I was willing to change after my W had her affair, but she said that I will not change. She wanted to be with this OM becuase he makes her fell good. As for the day when she realizes what she had done, it would difficult for me to say that I will take her back. By then i will be back on track with my life, seeing someone new, and once a cheater always a cheater. My W said, she had sex with a nother man and liked it, so I will not go through the trouble of rebuilding for it to happen five or ten years later.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by strike two:
<strong>I was willing to change after my W had her affair, but she said that I will not change. She wanted to be with this OM becuase he makes her fell good. As for the day when she realizes what she had done, it would difficult for me to say that I will take her back. By then i will be back on track with my life, seeing someone new, and once a cheater always a cheater. My W said, she had sex with a nother man and liked it, so I will not go through the trouble of rebuilding for it to happen five or ten years later.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry you feel that way.

I guess you don't really need a MarriageBuilders site, then.

This place exists for those of us who are willing to take ownership of our share of the breakdown of our M's, see what can be done to fix ourselves, and become better spouses.

IF the opportunity arose (and it almost always does) to repair our M's with our current spouses, we would then have the tools necessary to have a better marriage than ever imagined.

To just pick up your toys, "get yourself back on track" and move on to someone new doesn't really guarantee your success. Only that YOU will have tried to fix your version of marriage by engaging in new (maybe some old) behaviors with someone who hasn't lied, cheated, or broken your heart (YET).

Good luck to you.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lupolady:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by strike two:
<strong>I was willing to change after my W had her affair, but she said that I will not change. She wanted to be with this OM becuase he makes her fell good. As for the day when she realizes what she had done, it would difficult for me to say that I will take her back. By then i will be back on track with my life, seeing someone new, and once a cheater always a cheater. My W said, she had sex with a nother man and liked it, so I will not go through the trouble of rebuilding for it to happen five or ten years later.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry you feel that way.

I guess you don't really need a MarriageBuilders site, then.

This place exists for those of us who are willing to take ownership of our share of the breakdown of our M's, see what can be done to fix ourselves, and become better spouses.

IF the opportunity arose (and it almost always does) to repair our M's with our current spouses, we would then have the tools necessary to have a better marriage than ever imagined.

To just pick up your toys, "get yourself back on track" and move on to someone new doesn't really guarantee your success. Only that YOU will have tried to fix your version of marriage by engaging in new (maybe some old) behaviors with someone who hasn't lied, cheated, or broken your heart (YET).

Good luck to you.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lupolady:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by strike two:
<strong>I was willing to change after my W had her affair, but she said that I will not change. She wanted to be with this OM becuase he makes her fell good. As for the day when she realizes what she had done, it would difficult for me to say that I will take her back. By then i will be back on track with my life, seeing someone new, and once a cheater always a cheater. My W said, she had sex with a nother man and liked it, so I will not go through the trouble of rebuilding for it to happen five or ten years later.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry you feel that way.

I guess you don't really need a MarriageBuilders site, then.

This place exists for those of us who are willing to take ownership of our share of the breakdown of our M's, see what can be done to fix ourselves, and become better spouses.

IF the opportunity arose (and it almost always does) to repair our M's with our current spouses, we would then have the tools necessary to have a better marriage than ever imagined.

To just pick up your toys, "get yourself back on track" and move on to someone new doesn't really guarantee your success. Only that YOU will have tried to fix your version of marriage by engaging in new (maybe some old) behaviors with someone who hasn't lied, cheated, or broken your heart (YET).

Good luck to you.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">THIS IS NOT A GOOD THING TO SAY. MAYBE LUPOLADY WILL USE THIS SITE TO WORK ON A NEW MARRIAGE ONE DAY, IF HIS PRESENT ONE IS FINISHED. IM DIVORCED, AND IM RELIEVED I DO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH MY EX ANYMORE, BUT I DO USE THIS SITE TO HELP WITH ADVISE IF NECESSARY AND TO USE ON BUILDING MY NEW MARRIAGE. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />