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My exH refuses to have supervised visits, and so hasn't seen his children since October. Last week I received a letter from his attorney saying that he has presents for the kids, but didn't know how to get them to them. (Hello? He knows our church, pastor, friends....and it's April...)
I called the attorney and said to have exH leave the presents at his office, I'd pick them up. Today the attorney called and I went to get the gifts....it took the secretary and I each 3 trips to carry the huge pile.
So...he doesn't pay child support cuz he's not working, he won't see the kids......and he gives them hundreds of dollars in gifts. 3 months late.
What's going on here?
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The short answer, Anna??
He's nuts. Stop trying to make sense out of a person and situation that are irrational. He just IS what he IS, and it makes no sense, and it never will.
I say take the presents and let the kids have fun. I know he's not paying child support, so it irks you to see hundreds of dollars of presents, when you could use the money to feed and clothe them, but oh well. It is what it is.
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Perhaps you should get out some Christmas lights when you have the children open them.
You can't make sense of his actions, but you can help your children deal with the situation. Children enjoy gifts, whoever the sender.
You could always open a few of them and reserve these for the children's birthday or next Christmas. Just a thought.
Good luck.
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It's called being a brat. He can't have what he wants so he's going to punish your kids. What a bozo.
Newly is right...kids will take presents any day!
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Why don't you decorate a plant you have in your house with x-mas lights, just a few. Hang bulbs on it, and make some christmas cookies. Then make a nice dinner, and say, after our belated christmas dinner, we can have cookies, and play christmas music, while we open gifts from dad.
I would take some of the gifts and save them for later times. What about saving one gift apiece for easter? And one gift apiece for their birthday. And how about, saving a gift for each of the kids when they go back to school. There are neat fun days, to have a gift for the kids, and if he got that many gifts, to open all at one time, is overwhelming.
The wayward spouse, and his actions. So true, so unreal, so unpredictable.
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So, oldest son got a guitar....he says "oh, dad always wanted me to have a guitar". But he has no interest. Daughter gets a microscope. She has no interest in science; likes to write and draw pictures and wants to learn piano. So, they traded presents. And younger son got a remote control car that needs 10 AA batteries....like I can afford those!
Next question: Do you think the kids should send thank you cards???
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