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I got a letter today from my ex husband's attorney, asking very nicely for my wedding ring back, and could I drop it off at their office....
He's 2 months behind in child support, refuses to see the kids, still talking nasty about me.... and he wants the ring I wore for 12 years back???
It was his mother's ring, but both his parents are gone now. I've got it in a lockbox, and my will says our daughter inherits it. I am having it appraised, did think of offering to sell it to him.....
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The ring was given to you when you said your vows to your x, it's yours!!! Just because he broke his vows doesn't mean he gets a refund on the ring!!!!! My 2 cents!!!! Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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legally, its yours and he has no claim on it.
practically, its cursed, don't pass it down, my X has a wedding band from her grandmother, and that was cursed, the old lady was a real piece of work, her son hated her.
just another thought.
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I gave my ring to a homeless person. I tried to get my stbxww's ring for the same reason... but I think she wanted it as a trophy of spite. "He wants it so... I'll keep it!" <maniacal laughter ensues>
I'd offer to sell it back to him for some price contingent on him paying you the additional money he owes. If he wants it that bad, use it to your advantage; is there something he has of yours that you want back? Make a trade! You can never sell jewelry for even a fraction of its appraised value.
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oh noooo! tell them no just "NO!"
you don't have to return it..it is yours to keep to do what you want with.
If I were you and your not going to wear it.
what you could do is get it melted down and tossed gold and then put the stone
or stones in it get a nice gold chain to put it on.
I have a half carrot I did one with, from my rings when we got married wore them out
and after 25 years got new ones..these will go to my daughter.
other women need to think about doing that with their wedding rings even if you did
it for redoing your rings or gold jewlery so you can take stones from your anniv rings
etc..make rings for grandaughters something special..is what I am doing.
it's just a thought.
take care and God bless. just tell him you have other plans for the ring.
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I think I"d feel too bad if I sold it.....but it has 7 little diamonds and one big one, I am thinking of having earrings and necklaces made for myself and my daughter.
I just can't help but wonder why he really wants it back?
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So he can tell people that you were the one in fault and you felt so bad that you gave your ring back?
So he can lose it and claim insurance for full value replacement to give to new woman?
So he can laugh maniacally and murmur... "My Precious..." into the wee hours of the night...
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Gollum. Lol.
Because HE wants to sell it.
Because he wants to give it to someone else.
I'd keep it in tact and give it to dd when she's old enough. IT IS NOT CURSED! Jeez.
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Use it to play"lets make a deal", it never hurts to have something they want.
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hehehhe....I think Lyxa wins the prize, he was constantly cleaning that thing, always complained I didn't take good enough care of it, was rubbing the stones to make them shine.....really, I think he liked the ring more than he did me. His precious....giggle..... But fortyone probly has the right idea....I'm getting it appraised, maybe I'll sell it to him for half. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Get it apprased and ask for it's value in return.
Otherwise, let him sue you for it. Just because he asks,doesn't mean he's going to get it.
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Well, he can't really sue me for it.....the ring was discussed during the divorce settlement, the decree says it's mine. Even the letter from his attorney said if "my conscience led me to return his mother's ring." Uh huh.
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Lyxa wins the vote and lately has been the guy holding the smoking gun of wisdom... tee hee.
Is this the best his lawyer can do but to distract him from his prime responibilities and obligations.
What a ring has more value than a human being? What is his lawyer wasting everyone time/money over. Petty price for coveteousness.
It's yours to do as you will, or will too, or dispose of if you choose down the drain with everything else.
Petty grievances. Tsk, tsk, tsk.
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I think the attorney is just a well paid pawn in my ex's game. This is how he breaks the no contact order and harasses me legally. A few weeks ago he snuck a letter into our daughter's birthday present with frequent references to how he'd "love to see her face, but then your mom would throw me in jail again" and "you'll know the truth someday". Actually, she does know the truth, and he could see her if he'd accept supervised visits. Oh, and I didn't make him break the NCO 12 times. I just reported it. He just wants to upset me. Unfortunately, it works.
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My XW made it known to a friend of mine that she wants "her" musical keyboard back. This is a year after the divorce and 6 months since she brought it back to me when she said she was coming back. Who knows the reason why. She used it as tool back then and she is probably doing the same now.
I have my wedding band. I don't know what I'm going to do with it. I'll probably keep it as a momento. Something I know is there but I'll never look at it again.
A family heirloom I'd be giving that back. Maybe come to an agreement that you keep the ring and give it to the daughter when she marries.
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I agree with IDiditAgain. Besides being a family heirloom, keeping it is just one more way to have your x remain involved in your life. I know it's unpleasant to feel like you're giving in...but, what you would really be doing, is letting go.
<small>[ May 05, 2003, 03:43 PM: Message edited by: BeenThereMyself ]</small>
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