2 months ago my h left home( and the country) to be with another woman with no warning what-so-ever.I thought we were happy. He is back home now and says this is what he wants but now she is e-mailing and calling with threats of sueing him for breach of promise and for money spent on him! As also make vague threats to myself and our teenage daughter. It is so hard to try to get past everything that has happened when she is constantly making herself a part of our daily lives. The fact that she is half a world away should help but it doesn't. Have contacted the police about her threats but they can't help with the emotional wear and tear. Have considered telling her I will try to sue for alienation of affection. Any ideas?

The only thing that comes to my mind is that you want her out of your life. If you threaten to sue her, and carry through with it, that will only prolong the time that she stays in your life. That's exactly what she wants, isn't it. I would guess that you and your H need to focus on each other right now, not on her.<P>Any way to block her from e-mailing? Also, I would suggest keeping a running log of the phone calls in case the police need the info. Hope this is helpful. Good luck!

If by "breach of promise" you mean your H promised he'd marry her, nope, since he was already married and not yet divorced, no enforceable contract was formed because of "impossibility" (bigamy is not allowed).<P>If other promises are involved, and she took action / spent money in reliance on those promises (to her detriment), yes, she could recover from your H, but I doubt she'd bother trying to sue from another country, the jurisdictional hassles alone would likely make the cost of the suit 100 times more than the amount at issue...<P>The money she's spent on him is legally a "gift" (she's out of luck once more) UNLESS the money she spent was in return for his promise to do something in return (NOT a promise to marry her - that's not allowed); e.g., if you give me $5, I'll wash your car - if he took the $5 he would have to wash her car.<P>You can sue her for alienation of affection / lack of consortium, but you need the proof - photos, plane tickets, hotel bills, etc. But it is true you could do it - tell her so. Sounds to me you are in a much stronger position than she. Also, the repeated phone calls would likely constitute harassment.<P>Hello? Change your phone number to an unlisted one and change your e-mail address - TODAY! Then you'll likely not have to deal with her at all... If she shows up physically, go to the police and get a restraining order. And for God's sake, insulate your daughter completely from this garbage! <P>It amazes me that people use threats, begging, etc. to try to get/keep people. Why would you want a person you forced to be with you? Ewww!<P>Good Luck! <BR>Gobyfish