When do you know it is time to try plan B? H & I have been trying to work on reconcilition for a year now and we have seem to get nowhere.

the first couple months after total honesty on both parts seem like a honeymoon period.

Now it appears that we have fallen back into old patterns. I have been seeing a therapist for this past year he has not.

His betrayal and drug use happened 5 years ago, mine happened 1 year ago and was ended immediatley I could not face him even after one time. I felt terrible and ashamed to this day I regret that stupid drunken night. I cant get pass his anger no matter how I try. I never go anywhere any more, if I do it is a fight (even to get my hair done) most of my friends are what I would call phone buddies.

How can I keep wanting to try if I cant get over his anger. I dont think he will ever forgive me. I dont know if I stay to take his punishment for my sin or if there is still something there?

trishcat,

Have you approached the issue of counseling as maybe something that he would be doing to help you? To make it as non-threatening to him as possible?

If he has anger towards you, then he needs to work through it - You can't live the rest of your life asking for forgiveness from him... I think counseling is the best thing for you two - anyway you can get him there... AND go together...

And by the way, while you hurt him, it is NOT his position to impose "punishment" on you for your sin - ONLY God is there to judge. And if you have sincerely asked God for his forgiveness, then you have been forgiven! Now it is time for you to forgive yourself. And ask for your husband's forgiveness once and for all - not for him to hold it over your head. But as long as you have not forgiven yourself, he may do just that...

God Bless,
Mike