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My H and I havent signed our divorce papers because we had to redo them because of certain things left out. Well he wants them to come over to Korea and visit for a month in normal circumstances meaning I have legal custody it would seem scary but when neither of us has legal custody I am at a loss on what to tell him and am scared if I deny them going he will see it as me preventing them from seeing him and may retaliate by seeking custody. Does anyone know what I can do about this legally?
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Is he on active duty right now? If he is, then who is going to take care of the kids if they go? I would advice you to first talk to an attorney and see what s/he says about this.
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he is on active duty and his niece who they barely know will be watching them she is 19. The only time we have seen family is once a yr twice if we are lucky so our daughter who is 3 will be very upset i am sure.
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I would not trust the safety of my youngest child ,thousands of miles away from me, in the hands of a 19 year old, sorry no way.
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My X has lived overseas since we separated. I have not allowed the children to travel overseas to see him. I was afraid he would not send them back, but also he has a long work day, so who would be taking care of them?
You have temporary custody right now, and you are within your rights. It may spur your WS to apply for full custody, but the reality is that your saying no to sending a three year old to Korea would not sway the judge, you can be pretty sure of that.
If he wants to see them, tell him visitation will take place in your country. You may get threats of forcing you do do it through the courts, but it is likely that will be hot air. Stick to your guns on this one.
Love and light,
Jacky
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