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I know this will sound strange, but I have different situation. I had a 1.5 year long affair. We divorced 3 months ago so we could put the past behind us and work at getting back. I met people and she met people. Niether one of us got into a serious relationship and we talked about us getting back together. Well 2 weeks ago she got very drunk and slept with a total stranger. First she said she wanted only me, then her starting thinking maybe she wanted to explore a relationship with this person or at least get to know him. Now it is 2 weeks later and he called her for the first time and they are going to go away for the weekend together. Am i stupid to think that she will come back wanting me and she is just trying to care of some unfinished business? Or should I take this as a sign that she is done with me and moving on? She says she is sorry that this hurts and that she knows this other relationship will go no where. What should I do, how should I react? I know she still loves me and wants to be with me as I want to be with her. Please give me some feed back.
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Why do you say that you KNOW she wants you back?
I think you want to believe that she wants you back. I'm sorry to say but I think she's moving on even if she knows this guy won't last.
You two are divorced now. If you really want to find out if she wants to return, let her be. She'll come back if she really wants to work it out. Don't push her! That's not the way to get her back.
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I don't buy the getting drunk and having sex with a 'total stranger' story. Especially because she is going away with him for a weekend. Why not ask her if she learned anything from your A?
I can understand you if it was a ONS but an ongoing EA/PA? I'm sorry but you are delusional if you beleive that she loves you while blatantly starting an EA/PA with this other guy, and since you two are no longer married to each other, she's not going to drop him that easily. Unless you want to be her backup BF that's going to be there for her if their relationship goes bust, you may want to consider breaking up with her and moving on.
<small>[ June 07, 2003, 10:26 AM: Message edited by: T00MuchCoffeeMan ]</small>
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