Just read a good article. Thought a few here might be interested.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.divorceonline.com/articles/f1014893.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.divorceonline.com/articles/f1014893.html</A> <P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A> <BR>

Wish someone had told my H that before he introduced the kids to the OW without my knowledge six weeks after he left. Not only didn't he wait till well after the divorce, he introduced them a few days before he filed. Our therapist told him it was a bad idea, but it was too late. I don't know why the therapist we were seeing first, who knew about the OW when I didn't, didn't bother to mention it. My H consulted a child psychiatrist who supposedly told him that since my H viewed his new relationship as permanent, it was ok for the kids to see more of her. <P>I found it interesting that the author of the article seemed to assume that these relationships began after the divorce process, rather than the other way around, which actually is often the case, as we know. When I read that personal ad quoted, the first thing I thought of was that the "divorce pending" was a lie. I wouldn't be surprised if his wife has no clue that they are unhappily married, either. Me, cynical?-nah!<p>[This message has been edited by Nellie1 (edited September 03, 1999).]

Very good article, especially after just yesterday my W told me I needed to be dating around and moving on with my life. I told her I had no interest in dating others and it would not be good for our daughter. My W has been fairly discreet with her dating thus far.<BR>I do agree that people jump into new relationships to ease the pain. I know a lady who re-married the day after the divorce was final. That seems more like a divorce celebration. There's no doubt that this issue is very hard on the children involved.<BR>Whether your the "leaver" or the more responsible partner in the marriage, taking time to heal physically, spiritually and emotionally is very important.

Hi chris,<BR>jumping on your thread. you didn't see my other i guess. i was wrong and my H has still been seeing my 'friend' for the last 7-9 months and lying about it. i have asked him to leave but he's dragging his feet. he only says things like 'i just don't know what i want', 'i'm so sorry i hurt you'. i am pursuing divorce. <BR>i am so scared at the prospect of being alone. i know i need to focus on just my kids for a while. the thought of dating terrifys me. <BR>i had read this article before i saw your post.<BR>hope you are doing okay...<P>------------------<BR>Kellie<BR>Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough<P><BR>