Hi all,
I am trying to help a friend. I have turned them to the site but I don't think they get it.
At this point I really don't think they belong together. They are mainly doing it for the kids.
She is 25 and he is 28. I am friends with both of them. More so him becuase of our involvment with the firehouse, but anyway. They both say they got married to soon and too young. They had children and that was one reason. They do not have much in common and there is a severe lack of trust going on. She had two affairs in the past which she admits to and he is having an emotional affair at the time being. I told him the emotional affair is wrong. They have seperated in the last week. She is a bit well how can I say psych. She made herself hyperventilate and I took her to the hospital. They crazy thing is she told me she was gonna do it. She did it to get the attention of H.
H says he is not happy there and he wants to leave but his kids is what is holding him back. She does not work nor does she want to. He is scared she will not have anywhere to go. I gave them both copies of the Emotional needs questionare which they are both going to do. I just don't know how I can help anymore at this point. I am stuck between a rock and a hard ball.
I see both of their points and There are some things I see that I don't think neither one of them see...

What and how can I help without getting too involved (which they already got me)

JJ7,

Before your post drops off the front page, I'll bump you up and ask a Q:

Are you the OW that he's having the EA with?

It sounds like "they seperated" means that he left the family - since she's trying to get his attention with a fake medical stunt.

I think you are overinvolved in the situation. They are the people who are going to have to sort out their family, and I honestly don't think you can help much - unless you stick 100% with trying to help the wife - and have no contact with her husband.

-AD