My ex and I were married for 5 1/2 years, we separated in May 2002 and he went ahead with the divorce and that was final in November 2002. Our marriage did not end on bad terms at all. We rode to the courthouse together and talk for whatever reason about once a month. We consider each other friends...I'll admit that I still love him and he'd admit the same.

In Feburary 2003 he was called back to active duty (he is in the Marines Reserves) notice came to my house instead of his as the USMC still had my address on record so of course I get in touch with him...that's when things get interesting we started seeing more of each other first it was me stoping by to drop off or pick up something and then one day we ended up in bed and we have been seeing each other on a friends with benefits basis since....I enjoy his company he enjoys mine. We had agreed that we would not see other people while seeing each other...and if we did meet someone that we were interested in we'd let the other know and that's the point we're at...he's seeing someone...I'm happy for him but I'm also hurt and don't know what to do...should I hold on to the hope that 'someday' we'll be together again or should I give up all hope. I've been talking to other men but am not seeing anyone. If anyone here has any advice I'd really appreciate it! Good luck and god bless!

beachezndreamz, I could only say what I would do in your situation. Did I understand you right when you said he was seeing someone right now? Was that before, after or during your time back with him? Honestly if it was after or during I would say forget him. If not, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't explore the possibilities. I know I would. If thats the case though you have to remember that the problems that caused your D to begin with will most likely still need to be addressed and worked on by both of you. Thats in addition to whatever baggage you both have aquired in your time apart. In the end though do what makes you happy. Don't think about happiness right now, think about a few years down the road. Good luck and God bless..

Thank you very much for your advice.