Hi, I have a problem i hope someone can help me with. Me and my husband have been married for 25 years this July. We have gone through many ups and downs. 9 years ago we went through a bankruptcy, almost ruined our marraige with the emotional waves we went through. During that time my husband changed dramatically. I realize it is different for a male than female but i was going through it just the same. We had had to do a book on how to use our money better and we talked often on never getting another credit card. A year into the bankruptcy i was at the store where they were giving away free gifts if you sign up for a card. I knew i would never get the card because of bankruptcy so saw no problem in doing so. Well wounldnt you know they gave me a card. WE took it and gladly spent it. It is gone now and payed off.<BR> Last year my husband applied for a visa card and hid the fact from me. When i found out we had a huge fight. But after dissussing and him blaming me saying if i could get one so can he. He also said it makes him feel more like a man. So we have that one thats fine. The problem is i just found out he has another one. Well i hit the roof. I tried to discuss it with him to tell him i felt betrayed also it does not help our finaical situation. He says again he needs it to feel like a man. I told him he was being very selfish.<BR>i have tried every avenue to disscuss this i even suggesting that he could keep it but i hang onto it. He said hes not a little boy. I dont know how to get over this one. We had just started getting in solid ground again. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.<BR>yours truly sweet & low

Sweet & Low Welcome, I have been here only a little while and the info and suggestions are great. Does he use the credit card? Does he let you see the statements? if he doesn't use it would it be that harmful for him to have it? I know you went through alot financially but has he changed?

Sweet&Low,<P> How financially responsible is your husband? You should tell him that, One credit is more than enough for the both of you. It will help keep the both of you stable, and not end up at step 1, but really really talk to him about it.