Well, here we go. Been with my wife since high school (start of senior year). That was 13yrs ago.We had our ups/downs just like most marriages.After time, I beleive I had taken some things for granted. Communication had started to dwindle.About a month-month and half ago, she started having an emotional affair. Telling him that she loved him and they had also planned on meeting in a mutual state (Utah).I caught her one night talking with a friend of hers that she was going to divorce me.She was talking with this friend in our house while she thought I was asleep.I kicked her friend out after I heard that and asked my wife if it was true and she said yes.We decided to do some marriage counceling after that because I didn't want to loose her (we have a 6yr old son together and I live her very much). She agreed. She said she loved me as well. On the third meeting with the counceler, she started the session off with she didn't know if she loved me or not, and if she wanted to even stay with me which totally kicked me right in the chest since I thought we were going to work past earlier issues.I went in to panic mode.That third session with the counceler was on a Monday and on Tuesday I had made arrangements with a Attorney.All of our family lives out of the state that we do and I was afriad that she would up and leave me and take my son with her.I was afraid that I would then have to battle with her across state lines and not be able to see my son for quit some time.I found out that if i filed in the state that we live in, she could not take my son out of the state lines because filing would automatically generate a restraining order.That put me on ease since i knew that she would not go then.Now i am really having crappy feelings.We talked (after I filed) that we would be fair with the custody of our son (50-50 custody) and fair with the bills and finances and property.We are still living in an apartment together because we had decided that we would pay off most bills before we actually seperated.The problem is that I still love her very much.She still asks me to hold her when we are in bed at night and we talk really well together and actually act like a newly married couple (without the sex). That is killing me.She says that she holds me, and asks me to hold her because it is for comfort. She doesn't discuss her feelings with me so I do not know what she is actually feeling. i keep telling her that I love her because I do.I didn't think I needed to deny my feelings to her.I have been hinting to her that we can move past this and get some help. i have also told her why I filed (not to loose my son)but she seems pretty keep on going through with the divorce now. I guess i have regrets now.We haven't said anything to our son yet as that will be the hardest part.If she doesn't love me anymore then there is nothing I can do about that and i will eventually learn to live with that, but she won't tell me her feelings so I am at a loss here.Don't have any idea (except i guess it would really be good to move away from each other soon so this doesn't drive me to the nut house).I guess in our case, we are at our best when things are at there worst.
Sorry to drag this one out so long.......Any opinions or advice out there?

Yes,
First, read all the concepts on the site, not just on the boards. Order the books, and begin repairing your M.
Get off the D/D board and get on over to the Emotional Needs board.
You are obviously meeting some of her needs (affection) and by learning about the emotional needs, you can repair your M.

Work on it, and continue seeing the counselor, its when you stop communicating that things will get worse.
You filed for protection but don't really want it. Seek the help of those who can help your regain the love.

Good Luck.