Hi guys, never thought that I'd be in this situation and accepted it, but not so happy (I imagine nearly everyone feels this way?)

Finding that now the anger is starting to come out slowly and surely. It gets me when I'm not ready for it and makes me snappy at times. I have been trying to keep up activites such as dancing, yoga and diving to get rid of it. I think I may need some more counselling actually.

The dv/property settlement thing is such a slow process and has been extremely exhausting for me. I plan to use some of my settlement to take a O/S holiday at the end of the year - Mexico's looking good <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Just wanted you to know I'm here I guess.
Liz

Sea,

Am sorry that you have to find your way to this board. You will find the same great support here as you did on GQII!!! And you are right there are some of us that don't like the fact that we are here because of someones bad behavior!!

The anger and sadness still hit from time to time, and my DV was final in Nov. I am still mad that he allowed himself the weakness of an OW/wife now. He has never apologised for what this has done to me or our family, continues with I had to do what makes me happy!!!UGH!!!!

Was here this weekend for OD graduation, and put me on total ignore!!! I have lost over 50lbs since Aug and he didn't even have the courtsey to acknowledge it!!! His loss!! Actually no it was mine!!

Take care and welcome!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Seahorse,
I recognize your name from other boards...sorry you've had to move to this arena but there are some good solid people here. A lot of them were not posting over the weekend and that may explain the lack of responses. Just wanted to say "hello".

Hi daybreak and avondale, thanks for your support. I am trying to find the good in all this and get on with it. I know there will be a lot of support and inspiration here.

Not the road I wanted but then its the road God wants.

Thanks again.

Seahorse,

Hi, I haven't talked to you in a long while. I am sad to see that things haven't worked out as you wished. I have thought about you and others but haven't posted much, just browse occasionally to see how friends are doing. I see so many new people on the boards it makes me so sad and I remember when I was new.

I am divorced now. But I accepted it and have moved forward. Well, sideways sometimes. I had my last real cry and really gave up on New Year's eve. It was kind of theraputic. It was like I knew I had given all I could and that I didn't care to try any more. It was over.

As you know my H moved out of state and we never really established any meaningful contact, I guess I never really had a chance, but all the Plan A helped me get through, as did friends like you.

I am sorry that the anger gets you, I guess I worked through that earlier, probably because of the circumstances.

I am dating a nice man, we are semi-serious. But who knows. I really love him though but I think we are both scared. Him, because he's never been married... ME, because I HAVE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I am glad to see you are doing things to help you through, I know getting back out into the world really helped me. It is so hard sometimes, I don't think you can ever talk about it, pray about it, think about it enough to get through, you just have to do those things and if worse comes to worse, gradually, at your own pace, let go.

I wish you all the best. I will try to check in on you. It seems like most I talked to in the beginning have disappeared. Maybe they just browse like me. I admire those like Orchid who hang on and help others. I just couldn't do it.

Anyway, take care.

Sharon

I will tell you the good. . .

you dated and selected young. . . you found MB. . . you don't have kids. . that i can see. . . you can find someone who you recognize through MB that will be a life long partner. . . and a good one. . .

accept one that embraces counseling if necessary. . or pre-marriage. . . take in a marriage workshop with him and watch him carefully. . . educate your self on what selfish and controlling people act like, and avoid them. . . try to marry someone similar to yourself, similar interests, similar family backgrounds, similar education levels. . . such that you have an easy time relating. . and then take the personality tests and see what incompatibilities you will likely run up against in the rest of your lifetime. . .

wiftty