He's done it again. Jethro has done it again. This time, today after receiving the SECOND papers telling him he has to be in court for contempt hearing he calls my attorney to talk to her. He gets irate. Tells her he has no money again (?) and she says "well you're gonna have a yard sale then Mr. Jethro." He realizes that he's going to jail in a few short days (nine to be exact) and he doesn't like it. He is not getting his way. So...when getting off phone with my attorney says "you better be careful...things like that can happen." He never said what things and never said why she should be careful. She took it as implied threat to do bodily harm. I probably would take it the same way.

So she immediately files w/court for an emergency restraining order and while they are in there, getting the judge to hear the contempt order as well since he is in violation of the order of earlier this month. This time judge will hear of his new vegas spending, paying for some mystery woman's apartment and misc. expenses and paying one half of someone's back child support. The mystery woman has a call block thing on her phone and will not accept calls from certain numbers. Hmmmm. But the judge will hear it all tomorrow. I am not required to attend tomorrow because enough has been done already.

He thought he had nine days, he has one day. And he will go to jail. It is amazing...Truly amazing his behavior. And then he calls me (he has son home from school on a school day. Son is not sick and he just felt like keeping son home from preschool. Because HE felt like it.) My attorney said btw to speak to him today b/c he has my son and did not do the school drop off thing and I have to get son home before tomorrow asap. Says I have to talk to him. He calls and I answer. Very businesslike from my end. He says my attorney has "lost it" and is filing these wacked out charges against him. I asked Jethro "What did you do?" "He says that she thinks I threatened her." I said "where is my son and when is he coming home?" He says he will bring him home to me before dark. I will have neighbors alerted and be outside when he comes home for my safety. He says that he can't pay me and that I am just jealous that he was with someone else's child on saturday. Yea right. Never mind that it was in God's house with another woman's, mistress nonetheless, and had other parents ask me about this child and it was embarassing and degrading.

I firmly tell him "well you should stop gambling". He says "I QUIT A WHILE BACK." Lie. I say to him "I don't think so." and I end with "You have a serious problem Jethro. Get some help please. We have prayed for you for quite some time."

So this time tomorrow, Jethro may be in jail. He tried in vain to explain it all to me. He lied to me for the last two years. And it is legally documented he lied about finances for the last eight months.

I will be takikng every precaution imaginable for the time that son comes home.

He has no recourse right now. He has been found out. Another woman, a lawyer nonetheless, has discovered his abusive ways as I did. He is trying to lie to get out of it . He called my attorney later and said to her that she was "mistaken" that he said anything to be taken as a threat. That she was hysterical. Funny, he used to say that I was hysterical and crazy when I would react to the various stunts he's pulled over the last three years.

He is winding down and the bottom is closing in on him fast. Give em enough rope and they will hang themselves.

Just pray son and I are safe and that he will think twice before ever entering this home or barging into this home ever again. He is a chronic liar and gambler and cheater and possibly addicted as well. Tomorrow the world will hear again of his thousands spent partying, on other women, on other children, on gambling and how this man threatened another woman.

If he does one thing, he will be in jail tonight. I am going to be outside "planting" a new pot of flowers and have neighbors outside and will have both my cell phone and cordless with me also. It will be very hard for him to get me alone to do anything to me. He is scared to do anything in plain sight. If he does, I will have 911 on speed dial.

I cannot believe what has happened. But now it seems his arguement that I was "crazy" or whatever is not at all valid in any way. Only people believing his lies are those enabling him now. And that is probably his parents, business partner, Ms. Family Values and Monkeyho. The rest of the world has gotten his number.

This is worse than I ever imagined. But only good is that son will be with me now. Custody is going to be with me 100 percent and not joing with me primary as it is now. This is how it should have been from the beginning but he thought if he had more money than me, he could bury me in a pile of lies.

The WS will hit the floor soon. You can only live wrong for so long. And if the glove fits, you CANNOT acquit. (Reverse Johnny Cochran logic here.)

Pray for us ok? I am being smart and will not let him into my home or near my door and am taking this bullsh$tter by his horns today.

Good for you Peachy!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Your strength inspires me more than you could ever know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I sure do hope he does land his a$$ in jail tomorrow. And you know what? If he does, you will have the MOST PEACEFUL and RESTFUL SLEEP than you've had in YEARS!!! (I speak from experience, from when my H spent one night in jail after his arrest from the child porn possession, after I had turned in the cd's to the police).

Let us know how things go tonight when your son gets brought home. I think you are exceptionally WISE to ask your neighbours to be around at that time. Good for you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

And DEFINITELY let us know the outcome of tomorrow's court time.

Karen

Yes Peachy, please be careful and let us know how everything goes. With your WH acting the way he does, I'm concerned for you and your son!

Peach,

Hopin' your little one is @ home w/U. I will call you when I get home.

hugz,
L.

Jethro IM'd me a bit ago and insulted my father (dead for three years and always a gentleman) and basically I think has confirmed he's going to jail. He thinks it. He signed off the IM (which I copied) and said that I was a cruel person and that he had to go and make love to his girlfriend. Oh the judge will love that one.

He has lost it. Lost it all. He claims in IM that he will make son dislike me someday when he finds out that "mom" had dad put in jail wrongly. Wrongly? this man also says in IM that he made over 500k last year. Twice the amount he admits to earlier. And says he made mistakes. And says he squandered it. And says more.

He even says that he didn't think I was a lesbian? Lesbian? I am just celibate. And very feminine and believe it or not, look really forward to the day I get it on again. Hetersexual that is. He has totally lost it. I just copied it and am faxing it to the attorney in the morning.

He better enjoy his sex tonight with his mistress because as of tomorrow afternoon, he will be needing soap on a rope. Oh the inmates are gonna love this guy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

And then he goes on and on and I just respond with really nothing. But I got some good stuff from it.

He is sick, sick sick.

Jethro is claiming he is going to jail "on principal". What principal?

I have ended all contact again. He dropped off son at 8 pm and I was outside as promised. Neighbors outside also. All in yard next door. And I let son in door and said nothing.

He'd better love that last conjugal visit. Ha ha. Hope Ms. Family Values has enough $$$ to bail him out. She's gonna need it.

And I found out he's transferred the name of the home here (really expensive one) to his parents. Am I going to have to sue his parents now? That was marital property and half of the equity is mine. Over 100 grand in equity. This also confirmed today via Jethro's three page manifesto he sent to the judge and my attorneys.

He is convinced and tried to convince me in IM that my attorney is lying to me and only cares about making money and charging by the hour. He tried to tell me that I "can't trust her". This is coming from the man who has betrayed me 10000%. I couldn't believ what I saw. He is losing and not getting his way. And he doesn't like it. He says that I am very non Christian like and very judgemental. I only said that I didn't want strange woman or live ins spending the night in front of our son. And that I practice what I preach.
He ends by saying I will end up as a spinster before h e signs off saying he was going to go and do the dirty deed.

Ah. The humility of Jethro is amazing. And my attorney said he will only hang himself and that I was only after dropping off son to have internet contact with him as it is printable and available to email.

He is lying lying lying. And he is stealing too. My God, even the Outlaws are squandering assets now. No wonder they are enabling. They have control of my old home now. They are controlling his assets. Maybe it is time the judicial system had them come and bail out their son who has had severe issues with gambling, extramarital affairs, violence, and goes to extremes when it comes to alcohol and partying also. He is almost 35 and acts like he's a 20 year old billionaire. His parents need to put him in some kind of rehab or something. Hell, what am I saying? They need therapy and maybe rehab too.

I never believed they'd steal from me. Steal property and try to steal money that is to be used for my son and I to start over.

The only thing that hurts is that he said I was a leech. Our son and I need that money to pay off the debt he's left me with. To start over. I only want it for that reason.

There can be no words to describe my pain over this. It is basically indescribable and more than awful. Son came home and said Ms. Family Values took him with dad to get his hair cut and that FV's son was visiting his daddy and that she spent the night and that he saw her this morning at breakfast. I hurt for my son's confusion right now. I hurt for the shambles of our lives. I hurt because his father didn't do the right thing and is going to jail. But those were his choices. Those were his decisions.

And I have stood on my faith. I have stood by my son. And I have stood for my family. I will walk through fire for my boy. Nothing will change this ever. Nothing.

Pray hard. Pray hard for us tonight. Pray hard for Jethro. Pray that he will become a broken man in jail. That God can speak to him may be there.

PEACHY~
THINKING AND PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR LITTLE ONE TONIGHT. SOUNDS LIKE HE HAS WENT OFF THE DEEP END!!
JUST BE CAREFUL, AND LOOK AFTER YOUR SELF. NEVER KNOW WHAT HE IS CAPABLE OF, IN HIS FRAME OF MIND.
HUGZ,
BECKY

<truly shocked and utterly speechless>

That is the most amazing thing I have ever heard. He won't be in jail very long. If that happened to my stbxWW, I think I'd just start laughing and laughing. I'm surprised J was talking with your lawyer at all. Mine refused to accept calls from my wife.

wtg girl. wtg! Bravo! You outlasted his tantrums... so far. Now, you just need to be safe. I'll be praying for you.

Peachy, I pray for you almost every day.

I think this man deserves that new suit of clothes. The orange clothes. I hope he looks good in orange.

But why, oh why, do you deal with this man on IM? Block it. Change your name there. Only deal with him on e-mail.

Thanks. Thanks for prayers too. I had an almost sleepless night.

I am going to look lovely for work (lol). But again he is blaming ME for putting HIM in jail. Nevermind his threats, or his tantrums, or his wild spending or his sheer refusal to do the right thing. And now I am perplexed as what to do with the outlaws? Do I sue them now? I will have to ask attorneys.

Oh well. Either outlaws will bail him out or the gf will.

And he's the victim of a horribly money grubbing soon to be x wife. Geez.

Do the math. If a guy makes a hal million a year and gets by with paying only 4400 a month total support to his family isn't that wrong? I mean there's a reason he refused to turn over records last year. HE WAS LYING. He told attorneys he made and I quote "over 240k". So our numbers were based on quite a bit less. HALF LESS THAN WHAT HE MADE.

I am supposed to feel sorry for him. Nope. I don't. I feel bad that his parents will not allow him to hit bottom. And do't get me wrong, they aren't rich people. They are as some would say, ncuevo riche with a huge touch of hillbilly/cajun in them.

I am faxing to attorney this am his IM. Attorney said to let him hang himself right now. And he did for sure. He said he made more than I ever thought he did and then he admits to getting ready to commit adultery right there on paper. It was so shameful.

But as for me, what's one more time for his fornication anyway? He has given over to a depraved mind and spirit right now and that doesn't matter to me one little bit.

I do hope they provide the inmates in GA with soap on a rope upon their arrivals...

And I am not communicating with him any more. And Jethro, get this...Had enough audacity to say that my attorney "was preventing ME from settling because she didn't want me to sit down alone with him to work this out." Geez I wonder why? He is a liar and a cheat and he has bullied me for years. He hasn't been forthright in one tiny way. Even lying about his income and his finances. Maybe his business is hurting now. Oh well. As the attorney said and the judge probably will today "let's have a yard sale.

And I hope that somehow this situation with the outlaws will also get heard today as they've attempted to seize the family castle and claim it as their own residence legally now to avoid their son from losing it in court proceedings. I personally think such enablers look good in orange as well. Now they've crossed the line from enablers to criminals in my book.

You are much on my mind and in my prayers as you deal with all of this. Continue to be wise and very cautious. No telling what he may try next. He sounds pretty desperate and angry, because no one will play his game. I can't believe he thought he could deal with YOUR attorney in such a manner.

I'll be interested to hear what happens in court today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Nothing like dealing with a Narcissist.
I know what it's like. Their behavior is so hard to believe. I felt like I was the crazy one for years. Now, his actions are out in the open for all the world to see.
I like the comment about the soap-on-a-rope. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Your son will know the difference. He will know because he will know you.
Stay strong. I'll pray for you.

Aly

Dear Peach,

Know you are going through a lot today.....

Hugz from our family to yours.

L.

Peachy,
Kind of an echo to what Orchid said...I was thinking of you today, wanted you to know you're in my prayers. I am sure you'll have something to post later this afternoon about what transpired.

Hey peachy,

Just dropping in to let you know that I'm praying for you today. I know you don't have to "be there" for a restaining order/contempt of court hearing, but it's still VERY stressful for you. Even if you are completely detached from Jethro and his out-of-control behavior, it is still sad to see them spiral downward, isn't it? It's sad and hard to detach and watch them act out and act out until they hit bottom, and sometimes that bottom is SOOOO FAR DOWN!

One thing that was told to me that was REALLY an eye-opener was that I kept expecting/hoping for my stbxH to act like an appropriate, loving husband and father...and then I'd be dashed and hurt when he didn't. Guess what?? In reality, his actions were actually quite consistent--I just didn't want to see it! His ACTIONS said, "I don't want to work on this marriage. You are not important to me. The kids are not important to me. I don't care if I hurt you or them--because I'm going to do what I want."

Peachy, stop expecting your stbxH to be a boy scout. He just ISN'T--and he never will be. He is a selfish, controlling, manipulative, addicted, sick man. His actions have actually been quite consistent. His ACTIONS have said, "I do not want this marriage or family anymore. I do not care if I hurt you or our son. You are not important to me and neither is he. I don't care if you are provided for or not, because I want to do what *I* WANT TO DO." When you stop expecting him to care if you and your son are taken care of, you will feel a little more serenity because he just does not care.

Personally, I have stopped trying to convince my stbxH that it is inappropriate to walk away from his kids and not contribute to them. Like Jethro, he just says I want his money. Nope--I just want to be sure that our CHILDREN benefit from his 90 hour weeks at work! He does not listen to me, so I just let the courts tell him...and the judges tell him. Then when he calls me names and accuses me of being a gold-digger I just say, "That is not me. That is society telling you what is appropriate and acceptable, and you can either do what the judge says or go to jail...AND THAT'S NOT ME EITHER."

They don't get it! Don't worry--they never will. You know, you might want to look on this link: Resources for dealing with Borderline Personality DisorderI'm not a degreed professional or anything, but it sure sounds to me as if your stbxH might be Borderline.

Well, take care, sweety. You're in our prayers!

CJ

{{{{Peachy}}}}

Hang tight, kiddo! Let him go to jail and hope the outlaws get there, too.

Isn't it interesting that they leave, refuse to pay the required child support and when we bring it to their attention we become leeches?

Hope things get better and you get some peace once he is put away, even if it is for a brief time until someone bails him out.

Lori

Peachy,

God is working beautifully through you and you have been so courageously faithful.

Your very wise to get your protection plan for safety in place.

Might be a nice idea to have several friends drop in this evening for tea, prayer and support. Should mention not to cause undue fear, but when we were at the height of his adverserial combating (his homicial thoughts were consuming him, ran out of money for MONKEHO/KIDS, he did hit money/greed bottom depression.)

Well let's say my friends unknowingly saved my children/myself life. It seemed his next angle being so deseperate for money was insurance in our house. Should there be an unexplained accident in our home.

Despite his sick mind, GOD overruled, intervened and sent my friends over at the right time, in the nick of time, and unexpectdly caught him during a mysterious, suspicous act.

Seems Jethro, is in quite a severe form of manic depression. Noticing from your posts the progression of his depression spiraling downwards very quickly. Super EGO mania-has been running rampant for some time, deep shame/depression is at the fore front here.

Appears that he is need of forsenic's psych assessement&invetervention to look at his character pathology, type,depth and severity of his depression here/anti social behaviors.

Oh my gosh, I can't believe it just as I am writing to you, my STBX suddenly calls here. My heart just about jumped out of my chest. Well I must of really hit a truth cord, anyways these men are so sick.

Good thing I am in composure mode and quickly got the children to talk to him. All I could say is hello and one moment please. Here we are discussing the picture uglier picture.

I am not speaking to him at all he has pulled the similar Jethro tactics, bought a condo as investment with 3 supposed mysterious partners with his name only on the mortage title.

He has threatned to do me harm break my door down etc. Upon my finding out my attorney has him in the stage of having to prove all his assests. I am doing all I can not to feed his ego craving for high sensational drama and turn down as much volume here.

It's like trying to slowly dewire a time bomb here one wire at a time. Oh course I have been sweating but not showing any fear.

With fear based controllers when they know they are losing control they "tighten their grip", choke on the club. So I am trying to stay loose as golf club as he swings us our lives, children insanely off the fairway course of life.

He quikly sold the condo property, mysterious checks made out..with other woman. We don't know who?? His sudden departure to Europe. Half those proceeds of the condo proceeds do too, belong to me under marital assests. He has to provide proof of who those checks he supposably split the profits with one being to a mysterious woman. Interesting our situations run so pararell and am staying real quiet.

With his prior violence history towards you? Why is having your son alone? Threats to your attorney?

I hope the judge is mindful today to see the seriousness you/your son are not safe around him or with him, and orders a pyschological assesment.

Were thick in battle now and let us all PRAY for their deliverance and need for help!

Thanks Mayflower. I am sorry for your problems, wich are almost mirror ones to mine.

Wierd stuff with checks going on too. And with the property also as he has said he's signed over the house (marital asset) over to the outlaws. The attorneys will handle that next.

Today the restraining order was placed against Jethro because my attorney, an officer of the court, believed him to have threatened her with bodily harm. He certainly did incenuate it. The judge however couldn't hear the contempt motion. That is to happen on the thirtieth of this month. So he is a free man tonight. No rock bottom as of yet. He is flying high and not yet wearin the orange.

At approximately four fifteen p.m., I see where he calls my cell. That was definitely the signal to me that he was still free. After all, he sure wouldn't waste his one phone call to me. But the judge warned him and is basically so sick and tired of his antics by now as per attorney. She said he spoke to him sternly and said that "some domestic cases fly outta hand. I don't want to see that happen here yoo understand?" The judge now is fully aware of his behavior. I am going to work on getting child custody arranged differently hopefully. It is hard to get custody taken away. Although we are going to show his non payment, propensity for violent behavior and his abuse of me. But the abuse of the child is what the court is concerned with. However, what the law defines as child abuse and what I define as child abuse are totally different.

In my opinion, I think child abuse happens when a child sees his mom pushed down onto a tile floor. When a child wakes up in the morning and sees a strange adult in his home. Sees a parent spending the night with someone other than his other parent. Those to me are also just different ways yiu can hurt a child. Other than the kind of hurts that leave bruising or marks. They leave emotional marks.

And just a while ago, Jethro attempts to IM me. He has a new spin on things now. That my ATTORNEY IS IRRATIONAL. That she CAN'T BE DEALT WITH THUS WE CANNOT PROCEED TO MEDIATION AGAIN. He IM'd me and said he wants mediation. Pressed me for telling him whether I wanted a trial or mediation. I said that depends on if he provides the additional financial disclosures to us. About the total assets and bank accounts. I don't believe he will so basically it is more logical trial should be done here. But I didn't tell Jethro that.

And get this one. He says then that he saw me and one of my "friends" (way he worded it I am led to believe it is a guy?) in a park near our old subdivison. I said nope. Wasn't me. He said it looked just like me and that the girl looked cute. I said again nope. Not me. I said I was with our son this entire afternoon after work..(Son and I went for a picnic beside his school at a playground. Got some fried chicken, potatoe salad, and beans and some drinks and we had a blast and then played on the gyms there.) He then says that he didn't know I had changed that much and alluded that the "friend" he saw my lookalike with was a female. Alludes to a little interaction between two girls if you get my drift. I say that nope, definitely not me and that I am the same woman with the same wants and needs as before.

So here is sicko Jethro. Spying on women in a public park and thinking the worst. And the worst yet is he thought one of them was me. Well maybe in a sick little fantasy of his. But that's it. I think personally he's been watching the Playboy channel too much. Told him two years ago to have that garbage disconnected from the satellite package.

So he thinks he can negotiate with me. Get me back to dealing with him. He then tells me in IM that I will do fine after he pays off the debts. And that I will have to "just pare back a little" and I should be fine. This is coming from a younger version of Hugh Heffner folks. I am to live a "pared down" existence while he eats caviar, jets the globe and chases skirts. I am to stay home when not working and care full time for our son and live as a nun. Or as Jethro fantasizes, just give up on men..ha ha.

I think the truly hilarious part here is that Jethro must actually think he's that handsome/good in the physical sense that he would make me miss him so much I could swear off of men forever. What a crock. If he only knew that I will probably have a date within a month or two. With a guy. This is hilarious. Maybe Ms. Family Values is getting into some different kinda action with him...Who knows. And I don't care.

It is funny. But after last night, I don't hurt anymore about his comment about "going to go have sex with his gf". I think God's almost healed me to become numb to any more betrayals. They cannot get much bigger. I've faced the worst. Only one left is that if here is another child with another woman. But not as of yet.

So Jethro is working overtime to try to schedule a mediation with me before the 30th so he doesn't go to jail. Ha ha. I feel almost delirious now. And exhausted. I went jogging before I picked up son at the greenbelt a half mile from his school. Five miles of trails. Put on my headset and listened to more Linkin Park. Good therapy. And then went to grocery around corner and picked up picnic stuff and then got son and went to playground. It was a very nice afternoon. He ate well and we had a blast. I think my son and I, weather permitting of course, should make this a weekly date.

He is so cute. I am blessed he is in my life no matter how he entered this world. His little kind heart is such a blessing to me. And I thank you. This is far from over folks. He hasn't hit rock botom yet. Jethro has bounced again. He's back in the saddle again. But he got another slap from the judge though. I am not giving up. Pray for us. We hve so many bills due on the 30th and we really need the back money the court awarded us to get by. Please pray that we are given that amount. I am more concerned with our fiancial survival right now than seeing Jethro in orange. My son and our needs are primary over any possible negative feeling or for justice right now. However, in the end I know that justice will be granted to my son and I and that the legal record will reflect truthfully all he and I have endured at the ahnd of my stbxh.

God will give us justice yet.

Peach,

Headin' home now and will call in about 1 hour.

Just a quick ??? Why isn't Mx FV not keeping him busy enough? How come he has sooo much time to harass U? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

take care & be safe.

L.

<small>[ April 22, 2003, 07:55 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

You know peachy,
That man is a real piece of work! It just goes to show his maturity level that when he can't think of anything else to do ... he desides the best way to get you back is to make up stupid things that he well knows are not ture to try to slander you. You are holding up wonderfully, just remember to keep doing as you are doing. It's evidently driving him insane that you are so heads and tails out- classing him and his consorts!

Peachy,

Mirror, mirror same problems on the wall, the bigger these two think they are, the greater thier fall.

Jethro' "Jericho" walls will tumble soon enough though we don't know the exact hour, or moment.

With the checks issues and such makes me wonder if Jethro and STBX are watching the same playboy movies. LOL--They must be!!! Their scripts are so identical unorginal. I feel the antics my STBX are from a collection bunch of clips re-runs.

Wonder if Jethro/STBX has been watching to many King Kong re-runs as the each of them has thier money order monkey ho's that glow in the dark. Goes to show garbage in and garbage out from these guys.

I am sure we could find what they will be doing next from the local video store. Sad to say this if this is what they have to do create excitement in their very boring lives and to feel like a man.