My former Bro-inlaw said he saw my EXs boyfriend (OM)out at the movies with his wife awhile back. He then told his sister (my EX) what he saw and that he felt her relationship with this guy (OM) was not right and was doomed because of the infidelity. She then told her brother (former bro-inlaw) that it was over between them (OM). I knew that was a lie......my kids 2 and 6 always tell me that the OM cooked them dinner and that the OM watches them when my EX runs out for a minute. I dont get it, I DONT REALLY CARE ANYMORE, but still........my EX wasnt willing to work out our marital problems, but is willing to SHARE a married guy and put up with all the drama to be with him. I also hear that she sees him every now and then, because he is still married and cant come and go as he pleases. Now, I know I dont know all the story, but it seem like pure craziness to me. What a friggen mess this woman (EX) has created. Wheeeew!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

<small>[ June 10, 2003, 08:26 AM: Message edited by: ITSOVER ]</small>

Maybe she still clings to him because to do otherwise is to admit that their relationship was all a big joke, and then she would face the harsh reality of what she did to you and the children. Check out mickey65's exerpts from the book 'Private Lies' by Frank Pitman.

As you would say to me LET IT GO LET IT GO LET IT GO LET IT GO!!!!!!!!!
You are DIVORCED! Whenever people try to tell you about ex-wife, why don't you just say, I don't hear it- blah blah blah!

They won’t be together in 6 months...
And she’ll despise him...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by adgirl48:
<strong>As you would say to me LET IT GO LET IT GO LET IT GO LET IT GO!!!!!!!!!
You are DIVORCED! Whenever people try to tell you about ex-wife, why don't you just say, I don't hear it- blah blah blah!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Actually you are correct! People ask me all the time what she is up to.....I KNOW, but I just say "we are divorced and she can do what she wants, I really dont need to discuss it"

I do talk about it here, because It allows me to hear peoples opinions on what went wrong. I am divorced and with a new female, but I just found this site recently and I wish I could have discussed alot of this much earlier. Thanks though, and have a good one. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I do talk about it here, because It allows me to hear peoples opinions on what went wrong.
One big problem is you never had time to deal with it after it happened.

Itsover---I know how you feel when the perplexity of infidelity rears its ugly head. I find myself pondering things I should let go, too but maybe there is a need to get it out of our soul for further healing. As long as we don't obsess, it may be a releasing thing. OR maybe it is shear gossip.....

My WS admitted that he is still involved with OW but he said that it will never amount to anything and they will never get married or anything. I said does she know this. He said, yeah he thinks so. I said, did you tell her but he said, not in so many words. WOW does he have some things to learn. He does not know women very well.

I still shake my head at the fact that WS is 57 and OW is 28. He is a paraplegic, has some false teeth and is overweight.....but women just love him so maybe they see some of the things I see that keep me attached or hoping that he will change.

Enough pondering---egads. But glad I got that out.

TW