Please someone help./ My husband says he finds me beautiful. That he would pick me out a 100 women. However I want to believe his words, but his actions seem diffrent. He will look at pornography at women that are thin. He says I hurt him that alothough I will trust him not to physically cheat on me I do not believe him when he says I am beautiful because he looks at these images of other women. What can we do? I feel that his actions are not relating to what he is saying. Is it possible that he does believe I am the most beautiful thing to him even with him lokking at pornography?

My situation is similar. We're in marriage counseling because my husband neglected me sexually because of his addiction to pornography. We've been in counseling for about 8-ish months now, and although he swears he's given up the porn, he still doesn't seem sexually interested in me. We have our next counseling session tomorrow night, and I'm going to tell the counselor that we're not being helped.<P>My husband is a very good friend, but despite that I'm about ready to file for divorce because my sexual needs are not being met. I gained about 50 pounds with my pregnancy in 1999, and I believe this is a big issue with him, but he's too kind to say so even when I ask him. I think my weight makes me unattractive to him because he's so hung up on skinny porn chicks.<P>I hurt constantly... I'm emotionally drained and jealous all the time because he hardy lays a hand on me. When he does try to initiate sex, about once a month, his efforts are lackluster. He knows what turns me on, and knows what good foreplay is, but he doesn't make the effort to do anything he knows works.<P>I'm now so incredibly over-sensitive about female nudity on television and movies that I break down if I know he's taking pleasure in seeing an actresses breasts... I can hardly stand the thought of another woman turning him on. I almost become physically ill thinking about it. I feel cheated on, and I feel ugly.<P>I've never had these problems with any other man. My sex life was incredible before I got married, even with a boyfriend I knew darn well was cheating on me. I was never neglected, always pleased. <P>Now that I'm married and have a child I feel stuck and desperate. I want out of this marriage so I can be free to pursue a sexual relationship with someone else, but I stay for the benefit of our toddler son, and I stay because I'm not financially able to support myself. I will not leave this marriage unless I know my son will live with me, but I'm unable to support even just myself at this point.<P>I don't want to go through life feeling like some ugly, repulsive thing that my husband doesn't want sexually. He's a good man in other ways, and he assures me that I am indeed attractive, but actions speak louder than words. This man has problems, and it's killing me, killing my spirit. I don't know what to do.<P>Honeysongz

Well maybe this will help, I am a husband that enjoy porn also, My wife is the most beutiful woman in the world she also knows that I am attracted to her. I do not like skinny model types, she is a thick girl but that is what I like I have made no bones about why I find her attractive since before we began to date. Hope that helps<BR>