Hi
Dose any get support? My husband is trying to get me to agree to 400.00 a month. I'm not sure if I should. We earn about the same he earns about 2.00 hour more. That amount dosen't near cover expences. I 'm still trying to deal with the fact he left Thursday for the 3rd time to live with OW. This time they got ingaged 3 days later.

She is still married too. There so much to do. He took money from our account and stoped his deposit. Not sure what to pay. We can't seem to even talk with out a fight. He tells me he will aiways love me, but dosen't seem to want to give me money to take care of the kids.

Is any one going throught the same? Or have some advice. Would be very grateful.

Thanks, kathy

most states set support guide lines based on both your incomes, and most states allow for seperate child care , above child support, TAKe his $400.00 NOW, and in the mean time, check with the agency in your state that sets support guidelines, Since you have the kids your going to do better than he thinks,Its pretty clear he's gone, I'd file all the proper papers to get the state to order support and have it garnished from his wages, he's not going to do anything without big brother making him do it. good luck.

Fortyone is right, the state will decide how much he is to pay. Here in Ohio I know they take how much he makes and the number of kids on some grid and that is how much he is to pay. I would take what you can get now and see a lawyer. I think once you file you'll be able to draw child support(my next step is filing)
My stbxDH has never been financially supportive. I would be happy with $100 a week and extrememly happy with $200, but he wants to just give me this and that and I want something I can count on. I knew I'd have to get something in writing if I wanted anything. He flipped out when I mentioned child support. He said "You said you'd never do that to me.' I say 'I said I wouldnt take you to court for it, but I want it in writing that your going to give me X amount or I know I wont get it.' So he pretty much says he wants me to tell my lawyer to put $0 so he can give me whatever he wants. DONT THINK SO!!! This is the part where he accuses me of being 'money hungry'. Hello? I use mine on the kids, your pitching a fit because I'm asking you to do the same, who loves money more?

I know I could get more if I were to take him to court, but I dont want his damn money. I just want enough to keep my kids well fed and so I'm not down to pennies left in my checking after the bills are paid. I can do it without his money right now, $100 a month would be all I needed to keep me from fretting at the grocery.

The guidelines are set on your husbands income, and your income. And the amount of children that you have.

For taking the money now, without a retainer from the court, could get you in trouble. I would refrain from getting it now, only with the okay of your lawyer. That is what I had to do, get an okay from my lawyer, before the judgement was made. If I had waited, we would still be without.

My hsuband has agreed to pay the alimony and childsupport. He is not a deadbeat dad. He is selfish, and showing his selfishness in other ways.

There is a set amount, the only difference is if you have a disabled child. Then that is different. Cause you have childcare costs, which will be quite expensive. Cause at that point it is not right that one parent gets all the time to take care of the disabled child, and the other parent gets to run around. So there is compensation.

Thanks for every ones reply. I filled for support day after he left. The problem is that my mortage is more than I take home in a month. He keeps telling me all I want to do is suck him dry. I'm not asking anything for my self only the kids. He earns a little more than me. He has about 11,000 in charge debit.

I want to be fair.I'm feling very alone and scared. I wish this was over.

Thanks Kathy

Goddess, my x said the same thing..."I wish you hadn't drug this into the courts, wah, wah, wah." That was so he would never have to pay anything. File for support IMMEDIATELY. The court will decide how much he has to pay...there is a standard formula. It is based on his income after taxes, taxes only, and is a standard percentage based on number of children. I am in Texas and MY income had no part in it whatsoever. The fact that I make twice as much as him doesn't relieve him in any way of his responsibility to our daughter.

And Kathy, sweetie. SCREW FAIR! The court has already determined what is fair...let them do their job. I made the mistake of thinking my x would come thru when dd needed him. My bad. Now I no longer have to beg and whine or plead to get any money out of him...it's automatically deposited every two weeks. Life's not fair and we all know it. He has a responsibility to your kids...make him honor it.

Good that you filed for support. You deserve to have income coming in for your kids. After all, he created the children with you. Good luck Hon, it will get better. Some days are going to be really hard to deal with.

don't forget...you are NEVER alone...you have us!

Kathy, have you called support enforcement? When you divorce they have specific formulas to decide how much he MUST pay. Support enforcement will take it out of his paycheck. If you are trying to work this out with him, it doesn’t sound like he is going to be very helpful. If you are not yet divorced......call a lawyer NOW. Protect yourself and your kids ASAP.
Best of luck to you, Ed