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#746290 03/18/03 09:32 AM
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Rollling on the Sidewalk Laughing my @@@ off!!!

OK, you've heard me say there are no men in Nashville.

A friend at work and I often take our breaks and lunch hours together. In the afternoon, walking around and through our building, we often meet up with the security guard for the afternoon shift. Officer Swindell. (Isn't that a great name for a security guard?)

Friday, I left early. My friend was alone outside our office, walking to her car or the restroom, or somewhere. Anyway, Officer Swindell comes up to her and starts asking about her friend. ME!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Am I married? Am I divorced? Do I have children? All these things that are none of his business. Unless,........

Perish the thought!

A short, chubby guy - at least 10-15 years younger than me. In a security guard uniform. With his big batton.?????????????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

He's harmless enough, I think.

But I'd much rather have a man in a well-tailored suit. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Would you rather have a man in a suit ignore you, or a friendly soul to boost your self-esteem.
Keep smiling! I am!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cinderella:
<strong>But I'd much rather have a man in a well-tailored suit. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No Cinderella, I will not go out with you. As you can see by my new thread I'm already taken.

BTW - I can see that southern grin from here. YOU GO GURL.......

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Billy,

Since when does a tight pair of Wranglers and a Dale Earnhardt T-shirt qualify as "a well tailored suit"...???

You know I'm just kidding..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ March 18, 2003, 11:52 AM: Message edited by: peoplepleaser ]</small>

#746294 03/18/03 09:37 PM
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I didn't mean to sound judgemental. Folks, his looks do nothing for me. He doesn't sound too intellectual. I bet he is a good guy but he won't ever be the one.

So, how do you tell your office building's security guard you wouldn't go out with him.

Am I gonna have to change my break habits? Or just not wander around the building alone.

Bill, I bet he would like your Dale Earnhardt t-shirt though. So would my x's new wife. I'd rather have a Yo Yo Ma one, though.

#746295 03/18/03 09:56 PM
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Awww you didn't sound too judgemental. I couldn't help but picture a combo of Seargent Carter and Barney Fife. That made me laugh.

The guy is too old for you too, and I hate it when men try to pick up women half their age....I I just think they should try staying in their own age group.

A friend of mine is 21, she is dating a guy 38, at first she saw no age difference, now she does and is really wishing she would have thought more about it before going out with him....relationships are hard enough as it is, add age difference and it makes it even harder.

I have a man down the road from me that tried really hard to get me to go out. Just couldn't understand me saying no. He's way older than me, not my type at all, he runs around in the yard in these little bitty shorts with slits up the side...doesn't do anything for me at all. So many times he would say, "Let me take you out to a very nice, expensive restaurant and treat you to a steak dinner." I just thought, I can buy my own dang steak thank you very much!

Some how it didn't flatter me either. I just though it was a dirty old man asking someone too young for him out to have a good time...

If he ask me out again I decided to say, "Ya know, there's a lady down the road that is more your age and you two would have a lot more in common, have you asked her out?"

c'ya,
ANNA

#746296 03/19/03 07:56 PM
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Well, I guess with a name like Cinderella, that pretty much limits you to Prince Charming types, probably pretty hard to find in Nashville. Still you never know.
One day, while down on your knees scrubbing the floors, there just may be a
knock on the door. Stranger things have happened.

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I think Karenna said that most police officers are ISTJs. . .. if i remember correctly. . . you wouldn't want to make that mistake again!!

So, cinderellie, your tastes in men are very high, none of the guys in my link were acceptable, and there were some swell fellas there, and the local beat patrolman with the hairy chest was not intellectual enough. . . ..

are you a gold digger by any chance?

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#746298 03/20/03 12:10 AM
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Get this folks, it's possibly a FOO issue. Blue collar father doing verbal/emotional abuse on my mom and me. Got along with my sister best. But she has a master's degree in manipulation.

I have a feeling that a lot of security related people are in the field as a form of self-medicating for self-image issues. Or they are legends in their own minds. It's a power trip, I think.

And before Danny slams me again, he needs to comprehend that this fellow, nice as he might seem to be, is probably at least 15 years YOUNGER than me. As his dad works at the same place, I wouldn't doubt but that he is maybe 20 years younger than me. And he is not appealing to me in any way, physically - kind of bears some resemblance to my x.

(Where is that throw-up gremlin when you need it?)

Now that you have withstood the flaming words of Cinderella, please know that I just want to get along with people. And to not date baby boys built like ping-pong balls.

Wiftty, I have dated the employed, the unemployed, and the fully employed. Men who could afford me - and men who couldn't. And I wouldn't be found hanging out with an ISTJ if I could help it. But I don't know that I'll meet him in a personal ad. Hm, Didn't you once post that you had a friend moving to my city? What's he like? Is he married? Is he happily married? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Besides, I once did post an on-line personal ad and got no responses that didn't creep me out. One sent a photo that looked a lot like my wacked-out former next-door-neighbor.

Those who saw the bloody, emotional mess that I was when wh announced he wanted a divorce, you would agree that I am a cinderella-case-study. I was co-dependent and let him dish it out. But, I got over that.

However, there aren't handsome princes at my door daily.

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Hey Cindy. I wasn't slamming you hon, just the opposite. I meant that you should hang in there a be selective. Being single can be tough, even lonely sometimes and the temptation to just settle for whatever is available, especially if that person shows "interest" can be hard to resist. And if you're feeling at all vulnerable these days that can make things worse.

In other words- go out and have a little fun if you want, but don't wear your heart on your sleeve until your prince comes a' knockin. And he will. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Danny

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hmmmm. . . well, just keep looking in those far away places for the next prince. . .

I'm sure there is one somewhere

{{{{{{{{{{{{{cinderella}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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#746301 03/20/03 02:01 PM
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Danny, thanks. I'll let you off. Sorry if I seemed harsh. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> Picky, to a point, is a good thing. But, please, as a point of pickiness, don't call me Cindy - I prefer Cinderella or Princess. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Wiffty, I think there are no real princes, just mere mortals.

But, I think we need to import a better group than the ones I've found here. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I wonder where a Princess goes to find a man who wants a Princess. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I wonder where a Princess goes to find a man who wants a Princess. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">geez, you should know that,

to a BALL!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
but i guess you don't want to go to the policeman's ball! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

wiftty

<small>[ March 20, 2003, 04:04 PM: Message edited by: WhenIfindthetime ]</small>

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"But, I think we need to import a better group than the ones I've found here. I wonder where a Princess goes to find a man who wants a Princess."

Jeez kid, with that kind of attitude Prince Charming could be right under your nose and you wouldn't see him.

Danny....

you can call me Dan, Daniel, Dan the Man, Danny Boy.......... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ March 20, 2003, 06:45 PM: Message edited by: Danny115 ]</small>

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cinderella:
[QB Men who could afford me - and men who couldn't
[/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> hehe! Cinderella, I know you meant that innocently but I think you should consider rewording that. hehe!

As far as personal ads goes, after alot of people on MB was saying how wonderful it was, I too tried it, I didn't like my ad just being out there, and after a several really bad emails from the wrong men, I took if off and then responded to a couple of guys. I looked up men who are Christians and who go to church regularly...I found only a couple and I wrote to them. While one turned out to not be my type, the other seems to be.

We talked for a month, went out last weekend and I had the best date so far of my life; I'm not sure if it was the company, the place we went, or a combination but what a perfect date.

He's in the computer field, very smart, very articulate, very funny and so far seems to just to be a down-right nice guy. We seem to have a lot in common and we are both very active, outdoor people. He's a BS, and he's got full custody of his children. His kids seem to adore him, the daughter called to see how his date went while I was still with him, he looked at me with this sheepish grin and this said, "Well, I can't talk about her right now because she's sitting right in front of me."

I'm not sure if he's the one since it's only been one date, and we both want to take it very slow and mainly become good friends at first. I do know I would have never met him and had the opportunity to find out if he is the right man if it weren't for on-line dating.

Dan the Man,

I like you! You sound like you have that same laid back cool attitude my 11 year old has. He would say something just like you did...You can call me Dan, you can call me Danny, you can call me Dan the man...hehe! too cool! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

c'ya'll,

ANNA

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Robbin' the Cradle??
Stay tuned!!
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A young stud, in uniform, with a big baton and a big gun.

Isn;t that what all women want? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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Weeelll...

According to wiffty on the EN forum, we women want sweaty men!

(yes, btw, the big paton is nice, but it's not the size of the baton--it's how you swing it!)

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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The guy is not a stud.

He doesn't have a gun - hey, jobs packing heat for his employer pay $7.50/hr. Less for no gun.

He does have a big baton though. Wears it on his back.

He is way too young.

Too round in body. Too much the same coloring as x.

Doesn't seem very intellectual. How could he be if he seems to enjoy walking around a building where nothing goes on?

And I have been to balls (well, dinner dances at which the press was present) and I haven't found a prince at either of them. Not even the year when my nametag was too big for my dress.

Hmm, sweaty men. Maybe, on some days. Certain situations. But not one who feels a uniform makes him cool. How sweaty? How long has he been sweaty? How did he get sweaty? IS HE GOOD LOOKING?

And, as for me, you can call me Princess, Cinderella, Princess Cinderella, Your Highness, Most Beautiful One, Gorgeous. Anything like that <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ March 21, 2003, 03:39 AM: Message edited by: cinderella ]</small>

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He does have a big baton though. Wears it on his back.
HE SHOULD BE IN CERTAIN MOVIES OR AT LEAST A SIDESHOW!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Your talking about balls, a sweaty guy who exercise a lot by walking and has a baton so big he has to carry it on his back...

Has it been a while or what Your Highness? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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