Hello to everyone who remembers me,

I just realized that I have not had time to be on the computer because I have been so busy living life!

And that is a GOOD THING!

I have been making leaps and bounds in the area of detaching myself from ExH and am well into complete recovery from him.

I have learned that any person who is capable of committing the atrocious acts that he committed (and which he continues to commit) is not someone whom I should be committing myself too.

I have been working on my annulment and it really looks like that we were not living a sacramental marriage for lots and lots of reasons and while we may have had a good start and God may wanted to have had those children born of the marriage, I am learning that God does not want me to continue to suffer with that man for the rest of my life.

I am HAPPY! How many times and how many ways can I say that? I AM HAPPY! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I NEVER even dreamed that I would be to this point. I tried and tried and tried. But when push came to shove, the bottom line was that you can't change a person if they do not want to change and then, guess what, you are better off without them.

I also realized that I could not heal myself while I was in continual contact with ExH and allowing him to affect my life. Which meant cutting the cord, so to speak.

So, with much prayer and much counseling and much love from my family, and a little bit of help from the court system, I am truly on the way up.

And yes, through my prayer group for divorced persons I have met someone. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

And life is wonderful.

Remember that God is with you, in whatever stage in life you are in, and He is there right beside you helping you through the pain and trying to lead you to happiness. So, continue to pray, and also listen, to what GOd has in store for you, and life will be just as wonderful for you too.

My most best wishes and prayers to you all.

K

Dear GIIC,
I've been wondering about you, looking for you on the Boards. Now that I have read your update, I am very happy for you. After all you've endured, you're healing.

I see an image of a wart or large carbuncle being removed. Something that you didn't even realize was impeding you,until it was gone, and lightness took its place.

Bless you, and I'm also happy to read that you've met someone in divorce support group.

Good luck on the annulment. If anything develops from your new person from the group, or from a future romance with someone else, what a wonderful woman they will have. A woman grounded with God, grounded in her faith, and with principles from MB to build a new relationship.

Hi K,

Good to hear from you. I got your email and have a few questions on the annulment that I'll email to you if you don't mind.

A Christian counselor that I saw after DDay told me that we were not living a sacramental marriage. That mush somehow affect the anulment ?

That makes me feel good that you are doing so well these days. A few of my friends have told me the same thing, that a person really doesn't begin to heal until you cut the cord as you say. That must seem difficult at the time yet a relief once it's done.

What better place to meet someone but at a Christian prayer group! You deserve a real Godly gentleman and happy that things are developing nicely.

God Bless,

D.

I have been wondering about you. Hoped you were well. Glad to hear you are.

I also wonder about 'Just the Wife'

GIIC, I'm glad to see your post, and that you are healing and feeling better.
I wish you the best in life, for it has much greater things to hold for all of us.
Enjoy!
What did you give up for Lent? Thinking about X?

Belle - Great analogy. Yes, I have learned through therapy that I was unable to see a few things in the relationship that a more healthy person would have. And now that I have become more healthy, I can hear the problems loud and clear!

WGTT - Yes, detachment can do wonders. It's hard to do, but it's like going through withdrawal - eventually it gets easier and easier, but everyone is at a different place and each person does it in their own time.

Regarding the annulment, will answer any questions you have. Never wanted to think that I wasn't living the sacrament, but I also never wanted to think that ExH was the person that he really was, so I've had to learn to see reality, and not what I want the picture to be.

Cinderella - Yes, I am FINALLY doing well. Thanks.

Newly - Giving up thinking about ExH? THAT WAS A GOOD ONE! Turns out, I don't need an excuse like Lent to give him up. I'm finally taking control, and it feels great! I still look back and wonder how I survived it all, but God has dulled the pain and is giving me an incredible new life. Thank you God!

My very best wishes to everyone here, and may God be always with you on your journey. K

I am soooo happy. And tell us about your new friend...Yea! See, God is good and is allowing you to widen your circle of friends and is allowing a male to enter now..Yee ha!

I hope to be following you immediately. Mediation day is friday and I am somewhat downtrodden now. Like knowing I need a root canal and that I'd feel better after the root canal, but the ROOT CANAL STILL HURTS TO HAVE DONE.

Hi K-

I too rarely come here anymore, when I do I usually just lurk. I have looked for you, but haven't seen anything. Now I see why. I just want you to know how happy I am for you. In so many ways our lives have paralled eachothers. I have told you many times that all of this is a process and good things would happen when you are ready and you really seem ready. I can't tell you how happy I am for you. As I learned quite some time ago, letting go was the hardest part, once I did it life got wonderful. I would love to hear how you and the kids are doing. I am curious about the new friend as well. I myself find my life very full with four wonderful children and a wonderful man. Life can really be good.

Take care and God Bless!

K