We have been spending time together since our separation, but h is still working with OW and seeing OW (plural) as well. He denies this, but I know it is true. In the past I have always had to confront him with proof to get him to admit...asked him for the truth and he lied right to my face until i actually showed it to him.

With men like this, is there ever any hope that they will be honest and straight? I'm beginning to have my doubts and wondering if I should quit spending time with him. He comes over and we have a great time together, but when he leaves, I feel empty.

I know he is not committed and all he says to me is that he wants us to keep spending time together and getting to know each other again.

I have asked him if he is seeing other people, he says no. He seems to be enjoying this "relatinship" the way it is. I, however, am in limbo with this man because all i know is that he doesnt' want me to persue the divorce which is scheduled to go through in just a few months, but he's not really making a committment to work on the marriage as promised...for instance..hasn't initiated marital counseling with me, but keeps making excuses as to why he has not done so.

Until he shows a real commitment to saving your marriage I suggest you stop seeing him. I've been in your situation and I think he is stringing you (and how many OW?) along. As long as you "allow" his behavior to continue, he will continue to take advantage. Yeah, I know the empty feeling after he leaves. Get on the road to healing and stand up for yourself and your beliefs. One way I help myself heal is to remember who I was before my marriage. Get out of the house! There are plenty of things to do that are free like going for a walk, to the library, etc. It's hard sometimes and lonely too. Read your post! I think you already have the answers to your questions. Best of luck!

Read Surviving An Affair.

I was married to one like that, all denials until one day I had proof, even after the divorce I am hearing about even more other women. Only now I don't care and start talking about other things, I still have times when I miss having someone to share things with BUT I don't miss him, I miss companionship but everyday I am more comfortable with what I do and I have met some real nice people who are honest and have integrity. I get to choose who is in my life now and what happens. I smile and now I am hearing other people comment on what a great smile I have! I realized that I was choosing what I was familiar with and not what I really wanted and there is a big difference.