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Yes, believe it or not, I found that it is possible to be able to enjoy a guy's company again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I met him through the church I been attending. We have been on a few dates, and so far so good. He is a real gentleman, the kind that opens doors for you, or pulls out your chair. He is kind, funny and very, very considerate (and a million other things my X was not, but it is still early days....). He and I share very similar backgrounds and experiences in our marriages, and we find we have been able to find some happiness together. He likes the same things I do, in socialising, music, movies, cookies, lol and recreation. He HATES beer....almost a crime in Australia, lol, and he is a very good Christian. I am amazed to find that he is currently meeting all of my emotional needs BEFORE I can tell him what the heck they are! I am astounded. Yes, as I said above, it is early days, and I am not silly enough to be wary and am not looking through rose coloured glasses, but so far, so good. The weird thing is that this crept up on me....I was NOT looking, I swear. In fact, a week before this happened, I was asked to go to a singles night, and I just wasn't interested....I really didn't feel the need for a relationship, but I was feeling very content with myself, and getting on with my life....and BOOM! There he was. My girlfriend, who is actively looking for a partner, just cannot understand it. So, he is nice enough and decent enough that I think he will be around for a while. So he needs a nickname on this board. I have chosen, The Tall One, cos he is over 6 feet tall. I am 5 feet tall....Anna....lol I read your thread on EN's, so we could all make a funny foursome, eh? Anyone bursts my balloon, and I will throttle them! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Love and light, Jacky (also known now as The Short One) <small>[ April 15, 2003, 11:01 AM: Message edited by: Nina too ]</small>
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My sweet little Nina is growing up. That is so kewl and I'm so glad to see the enthusiasm in your words.
Now you know me, so I must say, TAKE IT SLOW and I know you will.
Hugs, Thoughts, & Prayers
Billy
PS... I'm so far removed from the dating scene, I may have to ask you for some advice.
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Jacky!
I am so thrilled for you! Isn't it wonderful to have your faith in men restored??
Yahoo!
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Thanks guys!
Bill, I am taking it slowly as I can, rest assured. This man is a good man....and I do not want it ruined by impulsive behaviour.
Frankly.....well actually I had faith that there were good men out there.....look at Bill, Andy, And the many others here. But for me to actually FIND one? WOW!
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I am wayyyyy happy for you and would never want to burst your balloon, Jacky.
You deserve every happiness, all of it! Enjoy your life ... enjoy feeling cherished and respected and loved. And enjoy feeling JOY!
Love,
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Way to go Jacky,
Good luck sweety, there are some good men out there! Now find me one LOL.....
I'm very happy for ya...
Love ya
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give me a g, J
give me an o, O
drummmmmmm roolllllllll
give me a j, J
give me an a, A
give me a c, C
give me a k, K
give me a y, Y
GGOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO JACKY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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YOU GO GIRL!!! i'm happy for you sis... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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Balloons flying high! No need to worry about anybody busting these balloons! They were made for you and God bless the two of you.
Sorry, I tried to make balloons, drew the picture with letters, but they all smashed up against the left when I posted. Learned something new today, can't draw with letters on the computer. I used to do this on the OLD typewriter. They were really cool, had tails on them and flying high. Just for you.
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Way to go! I am so happy. Made my day.
You deserve every ounce of happiness in the world. And when and if you choose to remarry one day, you shall be the one with the children wearing the pretty dresses and ribbons in their hair. Not the other way as your xh and his clacky one thought it would be.
Now is time to smile and breathe. You've made it through and there is sun shining again. But it was already shining there for you and the kids regardless of having anyone there because YOU DID IT YOURSELF. And the tall one is just an enhancement to your already beautiful self and beautiful family.
I can't express how much joy I wish you. Just remember, it will take an incredible man to deserve you ok? Good to be cautious but remember, like my counselor told me, "there's not that many men out there that will be capable to doing that kinda bad stuff again. Look for the good and look at their heart and faith. Choose by that."
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And weren't you just telling someone recently not to date so soon???? I know I know...it's when YOUR not looking is when you meet someone... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Thanks everyone!!! Thornedrose, for me this whole process is going on three years now, so even though the divorce was final only in January, I think for me I have been away from him for long enough. Thanks for all the lovely wishes and balloons, too! I am feeling pretty good about myself. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And as per Harley recommends, don't date until you are divorced for a year.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm just quoting you!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Very glad to hear the good news! Best of luck in the development. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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The weird thing is that this crept up on me....I was NOT looking, I swear. In fact, a week before this happened, I was asked to go to a singles night, and I just wasn't interested....I really didn't feel the need for a relationship, but I was feeling very content with myself, and getting on with my life....and BOOM! There he was.
Welcome to the "sisterhood"! IT does happen when we regain "who we are"!
You are "there"! Just when you least expect it, you draw someone compatable because you have learned and content with who you are!
I AM so very HAPPY for you!
(and myself, this didn't come without pain and loss)
Gayle
P.S. Whooooo Hooooooo!!! I'm so happy for you!!!
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Jacky,
I know---I was just kidding..
I'm really happy for you...I know what it's like to spend time w/ someone who really wants to spend time w/ you...it's a great feeling..
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Good Luck Jacky..... and remember, all men start off nice.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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No red flags yet....and the kids like him!
I decided to tell them I was dating, because I just could not bring myself to sneak around, especially when I have them full time. It isn't as if I get a free weekend every two weeks. Also, my S is very astute....you just cannot hide anything from him, lol.
So yesterday I told him, expecting a lot of resistance, since he is so against his dad having a girlfriend. But my sweet guy looked at me and smiled and said "Mum, if it makes you happy, then it is great...and at least you waited till AFTER the divorce to date." I told the girls and they both said hooray so I feel good about how they are with it.
X knows already, cos he called last night and they told him. He is probably relieved or something, because he thinks I am out to get him (because he got supoened for court...has to disclose records) and he may think I won't pursue that now. He can think again. Anyway, I do not really care what he thinks...he has his life and I have mine.
GSN, I know they all start off nice...I am not wearing rose coloured glasses. But what I am doing is listening very closely to what he says when he talks about his past, how he talks of his boys, I ask him sticky questions and he answers every one. And what I see so far is reassuring, but I am not letting my guard down just yet, lol.
Still, it is a scary experience when I once thought I would never want to be dating again. So I am just taking it quietly.
Love and light,
Jacky
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Jacky: Too cool! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> ...except for the part about beer! ...oh well, more for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ♥Qfwfq
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Hi Jackie! What can I say... other than, "You go girl!"
I'm happy that you're moving on with life and that the Lord is putting this man in your life. May your future be blessed, happy, and filled with peace & love.
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Jacky, What do you mean your dating and your happy? It's too soon to be dating and it's way to soon to be happy!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Just kidding! hehe...no balloon popping here, only a little polking the balloons to rib ya. I am so very happy for you! ANNA
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