My EX used to put me down, act like I was a nothing.......never complemented me on anything. Especially how I looked, now that Ive been on my own for over a year and have met someone...... She says I look like I have been working out alot and always stares at me, and tries to sit very close to me when I go to my childs soccer games. Its funny how I never got that kind of treatment before she decided to divorce me. I think its quite interesting how when you have something it looks like "regular Ol Crackers", but when you gave them up.....they look like "tha best dayum Crackers Made".

that is pretty interesting (and sad) for sure!!

My EX used to put me down, act like I was a nothing.......never complemented me on anything.
She never complemented you on anything & you still got married?

She says I look like I have been working out alot and always stares at me, and tries to sit very close to me when I go to my childs soccer games. Its funny how I never got that kind of treatment before she decided to divorce me.
Were you literally held at gunpoint and forced to marry this "awful" woman? The way you describe her, it seems as if she never meant anything to you nor did she ever do anything good or right for the marriage.

<small>[ May 28, 2003, 02:24 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>

She was YOUNG when she was nice.......my mistake, I married a young inexperienced woman. I know I made that mistake. She matured into who she was gonna be....an awful woman. Chris...Im not kidding.....noone I know likes her. Not my parents, extended family, all my friends....you name it. She is still bitter and unhappy...she talks back to her parents, brother and sister inlaw, she uses people, the whole shot. Ya know what? I was gonna tolerate all that for my childrens sake and I made the decision to marry her. Yes....I married a person who became awful. After meeting my fiance, Im not upset that we didnt stay together. My fiance is so much nicer and pleasant. All of the people who had a problem with my EX adores my fiance. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Chris, I understand why you are dissappointed in your WW, but still love her dearly......but my EX, she had alot of issues. She had some good qualities.....very intelligent, pretty, and extremely talented......but she was vindictive, bitter, selfish, and MATERIALISTIC. Everyone saw it more clearly than I did, because I loved her. Now that Im in another relationship, I now see it clearly. I see what a partner in marriage should be like. A relationship should not have been as difficult as my last one. My fiance is 30, and is how she is going to be.....my EX was what I wanted at 21yrs old, but after that.....she was awful.

Chris, I understand why you are dissappointed in your WW, but still love her dearly
???
I understand why I'm disappointed but I don't understand why you think I, "still love her dearly." I know I haven't said that in years and I don't believe I have even implied it anywhere.

<small>[ May 28, 2003, 02:50 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>

Excuse me.......I just figured you still loved her. I guess I mean care for her???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Have I given the impression that I love her or even "care"?

Because I don't say I was sorry to marry her and don't say she was a terrible wife/person, (until her affair anyway), does that mean I "care" about her?

Ok....skip it....forget I said anything about your WW. I wasnt trying to analyse your situation, I just added that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Also, Im not sorry I married her.....she was great until she matured. Im sorry I married someone who had not experienced life a bit. From 17yrs old to 31yrs old she was with me. I really believe she needed to date others before me.....to see what different guys are like. She thought I was purty sorry and she could find guys like me lined up on the street. I guess? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

You are probably experiencing a common phenomenom in which a man(or woman) suddenly becomes attractive to his(her) ex when he(or she) is seen with another woman(or man). It even happens with female strangers that see you in the company of another woman, especially an attractive one. It's great for the ego <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> but not something that should make you beleive that you are God's gift to women.

Yippie your back. Oh that is right I said that somewhere else didn't I? oops.

Anyway, I had the same thing happen. When I was with ex-h he always called me fat and ugly and the C word (inwhich I despise very much) when we weren't together he would make little comments like "you look nice today" "have you lost a few pounds". I used to think to myself nice of you to notice now. Do I care what he thinks? NO
Becuase when we get into it even now about our son he goes back to the name calling. He did it just the other day when I didn't answer the phone. He left a message "what is your fat A** doing now". nice uh.

Anyway they say they always miss what they don't have right. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Hi Itsover! Man, if I didn't know it was you posting this, I would say your ex-wife sounds like a CARBON COPY of mine - except that she lives in Alaska and never moved beyond the ANGER/HATRED/BITTER/REVENGE Stage of Divorce Recovery...
I married her when she was 17 and she should have dated others before me. We divorced when she was 35.
I left her with nearly everything and that still wasn't enough - she wanted more.
My Family never really accepted her, even after 17 years of marriage. My Family told me, "T**** is NO LONGER a part of this family. Do not mention her name again." On the other hand, they dearly love my Wife, and call her 'Our Angel'..
Of course my Wife is very mature and wise beyond her years...
Harold
Just my $.02 worth to toss in the pot..
Your ex doesn't live in Alaska, does she???
Harold

NoteBookDude.......my mother says she better not ever see, or speak to my EX again. She said she is gonna give her a piece of her mind, and had been holding back since we were married. You wanna talk about someone who was never happy??? I married my EX when she was 20 and bought her a $1200 ring...I was in college at the time and couldnt afford much. Well, she was unhappy with the ring and I traded it up to a $3600 ring a few years later after we were married. About 3yrs ago.....I traded that up to a $7200 ring that she just HAD to have. Guess what? That thing is probably sittin in her jewelry box, or has been turned into a necklace. The woman was just NEVER happy. A new $30K truck was NOT good enough, neither was our $150K house....but now, with OM she has them both and they are working out fine. Sad thing is......she is still unhappy. Our friends tell me. She will never be happy. I just dont understand it. That is OK, my family LOVES my fiance.....they said I would be a fool not to marry her. I bought my fiance a $1500 ring for our engagement, and you could have swore she won the lottery. She actually told me I could have bought her anything and she would have been happy. As long as we were together. We have also bought a new home, she breaks her neck taking care of it.....she appreciates everything. A big change from what I was used to. Good luck my man, and God Bless!!!

jj71197- How are you today, I would just like to add that your EX sounds like a jerk. Also sounds like he hasnt changed. Name calling sucks! I actually like woman that are thick.......my fiance is petite, but is NOT skinny. She has curves <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . Her EX only liked thin woman with big boobs.

Thank you,
Yes he is a jerk. I like me just the way I am. I'm not real thick but I turned most of it to muscle but I am ok with that. Hope all is well.