drunk or both to leave a fine young stallion like you to shack up with a pervert like that!

If she wants to be used, abused, and tossed aside that's one thing (more power to her, I say--ya can't stop her), but to be that messed up and use your girls as weapons and have them in that environment is just pathetic!!! Dude, you've got to move out of your "good-ole-boy" state and into a state with a place like BOULDER--where even DOGS are not possessions, they're companions. Geez, I think gay folks in Boulder can apply for health insurance for their pets now! (THAT'S A JOKE, PEOPLE!)

Anyway, here's a thought. Try having a normal night for once. Here's how it goes: work on homework, make pot pies, do dishes, watch Simpsons and Married With Children, tuck kids in, go to bed.

Try it sometime!

CJ

Remember, FH has asked you if this or that was the hill on which you wished to die. I think this is it.

I can't believe this. I'm shocked.

I can't imagine how you must feel. What you must think. What must be going through your mind.

Have the girls said anything about any strange goings on?

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<strong>Remember, FH has asked you if this or that was the hill on which you wished to die. I think this is it.

I can't believe this. I'm shocked.

I can't imagine how you must feel. What you must think. What must be going through your mind.

Have the girls said anything about any strange goings on?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">[B][/B]

Ditto. Cinderella has hit the heart of the matter. Get going.

Hi Bill, you know I share this fear every single day too. My thoughts are with you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I can't tell you how tempted I have been since D-Day +1 minute to call or send a letter to the OM's wife and have a real heart to heart and compare notes. Amidst all the lies and all the manipulating deceit, there have to be certain kernels of truth. If the truth shall set us free, then I'd like to know what it is... but I don't know that she does.

In some ways, you're very lucky. It's probably overwhelming and certainly not happy, but I think your contact and comparing notes was probably empowering and help affirm that you are making good decisions and walking the correct path.

Good luck.