Well everyone, I did it and decided to speak my truth. Since I have already shared what my kids have been subjected to over at STBX house, of his leaving lust conquests (monkey ho's his cousin photos around the house for my kids to see, on his book shelf, in our personal photo family album.

Carelessly, leaving his used condoms, bra, panties on his bed for my kids to discover. Urrrggg.....

This is now his choice way of getting our kids conditioned and used to all his variety of women.Although monkey ho up in the other city with her two kids seems to be his primary flame.

To make a long story short the damage he has done to our children is shattering enough. His abandonment ect, his delaying our divorce process hast just gotten to me. I want the divorce over with and have been extremely patient. I have not seen him since Feb other than at the lawyers, where I kept my calm, cool, and supreme distance.
I have turned down the power game volume termastat down to a min. Not much reaction from me and have pretty much dismounted from the conflicts.

Since Jan. I have only exchanged a brief few words when he calls for our children of only saying "one moment please" no more, no less. The children go outside to meet him. So no contact.

He is letting all the bills pile up, no comments from me other than my collecting his mail/bills putting them in a bag for him which my kids take with them and allowing for the bills to do the talking.

He is taking his sweet time to produce all his documents which my laywers requested to his laywer to provide since last mar of proof of his income returns of the last two years, proof of mysterious partners, from the bought the condo, sold so quickly. The profit of that sale are which legally half mine.

He were intelligent he would have complied to get this divorce over with and then buy his condo. This divorce should have been over last May when I had everything all arranged for liquidation.

I decided enough was enough, he has eaten up enough of resources and squanred probably somewhere about $30000+ on his women, partying entertainment to buy everyone this year.

His paying no rent up until two months ago. Lots of liberty thanks to his dad, family members who enable him seeing it to it he excels at his playboy career.

I need to sell the house but cannot because he has not signed over his portion of the house title proceeds in exchange for his right to retain his pension.

Inspite of everything being such a mess and he has our martial/family affairs in a holding pattern. I have kept quiet. He has done extremely foolish job of draining us.

So the submarine of emotions finally surface for me and I decided to write Monkey ho' a brief letter emailed to her. SO far no response from her but I feel so much better. Perhaps I should of posted it here for commenting before sending. But perhaps she will pressure him more for a committment. Who knows what he is telling her that I perhaps am holding things up, making life difficult, etc... Now she will see that the children/I do not stand in their adulterous ways but want them out of our lives altogether.

Here's the email which I released.

Shannon,

My children and I are aware of the romantic liasional relationship between you and your cousin third cousin Lee.

The denial game and lack of honesty here is most sad.

Lee's leaving your photos all around his home, your escapade romp notes lying around and his most recent antics of blantanly leaving his condoms, bra and panties lying around in his bedroom in full view for my children to discover, etc is sad, disrespectful, destructive and highly unacceptable.

My question to you is, what are both you and Lee are trying to achieve here by the usage of such unhealthy approachs ? Lee choses one moment to be honest and then reverts back to his denials? Are you both trying to simply wanting attention and acceptance?

Since you and I have already met once before, please know that my frustration here is not over you personally per say, as you are but one variety of the many other women in his life. Nothing new here.

The primary issue for myself and children at hand here is my own frustration to gain a measure cooperation from Lee's, part to get down to business, disentangle, get our divorce over with. I just wish to be completely and permanently free from him.

Please be assured that their is no contest between you and I. Other than my request for clarification, as my children do have the right to accurate information and to set permanent boundries.

PS. Also I don't understand why Lee just does not move up to your city to be with you and your children? Wouldn't this be most logical instead of playing such childish head games?

Your feedback would be most appreciated as we wish to disentangle our selves from the web of dsyfunction.

Thxs,