make love again? I can't stand the thought of him being anywhere inside me after he's been with her. I resent it the whole time. I can't get past this. How do I get past this? <BR>I want to pour iodine all over him. I know he's showered, but I still feel like he's unclean. I don't want any part of her in me. <P>How do I get these thoughts out of my head?

Hi, I've been in the other position I cheated on my husband and he forgave me but it took a long time before he would even look at me that way again. And he wanted to talk about it all the time which I thought was making it worse.<P>My suggestion is to talk to him about it. Let him know what your feeling so he can understand what your going through it would help both of you'll if you can just tell him how you feel.<P>I am sorry that you have to go through that I know it breaks you down and changes your trust for that person.<P>Question: Did he tell you or did you catch him???<BR> Did he try and make things better after you found out????<BR> What is he doing to help you get through the pain?????<P>I changed my whole life still and involved God in my life and things got better over time.<P>I hope this helps<BR>I will keep you in my prayers<BR>

I'd like to talk to him about it, but he won't engage in a conversation about it. He did respond when I told him I dreamed that he cheated on me. He responded like he didn't realize I was still thinking about it. He was very loving and attentive. Now, for your questions. <P><BR>Question: Did he tell you or did you catch him???<P>I caught him, he denied it, then he did it again and I caught him again. Then he said he wouldn't do it again, and I caught him again. Now he swears he won't do it again. <P>Did he try and make things better after you found out????<P>He just was really caring to me. But not talking about it, meant to me that he didn't care how I felt, he just wanted to put it behind him and he expected me to also. <P>What is he doing to help you get through the pain?????<P>Nothing really, except letting me know where he is all the time, and not getting mad when I check up on him.<BR>[/B][/QUOTE]<P>Thanks for your response. It came at a good time. I just found out that she's been seeing the H of another friend for two years. I am wondering if my H knows this, if he will feel like ****. I hope so. She used all of us!!<BR>Such a good friend. She's a b*tch!