Hello fellow MBers...

I am WH and I haven't posted since mid Jan '03 as I made a committment to all of you and my W that I was finished with MB based on some unpleasant events that transpired here (please read past posts to catch up, if you desire).

Anyway, here goes my story as it has unfolded over the past several months...

my W and I have been in "no contact" per her request since Jan only for me to contact her via phone (end of March) to find out where she was at with filing for dv and applying for our home in her name, alone (we miscommunicated the fact that she was waiting for my SA confession letter for her to file on grounds of infidelity and once received she would file app. with the bank as well). She has what she needs to file for both now only she stated in an email me to that again she no longer wants to be in contact with me and further stated that she was going to file dv and with bank (that was mid March). To date I haven't heard antyhing from courts and/or bank.
She did state that "if I don't hear antything in an acceptable time frame, that I can take the necessary steps to do what I need to do".

Question: IYMHO's what is an acceptable time frame to wait and if/when that time elapses without any action taken on W's behalf (proof via certified mail), what action should I take?

Fianlly, I had a female companion for about 1 month (only to have dissolved that realtionship as I realized I was not ready to date. This OW understands and there are no hard feelings). I realize that I must continue on the road of recovery and fellowship with the Lord for now!

I would greatly appreciate any feedback you can provide...I'm pretty thick skinned!

In Christ
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by catch22222:
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<><</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If in Christ you are, then with Christ shall you wait, forsaking all others.

I'm not here to throw any rocks because your trangressions are between you and the Lord. But you came here seeking advise and I'm not sure that I know what the question is.

Are you thinking of filing if she doesn't?

Thanks for the reply LH-

I will NOT file for dv...I was wondering if I should break "no contact" with W after several weeks to find out what she is doing with dv?!

I broke away from OW for many reasons: realizing I still love my W and I'm still married, played the biggest part! This OW and I were friends and she expressed a desire to move ahead...Again, I still love my W and need to work through those feelings first before I move forward!

I must do things according to God's will! I'm striving for the patience of Job...I would much rather have her call me and tell me she wants to work on the marriage!! Whatever God's will is for our marriage I am willing to accept, but I will NOT file for dv!

In Christ,
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