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#749606 05/06/03 08:42 PM
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Hello all! It's been MONTHS since I've posted. My computer was down for over 5 months at home and I never post from work. It's been a whirlwind of activity here. I've changed careers.....got into my own place now, (out of my mom's with my youngest daughter)...things are going well. I want to thank you all for your posts. I've been lurking and learning. Hang in there all! There is life after divorce...it's tough some days, but those days are few and far between. Love you all!

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Elan -

I've been like you - off of the boards for the last few months.

Life is great!

Still in custody battle with ExH - we're currently finishing up a custody evaluation and will receive a report in about a month.

I'm still home with the kids - now 8,7,4 and 15 months. Youngest still not walking yet - but taking baby steps.

I am ready for a set schedule for the kids and a parenting agreement to follow. ExH and I cannot even agree on whether the sky is blue, and he still pulls stupid stunts with the kids - like when he left the oldest two at the mall by themselves........ long story.

However, I have filed my annulment, continuing therapy for myself, and coming to a realization that ExH has some limitations that will forever prevent him from becoming the man and father that I thought he was and that I wanted him to be.

With that said, I realize that there are other men out there who can be the man that I have always wanted and needed, and I believe that God had a plan when let ExH do what he did.

Now, I'm able to provide a better life emotionally and spiritually for the children and so far the kids haven't missed any meals.

I have a renewed sense of purpose for life and just couldn't be happier without ExH.

I NEVER thought that I would ever say that - but I was blind to reality at the time.

It's been almost two years since I learned of the A and ExH left, and things are starting to really calm down and I'm able to refocus.

Thanks for askign about me, and it sounds as if life is treating you ok too.

I wish you all the best and I pray that you will find much hapiness in the future.

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GIIC,
It's good to hear that you're doing well. 15 months already, time has flown.
I'm in the same place with you on custody (eval finished by STBX refuses to acknowledge it), but not yet divorced due to his inactions.

I wish you the best in life.
May God Bless you and your family.

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It's nice to catch up now and again. I know that so many of you kept me afloat when I was adrift at sea and all I wanted to do was sink to the bottom.

Things are great. We are in our own place (renting...but owning will come in time). A new career that I absolutely love...I mean LOVE with a passion. It's been 8 months and I can barely wait to head out the door in the mornings!

Kids are doing well. The older two living with dad are not doing so well, but then again they are old enough to make their choices. Middle one is almost age of majority. Youngest is flourishing with me and all comment on a regular basis about the *lessons* they are learning by the examples I am setting (no b/f on the homefront and my priority is getting the youngest educated and well on her way to adulthood. She is amazing really...considering everything she's gone through she trusts in God (never thought I would see that day)... *sigh*.

Yep...God does things for reasons, even though at times we can't see the forest for the trees...but He's there.

I've been getting out socially now and again. Have a great network of supportive friends but still come back here to check on those who took the time to check on me in my darkest hours.

I love yah all and keep you in my prayers!


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