As if my lovely wake up email from Darth wasn't enough...

He calls me via blocked cell number on my way home. I answer and am sorry. He starts out being "nice and all wanting to work with me through the mediation thing." Says he "cannot produce the documents about his salary period for last three years. He doesn't even act like he is concerned that HE WILL GO TO JAIL NEXT WEDNESDAY. Geez. Hope that Ms. Family Values likes her men in orange...

I listen and say nothing. He then says something and I say that "I will not listen to you especially after your precious little keepsake photo you sent me this morning". He then starts in one millisecond later begins cussing me out saying I am a "stupid, fat, f, b, c (use imagination here) and that he wishes I'd just die". I remain calm. I say calmly..."You had better be quiet now". "Calm down Darth, we all know you're secretly venting about your newest mistress.." I hang up and am mad as hell.

I call his house. It is about 3 pm and I left work early due to sinus infection and feeling really poopy and a bit of fever and sneezing. GUESS WHO ANSWERS THE PHONE AND IS NOT AT WORK OR PROBABLY DOESN'T WORK? Ms. Family Values. I say this: " Hi this is peachy. Is my husband there? I need to tell him something but now that I've got you on the phone I am just wondering if you think I am stupid. DON'T BE SHACKING UP IN FRONT OF MY SON OK? And don't you have a job or something to DO other than my husband?" She just sits there and says "he is on his cell". I said yea. And "oh, you should definitely reconsider firing your aesthetician because she really screwed up your eyebrows when she waxed them or are you just a nervous person?". She said huh? I said nevermind.

So she is a no job, shacking up no talent woman who looks like a VERY OLD 25 IF I MAY ADD along with a distinct resemblance to Chynna from the WWF but a bit not as dramatic. She is not that pretty but does have nice teeth. See I can be nice and honest. But here eyebrows are unbelievable. They are sooooo arched in the photo that it looks like she has a permanent expression of surprise. Maybe it comes from shacking up with Darth. Come to think of it, I used to maybe look that way too...lol...

Anyway, Darth calls back and then goes on about how he wants me dead. I am sick of it. I have had it. in email this am, he admits to driving by my home last night about nine pm and seeing if my lights were on. Then he says that he sees my vehicle and also has been recently monitoring my internet log ons. He's lost it and I don't think Ms. Family Values even knows that he is doing this.

So after my fit of anger and disgust, I finally realize that he has emotionally abused me for about four years now and I don't want any more. It is one thing to file for divorce under multiple grounds including cruel treatment but another thing to ask the court for help in keeping Darth away. So I call my attorneys who are ANGERED BEYOND BELIEF AT THE AUDACITY OF DARTH AND HIS EMAIL AND PHOTO ALONG WITH COMMENTS. They are now calling his attorney telling him that they are AMENDING THE PLEAS BEFORE THE COURT AND ARE ADDING ON AN EMERGENCY BASIS A RESTRAINING ORDER TO KEEP DARTH FROM FURTHER ABUSING ME.

There will never be another day ever again that Darth can do this. He even sent me an email earlier today to explain his behavior and when he sent me the email I sent him a reply stating I wanted nothing to do with him and no contact except for via email and about son only. Or about matters pertaining directly to son (his living in sin with another woman is pertaining to son's welfare while son visits darth for weekend visitation every other weekend btw.) I told him that only way I would ever respond to him is if he through a long period of time committed himself entirely to spiritual, lifestyle, and morality change. Same things I have always adhered to and hold myself to also. I asked nothing of him that I did not of my own self.

Here is what the foggy one wrote back: "you should take the time to read your old emails. Please stop waiting for me to change into something that you see fit. I am who I am and you should start accepting this. Work with me now and just forgive. Can you not forgive. It is the only way for you to truly move on. You can try to fool yourself and others, but the truth will always surface. Forgive me now, like I have you. That's right I had just as much adimosity towards you. Your actions were different, but they built hate in me. If you had just met me and we both faced the problems that we now face, how would you deal with them. It would be with reason and common sense. Why not do it now. Your hurting yourself, me and Michael David more than you will ever know. We should be at a rebuilding stage by now and your still throwing the past in my face every opportunity you get. Think about it and just try it please."

That was written just an hour and a half before he cussed me out and called me every name in the book.

He attempted to call back and apologize via voicemail. I got another call in and it was from a number I did not know. Him again. He said"I am sorry" I did not let him continue. Said "YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO SPEAK TO ME AGAIN AND YOUR ATTORNEY WILL BE CALLING YOU ABOUT THIS SHORTLY". Click.

I am done. Washed my hands of him. And if anyone wants to see the picture or email, you can privately email me so I can show you the real face of adultery and immorality.

He is getting more than he ever bargained for. He actually thought today that after all he has done, I would still listen to him and believe him and "leave out the attorneys" and work with him on mediation. When he did not get his way, he raged on and on. He is too volatile. And I should not have attempted to engage him and think subconsciously I wanted to vent but will no more and never again. I am going to get peace at any cost. I also told attorneys that others have achieved full custody for less negative behaviors and also reminded them of his email of this morning saying that :
"get a life. I was trying to be nice and pass something good on. If I was trying to do something mean, I would send a picture. (HE SENT A PICTURE) Look at the attach. I have a video cam if you prefer. Have a nice night and thanks for turning off Michael's light at 9pm. Does this mean that I shouldn't send you anymore forwarded emails or should I just send them seperately. Glad to see you have the Nav. back. What happened in this accident. Did another stop sign dissapear again?"

Reminded lawyers about the part regarding the videocamera and questioned what kind of sick sex crap was going on under that roof and in front of two very small children...Ages four and two. Oh and folks...I did not have an accident ok or I would have posted here to vent about it because that would be all I need now...

Think the video part gives unusual insight into their sick and demented life now.

Please pray for me. I feel sick. Am emotionally sick from dealing with this man for two years now knowing of his lies, and am never going to endure another barage of emotional abuse. Pray for my son. He is over at that maniac's home, and it doesn'tmatter if it is a mansion. Sick things go on there too. My precious boy is subjected to seeing his father shacking up with some strange woman who is NOTHING LIKE HIS MOTHER.

Funny, but Darth used to like blondes... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Forgot to add: in the photo they are at the Fox Theatre downtown. Very expensive to get tickets to anything there and must be tough since she DOESN'T WORK and he is a POOR MAN. And there are TWO KIDS TO PAY FOR. Geez.

BTW...His fashion sense has still been on the continuous downward spiral since leaving his family. No longer the polo wearing, kakhi pant, suit kinda guy, he has morphed into a Denny Terrio wannabe fresh from a stint on Disco Fever. In the photo he is wearing a bright blue shiny sort of checked wide collared shirt (which is open) and a black vest. Very John Travolta if you ask me..And she is wearing a low cut HOLOGRAPHIC PRINT DRESS. Not exactly fresh from the pages of In Style magazine. More like fresh from Pimpin' In Style.

They match. Same dark hair. Same wierd look, kinda glazed look outta their eyes. He is however, rather bug eyed at the camera. He definitely appears heavily under the influence of fog or something else. Didn't make me jealous. Made me laugh. I would hysterically laugh if a guy wore that and showed up at my door for a date. Maybe she's picking out HIS clothes now. But even when I was 25 I had taste. Too bad I temporarily lost my taste when I found Darth and fell for his sales pitch.

((((((((NotPeachy))))))))

Eyebrows - rotflmao

And in closing I'd like to add YOU GO GURL>>>>>

Hey Peach,

gott your message this morning. Just leaving work now. Will try to call you when I get home. I think we are 3 hours behind you.

Hope you are feeling better. Just read your posts and sorry to hear about Darth being well....darthy!?!?!?

Hugz to you and your baby,
L.

ps: Funny about the eyebrow thingy....send me the pix. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ok peachy,

you definitely gave me the laugh of the day with the eyebrow thing....you stand firm girl.

You are definitely right with the fog thing, they think they are living in another world. My poor daughter was sick last night and I was going to take her to the ER this morning due to back hurting and headache (??meningitis) well i gave her some tylenol and she was fine so she stayed with grandmother....the sad part is that my other daughter says, no mom take her to the hospital then daddy will snap out of it and come back home. My heart just sank, even my kids know that he is in a fog..... your Dartth sounds much like my H. as far as attitude wise, that I need to just forgive him and move on. I am raising our children by myself, he hasn't even asked to see his kids nor fights too, and sends me no child support....he just wants the last 15 years erased so he can go on with his life.....sometimes I want to just devote my life to making sure everyday of his is miserable but I am not that way I do have a heart.....I commend you to standing up to monkeyho....I just have the inlaws to try to get through and when I call and they hang up on me and I keep calling his sister gets on the phone and says "what is your problem b---ch. WHAT DO YOU THINK??????????? she says the kids are my problem now, deal with it......OOOHH I was livid.....well you hang in there.... stay strong and good luck

Hi Peachy, I am sorry you are going through this, I filed a restraining order for a similar thing, my ex threatening me and calling me names over the phone. I haven't heard from him for about 6 months now, its much more peacefull. Send me a pix please, I'd love to see it. My email opar0002@yahoo.com

Wow,

I never can understand men who curse out women. Even in my darkest hour when I new my wife is not coming back to me I never insulted nor showed her disrespect(even when she told me it is all my fault for this marriage ending). My thinking is even in the end go out with honor and respect and integrity, at least they can eventually look back and say he acted like a true man especially when they have relationship problems with the new guy(all relationsahips do).

Toyman

Okay, okay ... I have got to see these eyebrows. I was LMAO all the wayyyyyyy, Peachy!

Josie_res@hotmail.com

Jo

send that pic my way because you sure made me laugh tjhensley2@msn.com

You know Peach, I am a big Star Trek fan....do you think she could possibly be a Klingon??? They have a bushy eyebrow/cranial ridge thing going on...your stbxh is way beyond belief!!!

He has lost it completely!!

YOU have a WONDERFUL birthday...wish I could take you out for a glass of wine!! (or two...)

Ok ok ok. A little clarification. SHE DOES NOT HAVE A UNIBROW LIKE SADDAM DOES. However she does have an UNUSUALLY ARCHED EYEBROW that makes her look surprised all the time. And he looks like a wild maniac with the look in his eyes. I will email the pics along with a recent one of me having lunch with one of my girlfriends (guys, she's single and a model ok?). You can compare. But they look like a deranged brother and sister, as they kinda look alike, she and he.

Made it through the day laughing a bit. Someone told me a funny joke:

What does Saddam Hussein and my ex husband have in common?

They both take viagra, believe in polygamy and tyranny, and have trouble when THEY LAUNCH THEIR SCUD MISSILES.... he he he heheeeee! I am hilariously laughing. God I needed that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

And when you open your emails, ASK YOURSELF IF IT WAS JUST PEACHY THINKING THEY LOOK FOGGY OR DO THEY REALLY LOOK BOTH FOGGY AND DERANGED wearing his disco shirt and travolta vest and her hologram dress???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

My dear you do sound better. Now my little one is down with the flu so I will be spending my Fri night @ home!!!

Please include me on your pix list since I need a good laugh after the antics I dealt with this week. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Don't worry, all is still well in my house....people are 'still alive'. LOL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I like the Klingon title. Ever think of renaming her? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hugz,
L.

HI PEACHY!!
INCLUDE ME ON THE LIST TO SEE THE PICTURE!!! MADE ME LAUGH <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
YOU SOUND BETTER, HOPE THINGS ARE GOING BETTER FOR YOU.
becky
blwooff@charter.net

Hey Peachy! Next time that P.O.S. (no I'm not talking 'Point Of Sale' either) points his squiggley crookit finger at you, just remind him that every single thing he's screaming and raving about - when he points a finger at you, he's pointing THREE of his own fingers at himself... Just remind him of that - so he's THREE times worse than anything he IMAGINES about you...
Too bad he wasn't in Saddam's Bunker that first night...
Harold (Operation Desert Storm I Vet)

Peachy - I think I want to see her ugliness myself. Add me to the list. I'll come up with a new insult or two.

And come play in the kingdom sometime - you and anyone else who needs another frivolous way to spend some spare time.

cinderella4mb@yahoo.com

<small>[ March 28, 2003, 10:46 PM: Message edited by: cinderella ]</small>

Once again, clarification. She ISN'T ugly. And for her sake, I am glad she's not. But she is wearing a cheap looking dress and had her brows waxed a bit TOO much...No klingon fashion here. Jus a bit too much tanning and grooming. And the disco looks they are sporting just makes me remember a few weeks back when I drove to work humming "macho man" and blasting it on cd. Notebook guy: You found the lyrics and made me soooo laugh. Thanks for your support and I luv ya buddy.

Cindy: She is unfortunately not ugly. But a princess comes from the inside. Beauty comes first from within and next from the salon...hee hee hee. And you get your money back from the salon if they screw it up.

What I also want to know from you guys is does she look 25 (I think much older) and do I look 33?..Oops 34. I think I look actually younger than her. But that may just be me.

AND HE LAUGHS ABOUT HIS LYING, BEATING ME, AND ADULTERY. MAKES ME SOOOO SICK. I AM FORWARDING TO THE ATTORNEYS B/C OF THE SHOCK VALUE.

He clearly has no conscience or soul.BTW...Am copying and pasting.

Peachy:IYou'll appreciate this one and look no others included in the group. Hope it makes you smile after this afternoons mistake.

(He calls cussing me out and calling me a fat, ugly b,c,w,etc. over and over again a mistake. And I guess he is so hurt and broken with repentance...not in a million years.)


His Joke He sends Me:

A woman was leaving a 7-11 with her morning coffee when she noticed a most
unusual funeral procession approaching the nearby cemetery. A long, black
hearse was followed by a second long black hearse about 50 feet behind.
Behind the second hearse was a solitary woman walking a pit bull dog on a
leash. Behind her were 200 women walking single file.

The woman couldn't stand the curiosity. She respectfully approached the
woman walking the dog and said, "I am so sorry for your loss, and I know
now is a bad time to disturb you, but I've never seen a funeral like this.
Whose funeral is it?"

The woman replied, "Well that first hearse is for my husband."

"What happened to him?"

The woman replied, "My dog attacked and killed him."

She inquired further, "Well, who is in the second hearse?"

His mistress. She tried to help my husband when the dog turned on her."

A poignant and thoughtful moment of silence passes between the two women.

"Can I borrow the dog?"

"Get in line."
___________________________

Ok. Is this in poor taste to send to your wife whom you betrayed in the most horrible way? I do have a very big dog btw...But the dog unfortunately likes him. I am sick and hurt and the bad part is that he REALLY BELIEVES THAT THIS IS FUNNY AND THAT IT MAKES UP SOMEHOW IN HIS TWISTED MIND about the disrespectful outburst/cussing thing. Nope. He can't take it back anymore. No sir.

The Bottom Line Up Front (an old Army Term I learned in Leadership School) - DARTH SUCKS!
'nuff said.
Harold

Hey Peach,

Finally got see the pix and while she isn't a hideous thing, she definitely lost her status as a 'nice girl'. Why?

1. Beauty is skin deep and rottenness goes clear to the bones. Starts to show after a while.

2. Nice girls don't live in married men's homes.

3. She doesn't look 25, closer to mid 30s. So you gotta wonder what she will look like at 35.

4. 'em brows look painted, but that's her choice. Hair looks a bit processed (again JMHO).
U R right, she is not ugly.

5. He looks like Jethro. At least Jethro minded 'granny'. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

6. You and your GF look like U 2 are still in college. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Looks aren't everything but if we were just to go on that, IMHO U do look way better than OW2.

Peach, it is now your choice whether you want him as is back in your life. U have a young man who needs a good example to follow.

Beauty or the lack thereof on the surface is built mainly on what we see, but real beauty is seen on what we know.

Now as for his joke along with the pix, that was pretty low. So what we know is now affecting what we see (at least for me anyways - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ).

take care,
L.

Thanks Orchid..

I am home tonight nursing my flu. Was going out with the girls having a huge night. But I puked about thirty minutes ago when I was doing my hair.

Thanks alot. I appreciate your words. And today, one of my buddies who's a doctor told me he looked like Jethro too! I never saw that. Maybe I should change my nickname for him to "Double Naught Spy"...after Jethro's secret wish to be a secret agent and have alot of chicks.

And my friends are so nice here. I am soooo down. They were going to a very nice place where people our age go...Yuppie spot.

Gosh knows I deserve a night out too. It is my birthday. Feel like singing "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to". I am bumpy, red, and swollen (my face). I was gonna be a good sport about it and go but when I puked I stopped and called them. I feel rotten.

And I don't want Darth in my life anymore. He is gone way off the deep end.

So I feel yucky. And although I puked, I ordered a pizza so I can watch "Sum of All Fears" and drool over Ben Affleck.

I will call you later ok?

And Notebook Buddy: Thanks. You are toooo cool. I am surprised you didn't want me to send you Darth's pic too.

Oh, and he's sent me TWO MORE forwarded emails and I refuse to open them.