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Oh man. Where to start. This is not a long story but I've thought about it all day.
My WW and I have been separated for over a year and a half. Our D was final on 5/12.
During the entire time I have not been with or dated anyone. This board has helped me a lot in these times.
Besides I don't feel ready to date. My ex still communicates with me and tells me news etc. I think her A is close to being dead. I am still somewhat hopeful.
Cut to the chase. Today I was in a meeting and a woman I don't really know but see every day was catching my eye. She was staring at me from across the room. She works on the same floor as I do but is in a different department so we have no reason to interract with each other.
Our eyes locked for about thirty seconds. I mean it seemed like there was noone else in that conference room. I know that look.
I left the meeting and went back out to my truck and then my cell phone rang and it was her. She told me how sorry she was my marriage was over. I frankly didn't know how to reply so I said "thanks". She told me to have a nice day. We hung up.
How she knows my marriage is over, I have no idea. I didn't talk about it much at work.
I assume she is married. She wears a beautiful diamond engagement ring and a wedding band.
How does one handle something like this? I will not lie, it made me feel good to get some attention after all this time.
Don't worry, I have no desire to become the OP. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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No matter how good it felt to have that attention, if she is married, run for your life.
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Tossedwave,
I am a BS, and don't know how to deal with this. I feel that I've not only been cheated out of years of my life by my ex, but here's a nice woman that is probably having problems herself. And I admit, I am lonely. Thanks for your advice, it is most probably correct.
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Ah, the LOOK.
I wish I had received the look. Any attention from any woman, is always welcome. Too bad she's married. Gotta look for that ring. I think that's where you should leave it... "Too bad she's married."
Now, go find that LOOK from Shania Twain... errr, <shakes head as she's married too>... from someone that you meet at a bookstore following FC's pickup scenario!
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Lyxa,
Thanks for the reply. You made me laugh. I saw your other thread about Shania. Me, I'm partial to Martina as others have said. Hell, I love 'em all. Female that is <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My ex still communicates with me and tells me news etc. I think her A is close to being dead. I am still somewhat hopeful.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why are you communicating with her? Do you still have some hope of remarrying her?
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Getting better----sure you are lonely, so am I but do you want to see some other spouse hurt like you have? Hot fleeting feelings don't give us what we really need....Everything around us tells us that you need to do what feels good. I often think that maybe some casual, intimate R with someone would dull the pain but then I think about the fact that I had sex without committment in my M so why do I want that again. I might as well stay married and live in my beautiful home with all that I love if all I want is sex without committment.
Married people belong to someone else whether they are happy or not with that person. Don't even let yourself play with the thoughts of this women. If she is giving you the look while marrtied to someone else, I bet she is not someone you could respect long term or even trust much after the hot feelings pass. Not to mention how you would feel about yourself if you did violate someone else's marriage vows.
That is the trouble we are all in cause our spouses gave into those "feelings" and look at all the devastating pain on this board including the added pain you will inflict on yourself. Infidelity is a no win situation and I think casual sex is a close second to winning nothing.
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