I was pulling into my driveway, literally when my back right tire on suv went flat.

Then I walked to front door where I saw a fed ex letter. From company with possible job. Who'd possibly overnight to me a refusal letter? Nobody right? Wrongo.

Here is letter:

Dear Peach,

Thank you for interviewing for the position of x with company x. I enjoyed speaking with you and was most impressed with you and your qualifications. Unfortunately a veteran (sales rep) has transferred into the Augusta position;this was above and beyond my control.

Please be assured that I will call you personally with the next opening in the southeast.

Mr. X
Southeast Mgr.

Ok. I lose it. Then I cry madly. I am leaving tomorrow for a state seminar I am president of. I did not get the job I thought I was getting. But I should "wait for the next opening?". I also have to see the atlanta rep and possily the higher ups with that company at my convention.

So I am going to cry. Cry loudly. Then go jogging. My buddy is coming over to change my tire. I've written the best damn opening speech ever and am going to deliver it awesomely saturday morning. It is now my mission to be as bloodless as I can, and just deliver, deliver, deliver this whole weekend and show all the companies that I am the best damn state president and that if they want their numbers to reflect it, they'd better hire me! I am tired of clinical medicine and my head keeps hitting the glass ceiling where I am at . There just isn't room to move up whatsoever.

Because I have unfulfilled EN's big time, my work has become secondary to my son. I want to move up and am eager to do so professionally as that is helping me with self worth. Sure I've done good since being a stay at home mom two years ago. But I am damn tired and want to do something that will allow only me to say how much I can achieve. I just can't do that in clinical medicine anymore.

So I really cried, cried, cried. And then Jethro IM's me and asks me why I AM NOT GOING OUT TONIGHT IN HOTLANTA B/C IT'S THURSDAY NIGHT. I say that I am not into bars. I click off. He says that I should have fun tonight. Yea, fun. Fun with a flat tire, a dream job possibly lost, and I have to perk up and psyche myself up to be prez of a state medical society and do an awesome job when there is NO EN FOR ME BEING MET. Other than admiration and respect from the members and board members, I feel lost. I will be staying in a gorgeous two room suite with a four poster bed, granite wet bar, and fireplace and gorgeous balcony overlooking the mountains. And I AM ALONE AGAIN...Well, son will be with me but I am so damn alone. I just feel alone. Everyone else is bringing their families, their significant others. Yes, I am blessed to have my son, but IT IS JUST ME. I have to work hard to do anything. It's hard to maneuver as a single mom. To go to cocktail parties entails hiring a sitter for a while. To give lecture or to attend the days' events, that requires a sitter. And I just need some down time with my son.

And a blessing. A huge one to come my way. We needed that job so bad. Soooooo bad. I wanted to put at least 2 hrs between me and Jethro. I wanted to just be in same state, but have enough space where he could not bother us any more. Where we could live and be happy. Where I could just move on and begin a new life. But no. I am still tied to atlanta for some time. I want out!

There, I said it...I WANT OUT OF ATLANTA AND NOW. I WANT AWAY FROM THIS CRAP, THIS DENIAL OF ME, THIS PAIN. I WANT TO MOVE SOMEWHERE WHERE I CAN REALLY START OVER. HELL I MOVED TO ATLANTA WITH JERKO TWO YEARS AGO TO AS I THOUGHT, START OVER WITH HIM AS HE LEFT SUPPOSEDLY MONKEYHO BEHIND. I am sad. I am angry.

God I needed that job. We need the distance and the financial freedom for son and I. Please pray that something good happens this weekend. That I shine at the conference. It is going to be big and I've done alot. It will be great and I just want to hopefully let the right person with the right company see me shine and think, "hey that girl is awesome and is a go getter. she is smart and knows alot about medicine and would be great for us doing x."

Please pray. We really need some positive changes around here. Oh, and contempt hearing won't be until end of May.

Peachy - I'm sorry to hear about your setback, but I do think the letter and its being sent overnight is a sign of respect. He didn't want to burn any bridges. These things can happen at big companies. So do well at the conference, and be on the lookout for other opportunities. It's like anything else, if Mr. X sees you are in demand he will move as fast as possible. But if he sees you waiting around, then he won't be in a hurry.

Sounds like a nice weekend coming up.

Peachy - sorry about this position not being yours. Times like today, when your tire is flat, you see the mail at your door, and hopes get high, and everything deflates.

Getting away from your X is important. To put distance between you and him. All I can say, is I am so sorry. You are striving hard to be successful, and your son sees this mom with a good heart and hard working hands.

To have fun in the bars, is not a good scene. Just to have a nice dinner with folks you love to be with, is great. Take this opportunity to maybe read a good book, take a long hot bubble bath, and reflect on your day, and reflect on your speech tomorrow.

My prayers are with you. You are one fine woman.

Hi Peachy! I'm sooo sorry to hear of the company LOSING a potential Killer Employee (you) who would surely have been a huge asset to them. O well, THEIR loss. Another BETTER job will come up, just you wait and see. We're still in prayer for you and your son.
PS - Ole boy Jethro SUCKS!!!
Harold

peachy -

Hang in there. I was recently interviewing some candiadtes for a position and found 3 that were all outstanding. I immediately made the offer to my first choice, and called the other two to tell them I was impressed with them and was looking to find a way to bring them into the organization. Within a week we had hired all three. It sounds like something similar is going on with you. Don't be at all surprised if another "opening" happens VERY quickly. As disappointing as the letter seemed, it has a huge silver lining.

BTW, my company has a facility in Augusta, GA and we're looking to hire somebody. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like its a match for your expertise. But Augusta has a great economy, one of the best in the country right now. If that's really where you want to be, I think you've got a great shot at finding a good position there. Cost of living is very low too.

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Thanks friends. REally needed the support today. I got up after only sleeping six hours. Finished overhead transparencies for lecturers, and am now house cleaning and getting ready for a jog.

My buddy came over and changed my tire last night. It took him THREE hours. But during the tire change, the lunar eclipse happened and I got my son's discovery store binoculars out and it was very cool. He even took pics w/his digital camera he had with him. He will probably end up here on MB as I told him about it (his w left him with 4 gorgeous kids and they are both in med. field. Wife secretly wed other man two weeks after their divorce last november and the kids don't know b/c the guy lives in virgin islands). Oh well this is just gettin' far too common huh?

But I am going to get a new tire today, pack, take dog to kennel, get nails filled in, tan, and clean up a bit more around here and finish packing.

Have decided that instead of making this a stressful weekend, I will make the weekend the best ever. You guys are right. I will show them leadership, deliver a killer speech, and show them what potential I could have. Heck, 18 companies in my medical specialty will be there. I am wanting to leave clinical medicine, as I've hit the glass ceiling and can't go up any farther than now and am getting bored w/the ceiling. So that's why I want to move into medical sales. We'll see.

Gotta go. Please pray for us. I have a two hour drive and have to pick up son from jethro's office before we go.

Peachy,
That job was not meant to be. Perhaps its not the right time in the divorce process for you to show how much you can earn. Perhaps you need to appear sympathic to the courts. You can now prove you've made an effort to return to work in your prior career; this alone may help with alimony negotiations.

In any case, your attitude is perfect and you will be offered the right job at the right time. We are all confident about that.

Have a great time this weekend, and shine in your glory.

Just a thought: perhaps it might not be so bad if you don't have that hi paying job when you and OBJ go into Divorce Proceedings. Once that mess is over, the alimony and child support are established, then you can CRUISE with what he's ORDERED to pay you, take that job and roll with it.
Stay strong and keep the faith, my friend. We're all here rooting for you and standing behind you here!!
Harold
PS - OBJ means 'Ole Boy Jethro'

dear peachy-maybe i can help. i have a brother in law who is one of the biggest in the field you want to be in. maybe we can help. i also have ties to the solve corporation. my cousin is married to their son. let me know if i can help.

oh yeah-my brother in law is from tennessee. so he still has ties to the south and the areas you are looking in. let me know-i'll check back later.

Hey peachy.

Im from Ga. also maybe we can go to dinner sometime and chat about all the crazythings that has gone on in our lives. I live about 60 miles south of ATL.

Dear Peach,

U are getting a lot of support here. How are you doing? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hugz,
L.

I have a suggestion. Send the interviewer a thank you card (hand-written) and note that on date and time you'd like to call and network for other possible job opportunities. Very professional and demonstrates very clear skills on your part. Also, pass him several copies of your resume and ask if he wouldn't mind forwarding them any industry contacts he might have who need skillz like you got Peachy. Lay it on. It's a tough job market and people know it. See what happens.

In the meantime, don't be down on yourself. Life happens. You'll find something else... but only if you're out actively looking for it. You can do it! <rah rah rah>

You go girl.

/\/\/\ Bumping up looking for status!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> /\/\/\

I guess peachy doesn't want a dinner date.

Hi,

I heard from Peach this afternoon. She is back from her trip and still working on getting rid of her cold. I am sure she will give an update soon.

As for that dinner date...... well.... I am sure she will reply to that also. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

L.

I am utterly exhausted. I am unable to post everything as I am swamped this friday morning but will give update this afternoon later.

I am ok. Exhausted and ok.

Thanks for prayers they really worked! The convention was awesome and will get back to everyone later tonight.

Well think last week really did me in. The convention was awesome and my speech (at 8 am on saturday) was 15 min. and went great (worked on it for 2 weeks).

Kept to my plan of looking ahead, jobwise, and making convention the best ever, as 18 different companies were there.

At the saturday night cocktail party, I actually got approached by several different guys. One guy, a pharmacist I know, said I was..well in his words "looking flawless"..I asked the guy to repeat himself as I am not used to such words.lol...

But late about 11 sat. night my throat and cold flared up again. I had to keep going and going though. Did not get any downtime and when I got back was working full time and being full time mom. Cold got worse. And now as of today I am on new antibiotic and can say that is making 100% difference! I am feeling almost great!

This part is hilarious...On monday afternoon was son's prek graduation. Jethro attempted to IM me at work over and over thus I knew he'd go. I told him in 1 line saying it would be casual and it started at 1 pm. Nuff said.

I leave early from work and even take a nice change of clothes; dress pants and cute top and heels. I look ok. I get to church/school and go to the sanctuary. I sit in back. I see Jethro sitting on front row and notice he's constnatly glancing all around in every direction trying to see if I am there. Wierd. After the graduation, everybody is walking out. I am walking with the other class moms and see Jethro walking out. Get this...He is wearing jeans, those stupid bowling tennis shoes and a tight waffle weave sweater. Not one other parent was wearing jeans. Most were kinda office casual. But here is Jethro. Looking his Maxxim studly best...Blech!

I get to the reception and they have cake and punch for the kids. He walks up to me and son and acts all nice. I am nauseus. He takes son and me in picture. And then comes the fun part!

Payback is hell.

There is one other single dad in the class. He is a policeman and pretty well built also. Right when Jehtro is snapping a photo of me, Steve walks up and says, "hey how about I take a photo of you and son and my son too?" Steve totally ignores Jethro and acts as if he saw nobody there standing near me. Steve goes on then saying "I've never seen you dressed up. (Says son's name) your mommy sure got all dressed up to come and see you graduate." He then asked if he could take a photo of me and son alone and asked to email it to me if I'd give him my email address. I know him and said "sure." Then the officer (steve) told me son this, "Hey son, guess what I've got? Would you like a baseball card? The local police department made these hero cards with certain officers on them and on the front is their picture and on the back it tells how they fight crime and help people out. He then hands a baseball card of himself to my son right IN FRONT OF JETHRO ABOUT THREE FEET AWAY.

Mr. Controlling is getting livid. Imagine this. A guy. A guy within five feet is complimenting his soon to be x wife and asking for an email address and then hands his son a baseball card with his picture on it. And the WHOLE TIME THE GUY NEVER EVEN ACKNOWLEDGES THAT JETHRO IS STANDING THERE. Most of the people have probably heard thru grapevine about me being divorcing though.

Jethro walks out and says nothing. For that instance, in that moment, I feel pretty good. My friend Helen who's son is also in the class and a single mom, said that "God's got a great sense of humor" as the place where this happened was the exact same gathering area in the church where last month Jethro and the outlaws came to the Easter egg hunt bringing Ms. Family Values' child.

Nothing happened was improper in any way. But it was made very clear that Jethro is not controlling me anymore. And that I am moving on. And that he will have to do just that from now on...Have to stand back and watch while his still decent looking x wife and son move on in life. And how he made that choice for us to have to do that. Hope he likes his decisions because it did not appear that he did at all.

Anyway, the restraining order is going before the judge in a few days and on tuesday, JEthro's lawyer will have copy of the motion to be before the judge. We are also having another contempt hearing on June 4 regarding his contempt of contempt. lol...At least I can laugh about it or maybe it is all the benadryl floating in my bloodstream...

Thanks folks and buddies sooooooo much! Nikko, would love to talk to you @ job thing. That would be so awesome!

And thanks for the dinner offer needtounderstand. I don't go out alone and tonight am going out for sushi with four people nearby my house. I still don't go out alone and when I do go out, it is with a group usually. If you've lived through this stuff like I have, you watch it closely. I want to end this divorce nicely and without any hitches as it's so close to the end. But maybe a group MB thing would be nice again. I had a great time a couple of weeks back with 2 S.E. MB'ers and we got along so awesomely!

And thanks Orchid. I am getting ready to get dressed and go to have a dynamite roll and (ok, don't laugh but this roll is so awesome! --a viagra roll.) And no, I DON'T NEED IT. It is just awesome! It's a place called Yoshino. Near my house and although I've had sushi everywhere, this place is so incredible.

I am going to sleep in tomorrow and do nothing. Just rest up and kick this cold in the teeth and hopefully refresh myself and get ready for the next task at hand...Gotta secure new job and new future as I am ready to take it on!

Oh, at the end of the convention, the board members presented to me at the amphitheater, an engraved plaque, and engraved gavel and the thing you slam the gavel onto. I don't know what you call that thing though (lol). They said a speech (given by Southeast society president) about how despite all my hardships (personal) how I brought together and helped make this year's convention the best in years and that they were blessed to have me as president and said how incredible a job I've done. That I could be a good mom, an incredible medical professional, and a leader to look up to. They started off speech by saying that when we went to dinner (a formal dinner on saturday night given by a large pharma company) that the gentlemam from the company was saying a few words and then began to take the first bite, that my son (age 4) said loudly "Stop!". They said that they could see me, Peachy cringe not knowing what my son was doing. Then that my son looked at the dinner host and said, "Mister, you forgot to say grace." And that then the host asked my son to say it for everybody in attendance at the private dinner (about 20 people) and at the top of his lungs, my son sang "God our Father". They said that I am an incredible mom and parent and that a president should be more than just the best person at their profession, but that they should be a leader of character too and then they said that they were so proud to say that I led this society with dignity and honor as well as with excellence. I cried when they handed me the plaque.

For almost 10 years, I believed that I had to constantly better myself. That I was ok but had to work harder to be smarter, more attractive, more well...everything..Everything better because Jethro always put me down. Now I know I am just fine the way I am. He may find chicks 10 years younger than me, they can pose in whatever magazines they can and could be a damn covergirl for all I care. I am a real woman. I am substance. I love my family and friends and my God. And he's going to have to settle in life for second best now. Not every woman, especially the golddigging kind, aren't really heavily into being the great mom, professional, or involved or caring about morality. But I am.

I hope this means I am healing a little now. There's a long way to go but with faith, we can get there together. We've all come a long way and it's been hard and difficult. But we will make it somehow. I love you folks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hi NotPeachy! Good for you! Justice is coming, JB is sloooooooly beginning to 'get his' and you and son WILL come out of this mess smelling like a rose. Don't think I can say the same for JB tho.
Thank you for a very refreshing update!
Harold

{{{{PEACHY}}}}

YOU GO GIRL! Sounds like you ought to get some great job offers after that seminar and the speech. Hurry up and get well, cause I bet your phone will be ringing.

I'm so proud of you and your son was awesome! Bet those execs had to really think a moment about the grace... that must have been a truly divine moment in time.

Jethro can go swallow spit... and that is all I have to say on that subject, lol.

Lori

dear peachy-i just got back from florida-my e-mail is jmeyerpet@aol.com.--contact me and i will let you know what brother in law said--its good. he will help