Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, mojodiva, adamv, Army Hubby

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted(first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind(Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored)

Don't forget to pray for yourselves and your kids!

Blessings to you all.

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[quote]
For all the negative things we have to say to
ourselves, God has a positive answer for us! For,
When You say, "It's impossible".
God says: "All things are possible". ( Luke 18:27 )

When You say, "I'm too tired."
God says: "I will give you rest". ( Matthew 11:28-20 )

When You say, "Nobody really loves me".
God says: "I love you". ( John 3:16 & John 13:34 )

When You say, "I can't go on."
God says: "My grace is sufficient." ( 2 Corin 12:9 &
Psalm 91:15 )

When You say, "I can't figure things out."
God says: "I will direct your steps." ( Proverbs 3:5-6 )

When You say, "I can't do it."
God says: "You can do all things in Me." ( Phil 4:13 )

When You say, "It's not worth it."
God says: "It will be worth it." ( Romans 8:28 )

When You say, "I can't forgive myself."
God says: "I forgive you." ( I John 1:9 & Romans 8:1)

When You say, "I can't manage."
God says: "I will supply all your needs." ( Phil 4:19 )

When You say, "I'm afraid."
God says: "I have not given you a spirit of fear." ( 2 Tim. 1:7 )

When You say, "I'm always worried and frustrated"..
God says: "Cast all your cares on ME ( 1 Peter 5:7 )

When You say, "I don't have enough faith."
God says: "I've given everyone a measure of faith."
( Romans 12:3 )

When You say, "I'm not smart enough."
God says: "I give you wisdom." ( 1 Corin 1:30 )

When You say, "I feel all alone."
God says: "I will never leave you or forsake you."
( Hebrews 13:5 )

Always remember that; EVERY WORD OF GOD IS
FLAWLESS; HE IS A SHIELD TO THOSE WHO TAKE
REFUGE IN HIM. ( PROVERBS 30:5 ) FOR THE
WORD OF GOD IS LIVING AND ACTIVE indeed!
Amen. ( HEBREWS 4:12 )

Please add my husband and I to the list. (Gail & Shane)

I (the BS) am getting ready to leave for University in August for 9 months while he cares for our children (15 & 9) so I can finish my Bachelor's. Please pray that he will remain committed and avoid temptation while I am away and that he will see how important our marriage really is. Pray that I do not allow my own doubts to cloud my judgement. We are a military family.

We are Noachides, and I know most of you are Christians here, but I believe all prayers are heard by God. I appreciate the help.

Please add me to the list. We have not even started any legalities yet. Mediation date set for6/13. Friday the 13th!! I have a 7yr.old a 14 and 16 yr. old. 2 teens want to live with me.I want all of'em and they want us back together.W
in a fog. Can't see nothing but OM. Getting ducks in a row and holding on for the ride. I made decision yesterday "I am standing for my marriage". God is great and good and a miracle worker. She says it's over but family portrait still hanging in home. Is this some kind of sign? I keep waiting to see if she is going to take it down. Anyway Thanks!!

Hello to all,

Just want you to know that I am praying for all of you. Please pray for me and my WH, Dan. He is still living w/OW and tells me his feelings for her have not changed and does not want to be married to me. It will be a year in July and I have been trying to wait it out, thinking the affair would end and trying to follow Dr. Harley's advice. I have had a tough week. I have been really angry and having trouble dealing with the anger. So, please pray for restoration of our marriage, that he will leave the OW and that I will deal with the anger and be able to start praying for my WH, as I have been.

Steadfast...

...I would like to be added to your list; praying that my wife changes works out whatever feelings she's having and doesn't leave with my four daughters.

Mike

mojodiva, adamv and Army Hubby, I've added your names to the list.

Here's Chapter 2 from Power of a Praying Husband.

"Her Spirit".

Your wife’s spirit is the gas in her car. Without the daily infilling of the Holy Spirit, we all run on empty. If a woman doesn't spend enough time every day with the Lord in prayer, worship, and the Word of God, she will lose ground , and the enemy of her soul will run her down. Your wife’s relationship with God will affect her relationship with you more than anything else.

In Stormie Omartian’s (author if the book) survey of women, the number-one area in which women most wanted their husbands to pray for them is their spiritual walk. Because women feel pulled in so many directions, they need prayer for patience, love, peace, and all the other fruits of the spirit to be manifested in their lives.

Another good reason to pray for your wife's spiritual walk is that it is far better if both of you are putting your expectations in God

This is the prayer at the end of chapter. You can use it or use your own or use a combination of both.

PRAYER

LORD, as much as I love my wife, I know You love her more. I realize that I cannot meet her every need and expectation, but You can. I pray that you will give (wifes name) the fulfillment of knowing You in a deeper and richer way than she ever has before. Help her to be diligent and steadfast in her walk with You, never doubting or wavering. Make her strong in spirit and give her an ever increasing faith that always believes that You will answer her prayers.

Help her to carve out time every day to spend with You in Your Word and in prayer and praise. May Your Words abide in her, so that when she prays You will give her the desires of her heart(John 15:7). Help her to increase her knowledge of You. May she turn to You first for everything as You beome her constant companion. Give her discernment and revelation and enable her to hear Your voice instructing her. Help her to stay focused on You, no matter how great the storm is around her, so that she never strays off the path You have for her. Keep me aware of when she needs a fresh filling of Your Spirit so that I will be prompted to pray.

It is the desire of her heart to be a godly example to her friends and family, so give her patience with everyone she encounters. Help her to be so filled with Your Spirit that people sense Your presence when they are in her presence. I know she wants to serve You, but help her to understand when to say no if she is being asked to do more than she should. May she glorify You in all she does.

Your Word says that whoever finds You finds life and obtains Your favor(proverbs 8:35), so I pray that (wifes name) will find new life in You today and enjoy Your blessings poured out upon her. Guide her in everything she does, so that she becomes the dynamic, mighty, woman of God You want her to be. Give her knowledge of Your will and enable her to stay in the center of it. Help her to trust You with all her heart and not depend on her own understanding. May she acknowledge You in all her ways(Proverbs 3:5,6)

Be bold tomorrow. Remember, all we are required to do is to "stand firm" and the enemy will flee. We have authority in our lives, our marriages and our family.

See you all at the cross tomorrow.

S&C

Well, friends, I guess I'm asking for an extra measure of prayer this week.

I hate to be selfish in this regard, but this is "Trigger Week" for me, I just figured that out. You see, it was 2 years ago this week that H left. It was 1 yr ago this week that we went to Mediation, and soon after that (in June, so another trigger coming soon) that Div was granted. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I have been jittery, weepy, crying myself to sleep, crying when I wake up, crying while driving to work, and just bursting into tears over nothing while at work. OK, well, maybe not nothing - too much work-related stress, for sure, but I am fairly certain the TRIGGERS are the main reason.

No, folks, it's NOT "PMS" or anything remotely related to that (I'm done with all that stuff) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> - It's definitely related to H's actions (or lack of......)

Also, satan having a hey-day with me.....whispering things like, "See? He's not coming back....he's never coming back.....it's been 2 years.....get over him.....give up your stand....."

Well, I feel like I have been very strong for quite awhile, but now am starting to weaken, and thinking maybe I'm wrong in Standing......I hate to think those thoughts, but that's where I am.

This is a tough time.

Thank you all for continuing to pray and believe......

Please remember ole' Lupolady tomorrow, 'k? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Hey there lupo...

Just wanted to let you know you are always on my prayer list. Also I wanted to tell you that most of the time when we go through hard times we seem to focus on what the enemy is telling us. He does this to get us to forget how God has worked in our lives in the past. When we forget what he has done for us we don't feel like we have anything to cling to.

Do you have something that God has seen you through? He still does care for you and won't let you down.

Love in Christ.

S&C

LupoLady - Many changes, and many challenges. We all are praying for you, and the upcoming triggers. Hold on, keep with us all, and we will help you.

My stbxh (yes still this) is working on the house of his mothers, hopefully she will be in the house this weekend, if not, don't know what to say. SNL is working hard on the house, still being critical, and I gave it to him today. Just tired of him manipulating the kids, so pray for SNL. And to be thoughtful to me and the kids.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lupolady:
<strong>Well, friends, I guess I'm asking for an extra measure of prayer this week ... this is "Trigger Week" for me ... I have been jittery, weepy, crying myself to sleep, crying when I wake up, crying while driving to work, and just bursting into tears over nothing while at work ... This is a tough time ... Please remember ole' Lupolady tomorrow, 'k? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Miss Lupolady,

Before I go any further, I just wanted to say that while I appreciate that you and S&C have taken over the task of this weekly prayer thread, I miss cajunky. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Even if he's not coming here anymore, I still pray for him.

Okay--now on to the topic at hand. Miss Lupolady, I have also gone through this in my life. I'm cruising along okayish--maybe "happy" even--and then for about a week I'm weepy, and depressed, and discouraged, and tired, and crying over nothing! At first I thought maybe I really WAS the one with mood swings after all (haha), but eventually I came to realize that the mind does a wonderful thing for us...it deals with things when it is ready.

You see, Miss Lupo, when my exH had his big PA in 2000, the betrayal was immense! The pain and rejection were literally a boulder I could not deal with--and unfortunately in my M, my exH continued to add smaller boulders as long as we were together. Thus, I was always dealing with the boulder AT HAND, and while I cleared away as much as I could, the extra rocks/weight from each new boulder eventually added up!

My exH's A was three years ago--and since then he's had a few more EA's--but it has taken me this long to begin facing the final bits of it! We've been separated since Dec. 2002 and since no new boulders have been added, I've begun to face the old boulders. My mind is ready and there's been enough "peace" and "time" for my mind to work through it a bit. So, when I have a week that is weepy and discouraged, I know now that this is my mind saying it's ready to face the hurt that I felt when my exH (whom I dearly loved) chose someone else over me. I have dreams of going to Vegas on vacation and running into him--and in invites me to his wedding to a hooker. I have dreams of him making out with another woman right in front of me and then telling me I made it all up. I have dreams of him coming to a place like work or something with his current floozie and YELLING at me that he loves HER and he never did love me--he just used me all along for free babysitting and cleaning and I was no good at them! I have dreams I can not recall, but I wake up shaking and pale and crying--sometimes in sorrow and sometimes in rage!

Lupo, I think this is my mind's way of telling me, "I'm ready now. I'm ready to feel the grief and betrayal and DEAL WITH IT and move beyond it. As long as I think about it but don't move beyond it, I'm really just still stuck in it...and same for you. As long as you think about your triggers but don't move beyond them, you will really just still be stuck in them.

Here is your promise for the week: Isaiah 26:3 "You will keep him in perfect peace who's mind is stayed on thee." Lupo, He PROMISES you perfect peace--even during trigger week--if your mind is stayed on Him. So, chick, STAY YOUR MIND!!

Your true and faithful friend,

CJ

Lupo,

I know how you feel. I can remember dates well. Sometimes it is a blessing and other times it can feel like a curse. Three years ago this month my husband filed for divorce. Two years ago this month I lost my home. Last week I was having a hard time. I was crying a lot. I was in so much pain. I even cried in front of my husband which I try not to do and I am sure you know why.

Well, as you may know three years ago my husband said he was never coming home. A year ago he said ,"I am not coming back".

Well, I talked to him Sat. about why I had been upset last week. He had told me Wed night, when I was upset, that I could talk to him(this was a blessing in itself). I said I couldn't. I didn't want to tell him how I was feeling because I know it is important to let him go. After praying about this for a few days, I decided it was important for him to know what I was upset about because when we were together I was very depressed and upset about many things. Anyway, I told him Sat that the only thing I was sad about was because I missed him and still had a lot of pain most days. Finally, after over three years of allowing God to change me, my husband didn't say anything at all. This is so good because any other time that anything has come up about us he has said he was not coming back. This time he said NOTHING.I had been so afraid to said anything because of my fear of hearing those words... I am not coming back.

Well, last night he came over and we started talking about someone else's divorce and issues. I was defending this person by saying that I knew how this person felt by still being sad and hurt about the lost. Husband said, "well I hurt too, I am lonely at times," he said, "you can even hurt like this and still be living with the spouse." Of course, I knew he was talking about the hurt I had caused him. He also said, "everyone is always asking me why I don't do something one way or another(get divorce or come home)".He said, I don't know why I can't make up my mind, I really don't know why I don't." Boy, is this a change!
There was no," the divorce will happen" or " I am never coming back".This is the first time he has even talk to me about our marriage in anyway for over two years.

God is working on him. I had my doubts this past week and I have cried out to God to show me something encouraging about my marriage.I know your story is different than mine but, then again they are the same. God is working on my husband's heart and he is working on your husband's heart also. I had believed that my husband's heart was softening but I couldn't "see" it changing. I let it get to me this past week. So I know how you feel. I was doubting and I would repent and then be back in the same spot again.

God hears and He answers. He cares about our marriages. Keep believeing keep standing. I was just saying, "God will he ever start to change, what will it take?" Then, God showed me that his heart is changing. I am still trying to take it all in. Believe me, this is a HUGH answer to prayer.

Praise God ever time Satan starts his lies. Look at the good and believe there are changes taking place. It took my husband a long time to get to this point and for him to say that he doesn't know why he can't do anything one way or another right now, shows that God is working on him. My husband doesn't know why he can't go ahead with the divorce, but I know why he can't and so do you.

Just keep calling out to God and believe.

gentle

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Hi all.....I just had to check in and tell you that I am still praying for all of you as well as my marriage. God did something last nite that awakened me to a lot of things.

I had actually met someone a couple of weeks ago and we had been seeing each other quite a bit. We are getting along great and I have actually shared all my past with her and she shared her past with me so we have been very open and honest with each other. I actually started falling in love with her. I have gotten to know her kids and my kids met her for the first time this weekend and they bonded right away. My little girl (9 years old) actually spent the whole day over there Monday while I was at work and had a blast bonding with her and her kids. In fact when we left to take my girl back they hugged and when my little girl started to walk off she turned around and went back and gave her a big hug on her own.

I have been wondering if I was moving to quick or if I still had unresolved issues but it felt right and I really was praying about it. In fact me and her have been praying together quite a bit which is something I didn't do with my wife that I now wish I could redo.

Last nite I was over at her house and my "former' wife called out of the blue to talk about some mattresses I had asked her about earlier in the day. We got into several different issues and the next thing I knew we were talking about my affairs and mine and hers computer cybersex. She told me what she did was not being unfaithful but I told her what I did was by far worse but she was still unfaithful. Granted, she started out because she wanted revenge but it got out of hand for the both of us. I fantasized about some of her stuff and encouraged some of it but it tore me up when I found it and couldn't stop her from doing it.

My wife was crying and talking. The thing is, this is the first time she has ever talked about this in a 1.5 years. I have tried but she never will.

When I got off the phone my girlfriend was upset. She said what she heard was a lot of unresolved issues. She asked me if my wife came back right now and asked me to try and work it out for the kids sake what would I do? I couldn't answer because I know in my heart I would do anything possible to put my family back together.

The question is this. Did my girl go home and tell my "former" wife about my girlfriend? Is my "former" wife now gasping for breath like I did when she thinks of someone else raising her children? Is she thinking she may have given up to soon for the kids sake?

I have been praying all day about this. A very good female friend from church (who I do things with her and her husband) told me I have to go get her and talk to her. She started crying on the phone because she has been praying as hard as I have for my marriage. She told me today that everyone in church says that we were such a tight couple and they can't believe that we got divorced. She told me lots of people are still praying for us.

I just need all of your prayers on this so I will do what God wants me to do and I want you all to especially pray for my wife so she does what God wants her to do.

Oh yea...just a side note. About two weeks ago I had to get something out of my "former" wifes car and I noticed her bible sitting there with a card still in it that I gave her last valentines day. To me if she really loved her fiance and is truelly wanting to get married she would have gotten rid af all things like that. Maybe it is another sign from God to keep standing for my marriage.

Love you guys!!!!!

Love in Christ
cajunky

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gentle,
Praise God! I just checked in to see if there were any additional prayer requests, and I read your reply to lady. Thank you for sharing your experience and your faith with us. I really needed to hear your words, especially this week.

lady,

I just want to say that I am praying for you and you are not being selfish. You have helped me so much in the past few months by your kindness and faithfulness you displayed in your posts. I want you to know that you inspire me to be bold and more courageous because you are. I wish there was something I could say, but I think gentle and the others said it best. My prayers are with you today and all week this week, as they are with all the others who post here.

FW,

Believe me, no-one misses cajunky more than I do. I feel whoafully inadequate about keeping this thread going. I don't feel like I can do it the justice that it's due compared to when cajunky was doing it (in case you didn't read between the lines Caj, I miss you too!)

Caj,

Can you believe it? Just speak his name and Cajunky appears. It's good to hear from you my friend. Glad to hear that things are happening for you. I'm sure it seems quite confusing right but I think once you have a chance to be alone with God, He will reveal more things to you (if He hasn't already).

My prayer for you has always been for Him to give you your heart's desire.

Lupo... Praying for peace and comfort for you.

And everyone else, "We are more than Conquerors!" Remind the enemy.

Bless you all. Let us know about any answered prayer or words of comfort you get this week.

Thank you ALL for keeping this thread going!

S&C

Add my WH and myself to your prayer list. He is still living with the OW (she was married four times and has him living with her). Say a special prayer for her too, she claims to be so religious, one of her exhusbands was a preacher. We were married 50 years last summer she kept having him do little favors for her and flattered him deeply into that fog. (He is 70 and she is 56).

Hi, all!

I wanted to share some answered prayers/praises with you.

First, I GOT A JOB!! Yay!! Just in the nick of time, but you know, that's how God is! I'm working as administrator at a small, family-owned security firm, and it's REALLY fun (I'm surrounded by men all day--heehee). The pay is not "huge" but it's enough to provide for the family even if exH decided to postpone/mess with child support.

Second, I found a townhouse! My kids and I have been looking for "our place" for about a month now, and we decided on certain things that were "minimums" and certain things that we'd like but weren't required (i.e., we decided it had to take pets--we've had enough loss this year and didn't need to lose our pets too). Well, about 1 mile from our house (same neighborhood, friends, and schools) we found a townhouse with two master bedrooms upstairs and another one in the basement (for my son!)--that takes pets--that has a pool--AND that I can afford! YAY!! We are moving in June.

Third, on May 23, 2003, my divorce was final. Yes, I know it sounds weird but I was praying it would be final on that day because my exH and I agreed on everything, but he kept periodically pulling the "I'm going to break our agreement" threat. How do I say this? It was apparent that he was NOT going to change his mind and stop the divorce, so I was praying that we could at least end it peacefully and without dragging each other through the mud--and we did. I never, ever wanted this divorce...I wanted him to love me and be faithful to me, but that was not what he was willing to do. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Anyway, it is the way it is, and I feel pretty relieved that at least it's over and I can move on with my life: my kids, my new house, and my new job! I'm grateful it was a peaceful signing and a peaceful day. I'm grateful that I feel serenity right now...I believe I am in the process of accepting something I could not change. I'm grateful to have been given the gifts I have received. I'm grateful to hear an update from Cajunky too!! What a blessing!!! And this may sound silly, but I'm grateful for my puppy--he is so joyful and full of life that it's just contagious...plus, he just LOVES me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Your true and faithful friend,

CJ

Keep on praying for me and my kids we are all hurting so much. I wish my husband would realize how much we want him home and how much we love him. Please give him the strength to forgive me for my past mistakes I have made, as I can forgive him.

Thanks, everyone.

I certainly feel better now. I KNOW your prayers have helped!!

I have also heard several sermons about "Praising God No Matter What" - Could God be trying to tell me something? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

steadfast and committed, I appreciate your taking over this task, and I want to let you know God has seen me through much during all this. We had just moved into our "dream home" - after spending 5 months renovating it (H left 2 weeks after we moved in). I could NOT afford it on my own! Somehow I am doing great financiallY!! God has blessed me immensely, cleared up all the credit issues created with this undertaking (the house renovations), and I have money in the bank!! PTL.

Faith4me - thank you for remembering to pray for me.

Faithfulwife - I always enjoy your thoughts/comments. You are my "counter-balance." It seems like you and I "Zig and Zag" to every issue, but it always seems to keep me grounded and forces me to look at issues in a way I had not thought of!

Gentle - I thank you for the uplifting report!! It's exactly what I hope/pray for!! H will just GET IT one day. Hopefully soon.

Cajeanie, Thank you for the prayers. That is enough....sisters and brothers who pray us through our low times.

CAJUNK!!!!!!!!!! Bro. Sure enough, we bring up your name, AND HERE YOU ARE!!! Good to hear from you. I hope you are walking ONLY where God wants you! DO NOT stray from HIS side. ONLY THERE will you find His Peace and His Presence.
I hope you can at least READ here and pray with us every week. STILL BELIEVING GOD IN YOUR SITUATION, too.

I appreciate sooooooooooo muuuuuuuuch what each of you have said to me! I also appreciate the prayers I KNOW went up for me.

God Bless all of you, brothers and sisters.

Please also add me to your Wednesday Prayer list.

My husband and I have been separated for 3 1/2 months now. He just said he wanted out and just left me. I miss him and love him very much still. He was seeing another W after he left but I don't think they're together anymore. He just seems very confused with life and is not sure of what he wants. But he does say that coming back to our marriage is not it. I know that God is working in him and myself as well. Please pray for us that we may have hope for restoration. This month will be our 5 year anniversary and as the date gets closer my heart hurts more. I pray every day but I would really like it if you could all pray for me as well. Thank you for all the support provided here. (I'm new but love it here) Thanks!