For eight months since my WH's A began, I have made an effort at following MB principles (no LB, plan A, plan B, meeting ENs etc.) Well, within the last month events have transpired that have really made me say "it's over." Now it is like the volcano has erupted. Whenever I come into contact with my WH, I unleash a ton of anger. I call the OW all kinds of names; I make sarcastic comments; and tell my WH that he is a liar, cheat, immoral, a bad father, etc. I can't seem to help myself after months of restraint. My WH, on the other hand, seems to have learned some new ways of communicating and is showing unusual restraint and calmness. He is even apologetic. I get some short-lived relief from this behavior but have to think that it can't be good for me, for him, for our future relationship as divorced parents.

Did anyone else out there experience this kind of explosion once it became clear that a divorce is in the future? How did you deal with it? I, myself, feel like I have been in some kind of "fog" since WH's A began. I was 4 mths pregnant at the time and would have done anything to save the marriage. Well, I had the baby who is now 3 mths old and it is like I've now snapped out of the fog and am seeing how clearly I've been mistreated and how terrible this situation has truly been for me. Can anyone relate?