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"I'm glad I gave up on the marriage."
#751997 06/08/03 08:19 PM
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It's one thing to have an A. It's another to be glad you had an A. How do I respond to something this hurtful?
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"Me too, dear."
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#751999 06/08/03 08:37 PM
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Since I gave up on my M, my life is so easy now that I don't use all my energy trying to fix us. I still can't get over the fact that I tried for years to make our M better and he really had no interest. WS is not real glad he had an A at this point but when he did it, it was something that made his life exciting. He is not too excited now.
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#752000 06/08/03 08:44 PM
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tell him "me too, me too! *sigh*

or else tell him what is really on your mind..

or say nothing..sometimes saying nothing speaks volumes....

just be silent, my therapist said it takes control but tilt your head and squint your eyes slightly..and then wave your hand and don't say anything..

or squint your eyes slightly and say, that was a very hurtful statement.

no resonse is the best, I found out that made the biggest impact because they expect us to defend our self or say something or shed tears..etc..
they provoke us..deliberatly..

They are bullys...

Keep on Keeping on! your going to make it....
it gets better..soon you will be glad he is gone..I promise..you..no more hurt nor pain. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Re: "I'm glad I gave up on the marriage."
#752001 06/10/03 12:18 AM
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What a coincidence...REcently, my stbxh Jethro, who is now NOT allowed by law to contact me, said this "I am now in a HEALTHY relationship (with OW2) and it is good. How things are supposed to be."

Geez. I just laughed. Said "yea right". I don't engage it anymore.

We'll see who has the last laugh. He knew me, my morals and when I'm single and dating, he will be squirming...Then one day I'll say after this is over, the divorce that is..." I am dating and in very healthy relationships too." But mine will be plural and mine will be healthy.

Let him eat his cake. Realize that a house built on quicksand sinks ok?

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