I have been married for 2 years (living together for 6 years) and am finding myself longing for other guys. Not in a sexual way either...I want to date! I have been with this man since I was 18 and never dated before him. I love him, but I'm not sure I love him they way he should be. All I keep thinking about are these guys I have been attracted to and want to go out with.
What is going on with me??? Why would I be feeling this way if I truly loved my husband?
Are years together have been good and bad...I have felt like I wasn't good enough for him or anyone. I recently boosted my self esteem and found out that he actually has been verbally abusive all these years because he is an "angry man".
He is making changes and truly wants us to work, but I keep wanting "out." I will be happy with him for a few days and then I start dreaming of these other men.
I don't want to make the wrong decision, but do I love him???

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by AmIWrong:
<strong>I have been married for 2 years (living together for 6 years) and am finding myself longing for other guys. Not in a sexual way either...I want to date! I have been with this man since I was 18 and never dated before him. I love him, but I'm not sure I love him they way he should be. All I keep thinking about are these guys I have been attracted to and want to go out with.
What is going on with me??? Why would I be feeling this way if I truly loved my husband?
Are years together have been good and bad...I have felt like I wasn't good enough for him or anyone. I recently boosted my self esteem and found out that he actually has been verbally abusive all these years because he is an "angry man".
He is making changes and truly wants us to work, but I keep wanting "out." I will be happy with him for a few days and then I start dreaming of these other men.
I don't want to make the wrong decision, but do I love him???</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It doesn't sound like you still love him. You have doubts about it yourself. But I guess only you know the final answer.

OMG!!!! You are my EX!!!! That purty much how she felt. We married young and she felt like she was missing out on something in life. We started dating when she was 17, married when she was 21 and divorced when she was 31. She left me once at 26yrs old...and then came back 4mo. later, tried to leave again at 28, but counseling kept her in the marriage....and finally gave up a year ago. Whew...how creepy!!! Remember....the grass always appears greener. It not necessarily is <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

If you're not going to stay with him, process your divorce before you go off and start having sex with people you aren't married to. Maybe the grass is greener on the other side for you... but nothing gives you the right to walk away from your marital vows becuase of your unchecked passion and fantasies. Too bad you can't work with your husband to fulfill these desires with you.

Do what's right and then move on. There's an order to this.