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#75077 05/22/01 11:25 PM
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I'm 24 and engaged with the perfect woman to compliment my character and personality. The first time that we talked seriously I had a feeling that she would be my wife someday. Time passed and it confirmed what I felt in my heart originally, as well as for her. I love her so much that I want to be the best husband that I can be. I plan to be married for life with this woman and so I'm trying to learn as much as I can about marriage before I get into it....since I've never been married before. At the moment I'm reading "His needs, her needs.", I love the book but I'm hungry to know more and more about the different aspects of marriage and how to react to different situations in marriage. If anyone can give a list of good books that will help me even more in preparing for marriage I'll be very grateful. And maybe someone can give me an order in which I should read certain books, maybe from most important area in marriage to least important. Thank you in advance.

#75078 05/22/01 11:48 PM
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I want to say that it's really great that your excited about getting married. One of the most improtance things of marriage is to communicate with each other. When problems arise, talk to each other and try your best to compromise a solution. Be respectful to each other, and try your best to fulfill each other's needs in everyway possible. Always show each other your appreciation for what you do for each other. There is no actual order to read any books of marriage. Just read them and learn things from them. Also ask people on here, that's what this site is for. To get what ever info you would like to know or need. I've been married for a year and 2 months. One thing that i've learned is, you need to get adjusted to each other's own ways of doing things differently. The first year or two are always the hardest.

#75079 05/23/01 09:20 AM
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Wish you all the best. I like Dr Harleys books. Theres another out there - cant remember the name. But the author is John Gottman. He talks about the 4 things that ruin relationships, calls them the "4 Horses of the Apocalypse". 2 that I remember are criticism & contempt. He explains these very well & has some assessment questions in there.

#75080 05/29/01 08:25 PM
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My roommate is engaged, and she has a book which I thought was very helpful, even for couples who are ready for marriage. I can't remember the author, but it was called "Should We Stay Together?"<P>Even if you are absolutely certain about your fiancee, there are still the issues of establishing a combined household and uniting two lifestyles, and this book had lots of worksheets and questions that I thought would really help a couple communicate and learn about one another before they take the final step. I will certainly use it when my time comes.


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