Three weeks ago after an argument my husband announced that he wanted a divorce. Since that I hired a private investigator who has discovered at least one other woman that he has been dealing with for almost 2 months now. I have confronted him with this but he says that it's just a telephone companion. He says his reasons for wanting to leave are that I don't keep the house clean enough and I ask him too many questions. He says that he's been unhappy for over a year but affraid to let go of our 11 year marriage. When he told me what his problems with me were I immediatley began to make sure the house was straight at all times and I have tried to avoid asking questions that might irritate him. I have also gone out and bought quite a bit of lingerie(which by the way was his 3rd compliant) and have worn something new every night since then. The only thing that he has seemed to notice is the lingerie. The only time he pays attention to me is bedtime. He has not spoken with a lawyer yet but he will not even hear of going to counceling. Late last week he decided that he no longer wants a divorce he just wants us to be separated. He wants to sell our house and we both move into our own places and then he wants us to date one another exclusively. Yesterday I finally got up enough strenght to tell him that I could no longer be lead around by the nose and that if this is what he wants we have to stop sleeping together and I would no longer cook and keep house for him. I have to look out for me and my son and that's it. He did not like what I had to say and now it seems he's angry with me all over again. Did I make a mistake by standing up for myself?