My EXW called me last night at midnight, crying and upset. She had been going through a box of cards and letters and started reding them remembering the old times and how happy we were. Mind you three weeks ago she emailed me telling me how sorry and remouseful she was over her affair. She also told me she missed us and our family. She told me last night when she called again that she missed us and didn't want our son to have to grow up without the two of us together. We have been divorced now for about a month and she moved out of the house in early Feb. I asked her if she felt this way a few weeks ago about missing us why did she go through with the divorce. She told me beacuse it wasn't fair to me to ask for a second chance and that I told her once it got this far I wasn't going to be there to fix things. I don't know what to do. I believe she has seen that the grass isn't greener on the other side but for me there are a whole lot of issues to deal with now. She has I believe opened up the door to talk but I don't know that I want to. I knew this day would come.

Wow. Bummer for her. Did OM dump her?
Sure sounds that way.
She needs time to think things through.
I wouldn't do anything right now. She could flip flop again in a second.
I'd tell her the first step is for her to go to counseling alone.

Aly

Well, if YOU want to give it another shot... I'd suggest Plan B. Otherwise, why even bother? Be honest with you and with her. But, if Plan B... read up on MB about it and counselling is a good start for you both.

If reconciliation is what you want. If my stbxww said that to me now, I wouldn't even take or return her call. Too much water under what's left of a bridge... maybe your situation is different.