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Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, adamv, Army Hubby, Gail (mojodiva)& Shane, bonnie five & H, TryingToKeepHope, sorto98, lghoping, SoTired (Mike & Trish), evega, Douglas and Kirsi Nielson, Jessicafl27, kimmy2, auntielala, weezy8550, miserynmissouri, STBXWife, sealfan, Jen Brown, LunaDove, SMIAJ,

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted(first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind(Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored), Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”), d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.)

Thank you everyone that prayed with us and also all of you that gave a praise report. Like many of you all, I like to see the praises to answered prayer. It is a blessing to hear how God is working and helping people get through tough times.

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I don't know what happened. I can't believe I didn't post this last week. I hope God had better plans for it this week.

Here's Chapter 4 of "Power of a Praying Husband".

Bless you all this week.

HER MOTHERHOOD

Woman voted motherhood as one of their top three needs for prayer, just under prayer for their spirits and for their emotions. Every mother struggles about maintaining a balance between being a good mother and a good wife. She often feels guilty about neglecting her husband or her children. Your wife needs your prayers to help her find that balance. God will work through your prayers to give her peace in the process. And she must find His peace within herself while she is raising her children.

Working Mothers need prayers for their well being. A part of her is always with their children. This becomes especially painful when there are long periods of time when they are not with her. Every woman wants prayer that she will be a better mom. If your wife is a working mom,pray for the time she has with the children to be maximized.

I want to encourage you as a father to know that your presence in the home is vitally important. You have no idea how important your approval is to your family. The one way you can be more involved with your kids is to pray for them. And they need you to pray with them. If you have to be away from them, tell each of your children that you're going to be praying for them.

It is important to pray with your wife for your children. "If two of you agree on earth concerning anything they ask, it will be done for them b the father in heaven." It will give your wife the greatest peace, confidence, and joyto know you are praying.

Prayer

Lord. I pray that you will help (wifes name) to be the best mother to our children that she can be. Give her strength, and help her to understand that she can do all things through Christ who strengthens her (Philippians 4:13). Give her patience, kindness, gentleness, and discernment. Guard her tongue so that the words she speaks will build up and not tear down, will bring life and not destruction. Guide her as she makes decisions regarding each child. By the authority You have given me, as a believer as well as a husband and father, I break any rebellion or area of disobedience that would erect a stronghold in our children (luke 10:19). Specifically I lift up (childs name). I bring before You my concern about (name any area of concern that you have for child).

Lord, I know we cannot successfully raise our children without You. So I ask that You would take the burden of raising them form our shoulders and partner with us to bring them up. Give my wife and me patience, strength, and wisdom to train, teach, discipline, and care for each child. Help us to know each childs needs and to know how to meet them. Give us discernment about what we allow into the home through T.V., books, movies, video games, and computer activities. Give us revelation and the ability to see what we need to see. Show us Your perspective on each child's uniqueness and potential for greatness. Give us a balance between being overprotective and allowing our children to experience life to early.

If we, being evil, Know how to give good gifts to our children, how much more will You, our heavenly Father, give good things to us when we ask it of You (Matthew 7:11). So I ask you for the gifts of intelligiance, strength, talent, wisdom, and godliness to be in our children. Keep them safe from any accident, disease, or evil influence. May no plan of the enemy succeed in our lives. Help us to raise our children to be obedient and respectful to both of us and to have a heart to follow You and Your word. I pray that my wife will find fulfillment, contentment, and joy as a mother, while never losing sight of who she is in You.

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STBXWife,

I am so sorry. Last week was kind of a bad week for me, time wise, and I over looked you're name and request to be added to the list. Please forgive me. I have added you to the list.

I have also included auntielala, weezy8550 and miserynmissouri.

I pray you all will be blessed this week.

Love in Christ.

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I am checking in early this week because I have a busy week ahead, but wanted to say thank you for doing this. I only wish you could know how much this means to me to have the prayer partners out there praying for me. And last week, all the great posts here were so inspiring to me. I may not know your faces or your addresses or anything personal about all of you, but I know your hearts and what is in your souls, and I am thankful to God for everyone of you.

I pray every Wed. and sometimes check in during the week and pray for anyone who has requested to be added, so I did pray for the above.

My request:

Please pray for me this week and my WH, Dan. I am mailing a "love letter" (sort of) to him this week, telling him that I am here and can provide a loving, safe place for him when he is ready to talk, without anger, recrimination or blame. I have been really angry with him and haven't done this for a long time, but I felt really directed to do this. I am doing Plan A,long distance. It will be a year next month that we have been separated and he moved in with OW.

If there are any new people here, I suggest you go back and read some of the wonderful posts on last weeks. I think they will bless your lives with hope and inspiration, as they have mine.

Again, to S&C and to Lupolady, thank you, thank you for keeping us going.

May God Bless all of you.

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Steadfast,

I would love to be added to this list and would be honored to partake in prayer for all of those on this list.

My request is that God keep His hand on my marriage. My H has worked with his OW for over seven years now and with all of the research I have done concerning As, it seems as if they have always been inappropriately involved, and the EA that they have always had turned into a PA for two months last year and they just recently ended a relapse, in which he once again confessed to me.

I feel the enemy very near and I can't seem to rebuke him. No effort is being made on the part of my H to separate himself from this woman even though his place of employment has made it clear to him that they do not want to lose him as an employee. The more and more I think about our situation, the more and more I am losing love for my husband because I have plan A-ed my tail off and have grown stronger in the process. I can actually see myself getting remarried in the future to a Godly man (current H has very little faith)and building a life without this man who seems to have no resistance for this woman.

I need prayer to get it together outside of the situation so that more problems do not ensue as a result of this A. My job has suffered, our daughter has suffered, and all of our friends and family have suffered because of this. I'm ready to move on and have forgiven him, but if he is only setting up himself for failure by conitinuting to work with her, then what really is the point of me working through this? I'm continuing to learn my lessons and am going to keep changing and working hard ... but if he isn't, what then?

Thanks for listening and for spearheading this group. We can use all the prayers we can get.

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S&C,

Add me to the "answered" list.

Would like to chime in loudly with a big "shout out" to God. It seems that my lovely wife and I are going to make it. With God's help, the prayers of friends, family, each other and the folks here at MB things are gonna be alright. We got a ways to go but we are going there together.

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sealfan,

I have added you to the list. I know exactly how you feel. My W still works with OM. He recently became her supervisor. However, by the grace of God and the prayer warriors standing for my M, their relationship has soured.

I literally prayed for God to destroy thier relationship. That seems to be happening (just not as fast as I'd like). I just try to remember that God has a wonderful plan for me and He has a wonderful plan for you too. Trust God.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm ready to move on and have forgiven him, but if he is only setting up himself for failure by conitinuting to work with her, then what really is the point of me working through this? I'm continuing to learn my lessons and am going to keep changing and working hard ... but if he isn't, what then?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My dear sweet sister, God's plans for those who come close to Him are amazing. Your H has to decide what he is going to do not only with his M, but with God as well. Neither you nor I can make that chioce for him. The work being done inside of you will never be wasted. It will draw the Godly man you desire to you. Whether it be your H or someone else, I don't know. Let God work out the details. Your job is to get keep seeking Him.

Bless you.

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Praise God d_rose! Praise God!

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Sealfan,
Bless you! Keep praying, and don't give up on your faith. God watches over those who seek Him.

S&C,
Thanks so much for doing this group. I don't know why I haven't joined earlier. I'm just glad I'm in now. You are a blessing to me.

My request for the week:
Pray for my XWH heart to be softened, and for him to come back to God, as he was brought up in God's house with loving Christian parents. Pray for OW also to come to know the Lord. Pray for me to seek out my life in accordance to God's will. I"m stepping out more and more on my own, realizing that I can make a difference in who I become, even if I can't change my XWH.

Sealfan, I, too, would like to live with a Godly man. I wanted that to be my XWH, but I am willing to follow God's will. Please pray for me to follow Him in all things.

I'm praying for you all also!

Thanks again! Love you guys, KIm

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Lord,

Bless all who's "names" are listed here. Give them the strength to have unshakeable faith in You. Allow them to believe when there are no positive signs to be seen - let them feel Your works and Your mercy and Your love. Be with them in their times of sadness and sorrow. Please work through us all as we give advice and support one another. Let the Holy Spirit enter our hands as we type our messages here. And work in their spouses and partners lives and hearts. For we are all here because of love...

Be with us all Lord - now in our time of need and always.
Amen

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MB Marriage Restoration friends,

A very close, dear friend sent me the story you will find in my next post (I WAS going to post it here, but --as usual-- I've made this post tooooooo long!!). He WAS a BS, and prayed his W back home. This happened many, many years ago. Loooooooong before there even WAS a MB. So he knows from whence he speaks! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

B/c of knowing their history, when my friend speaks, I listen. When my friend tells me he understands and is praying for me, it comforts me! It's a lot like knowing Christ "knows our infirmities, being one such as we were, a man - of flesh and blood....tempted in all ways as we, yet without sin..." Well, I've quoted those verses terribly, but you all get the point. Christ KNEW all our pain.

BTW, I'm feeling MUCH better today! Several reasons: One is knowing all of my MB friends who are "praying me through" (again, refer to story in next post)
Second: I keep "hearing" God telling me to PRAY THROUGH the trial, not give in or give up....Joyce Meyer (again) this morning!
Third reason: God Himself keeps telling me this!! (I guess this is prolly the #1 reason!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Example: The very first scripture that came to mind on D-Day was Gen.50:20 ("You meant it for evil, but God will use it for good..."). Wellllll, last night, during my regular devotion, Bible reading time, God gave me this scripture again!
THEN, as if to "top it off" - I was directed to another scripture (I use Our Daily Bread, by M. DeHahn - wanna make sure you know that, as I'm NOT "Bible-hopping" looking for answers), PSALM 69 (It's too long, you'll have to read it yourselves), basically it begins by speaking of being in despair, feeling TOTALLY alone (exactly how I've been feeling!),and goes on to comfort by saying GOD WILL BE THERE, and will rescue me!!!!!!!

PTL!!!!!!

\o/ <----- This is me Praising the Lord with hands lifted high!!!!

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<strong>Something to remember when you hear the voice of God calling...

26 Guards

Here's a message that will bring you chills. Have you ever felt the urge to pray for someone and then just put it on a list and said, "I'll pray for them later?"

Or has anyone ever called you and said, "I need you to pray for me, I have this need?"

Read the following story that was sent to me and may it change the way that you may think about prayer and also the way you pray.

You will be blessed by this.

A missionary on Furlough told this true story while visiting his home church in Michigan.

"While serving at a small field hospital in Africa, every two weeks I traveled by bicycle through the jungle to a nearby city for supplies. This was a journey of two days and required camping overnight at the halfway point.

On one of these journeys, I arrived in the city where I planned to collect money from a bank, purchase medicine, and supplies, and then begin my two-day journey back to the field hospital.

Upon arrival in the city, I observed two men fighting, one of whom had been seriously injured. I treated him for his injuries and at the same time talked to him about the Lord.

I then traveled two days, camping overnight, and arrived home without incident.

Two weeks later I repeated my journey.

Upon arriving in the city, I was approached by the young man I had treated. He told me that he had known I carried money and medicines. He said, 'Some friends and I followed you into the jungle, knowing you would camp overnight. We planned to kill you and take your money and drugs.

But just as we were about to move into your camp, we saw that you were surrounded by 26 armed guards. At this, I laughed and said that I was certainly all alone in that jungle campsite.

The young man pressed the point, however, and said, 'No, sir, I was not the only person to see the guards, my friends also saw them, and we all counted them. It was because of those guards that we were afraid and left you alone.'

At this point in the sermon, one of the men in the congregation jumped to his feet and interrupted the missionary and asked if he could tell him the exact day this happened.

The missionary told the congregation the date, and the man who interrupted told him this story:

"On the night of your incident in Africa, it was morning here and I was preparing to go play golf. I was about to putt when I felt the urge to pray for you. In fact, the urging of the Lord was so strong, I called men in this church to meet with me here in the sanctuary to pray for you. Would all of those men who met with me on that day stand up?"

The men who had met together to pray that day stood up. The missionary wasn't concerned with who they were, he was too busy counting how many men he saw.

There were 26.

This story is an incredible example of how the Spirit of the Lord moves in mysterious ways. If you ever hear such prodding, go along with it.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">]

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OK, read that with chills going up and down my spine (still are!). Thank you for the story. I needed something uplifting right now... been feelin' down for a few hours.

Just to re-affirm to everyone here... I print out this list and pray for everyone listed on it. The way you will be able to tell if my prayer helped answer your need: The answer will come to you in some sort of humorous way! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I love to laugh and make others laugh. I have a serious side, but to me, life is way too short to be serious...

So if you find your need is met by God and somehow there is something "funny" attached to the way it was delivered, you'll know I was praying for you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

lupolady, thanks again for that story - I needed some inspiration at the end of my day!

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Mike and all,

Isn't it AWESOME to think that there will be 70+ angels sent to our aid when we all pray together on Wednesdays?!?!?!?

Brothers and Sisters, let's all be faithful to pray for each other on Wednesdays (I am guilty of not being very faithful - I'll confess!) and watch how God moves!!!

BTW - I once prayed for a dear sister (now in recovering M) that God would remove the OW in a "most unusual way" - a way that they would KNOW God had truly had a Hand in it. Well, don't want to give too much personal info here, but let's just say it involved a month-long hospital stay, rehab, etc. for one of the players and total NC throug it all! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Praying so specifically shows God how much we believe.........HE HAS TO ACT when we demonstrate that our faith is so strong. Remember, it's HIS reputation on the line! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I have started doing this. I have proclaimed my M "HEALED!" I did this to a colleague (an unsaved one, no less). She thinks I'm nuts, but, I'll have a wide-open door to witnessing to her about God's promises.

So are we agreed? We're praying and believing and claiming His promises for our M's. HOW could our WS's possibly continue in their sin when we loose so much Heavenly Power on them?!?!?!?!

C'Mon, guys.......................
LET'S P-U-S-H!!!

P.S. Mike, I looooooooove your tagline!

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One more post today (I feel like I'm hogging the board tonight!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Well, not from Power of Praying Wife this week, but from Charlyne yesterday:

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HE CARES FOR YOU!

"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he
may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because
he cares for you." I Peter 5:6-7

Do you feel rejected and abandoned? Are you discouraged, weary and
tired because you worry about all your problems? You may have many
circumstances coming against you at the present time but you are never
alone because your Lord God cares for you all the time. He loves you
and died on the cross for you and for your spouse. You and I must
learn how to take all our fears, our anxieties, and all our concerns
and we must make the effort to cast ALL of them onto God.

"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up."
James 4:10

"Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will
never let the righteous fall." Psalm 55:22

When you are facing trials and tribulations may you know that the Lord
will be with you as He was with Peter in the boat. Jesus can calm the
storms in your life. Know that even though the wind is blowing hard,
because of your righteousness you will not be shaken or uprooted. PTL!

"Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this."
Psalm 37:5

Do you worry about your problems. The Lord teaches us that we are to
take our problems to our Lord. (Read Matthew 6:25-34) God instructs
us not to worry about tomorrow, but seek first His Kingdom and all His
righteousness. Our Lord God gives us a promise that when we bring all
our anxieties to God, He will give us the peace of God that will guard
our hearts and minds. Prayer is essential to talking to your Lord,
telling Him your needs in detail and thanking Him in advance for
answering your request and prayers.

Trust and humility are essential ingredients for your Lord God to
answer your prayers in His will, His way and in His timing. Humility
is not weakness; instead it is the willingness to "submit to God."
Humble yourself and He promises to lift you up. Know in your heart
that God's timing will be perfect for you.

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer
and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will
guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7

As I read all these scriptures, there is one common thread running
through them. You have to humble yourself, choose to give all your
problems to your Lord, and then "Let Go and Let God" solve them, by
you knowing and trusting His mighty awesome power. If you do not let
go of them, you will talk about them, discuss, worry, weep and wail,
but in the end you will pick up your problems and say, "God, you are
too slow and I am not sure You are going to fix my problems, so I am
going to do it myself! Thank you, Lord! Your prayers will never be
answered that way, choose to humble yourself giving Him your marriage
problems, your disobedient or rebellious children problems, your in-
law problems, your financial problems, your health problems, your job
problems, your living arrangements and all the others circumstances
that go with separation and divorce.

Today cast all your cares on your Lord God. Trust Him letting Him
guide and protect you. Seek God peace which will calm all your fears
and worries.

God bless,
Charlyne Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries
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hey guys.....First of all I want to tell d_rose congrats on saving your marriage. When God is involved great things happen and even the worst seeming situation can be turned around.

Man, I loved the story of the angels. It is so true thoough. Every weds I feel rejuvenated because I know and feel all of you praying.

I have a couple prayer request this week please. My sister had a brain tumor when she was 12 and by the grace of God she came through it. They had given her only 4 months to live. She is 30 now and married and has 1 little girl. We found out the other day that she has another tumor and we are going to have to operate within 2 weeks. Her husband is in the army and is in Korea and we are trying to get him home.

The second one is for God to intervene somehow in my wifes wedding on June 28th. That will be a very painful day for me but I have several christian couples that are going to take care of me for the weekend.

Praying for all of you still!!!!

Love in Christ
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Hello, I am new to this thread. From what I've read, I understand that you post prayer requests before Wed. and then everyone prays for the people and situations described on Wednesday each week. It sure sounds like some prayers have been answered and you all have been a genuine source of comfort and encouragement for one another.

I feel a little odd asking for people I barely know to pray for me about something not quite as serious as some of the other requests, but here goes.

Either later this week or early next week, my H will receive a letter from my lawyer indicating that I've filed for Dv, and that he needs to pick up his copy of the papers, or be served with them, etc. He doesn't know it's coming, and I'm worried about how he will react. I know I shouldn't worry about something I have no control over, but I do still care about him.

I'm worried he'll either have a huge and angry reaction and let it out on me in the form of angry phone calls and showing up at my place, or he'll start badmouthing me to whoever will listen, or my worst fear is that he'll drink himself into oblivion, or even hurt himself. He's had an awful time of it for the last year or so, his mom went through breast cancer (she's well now), I cheated on him and we've been separated, and his father became ill with diabetes last fall and then died suddenly in January. I know he is likely depressed and this may be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

Please pray for my H, that when he does get the letter, he is not alone, or at least that he remains calm and collected and realizes he is not alone, that God is here for him, and that he doesn't take any rash, destructive actions. I already hurt him very badly when I broke our marriage vows. Now that things aren't working out between us and I have chosen (after much careful thought) to file for Dv, I know it will hurt him again. He does not deserve more pain, but it's an unfortunate part of this process. Please pray that God will be close to him at this time. I just am so worried about my H.

I will say a prayer for each of the people described in today's posts too when I wake up tomorrow.

I am very thankful that I can reach out to you people, even though I doubt many if any of you know me.

Thank-you for being here,

Jen

PS: I am not filing for Dv just to "wake up" my H, I am ready to live with being divorced if that's the result. But if you can also say a prayer that receiving this letter will finally wake my H up and help him to realize that he isn't entitled to treat me poorly forever, or something about if he still wants this marriage to give him the courage to finally take some steps towards saving it, I'd appreciate that too.

(Please tell me if my requests are appropriate for this thread.)

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I would just like to make a special prayer request. My husband will be returning to our hometown, where I am currently living, next Tuesday. I can see him becoming himself again and I would just like extra strength while he is here. Strength to do what is God's plan. Thank you.

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Hi all, I would just like to ask for prayer that God will restore my marriage. I know that God is so faithful and if we place our faith in him. He will give us the desires of our heart. Over the last couple of months God has been teaching me to let go and let him work in me. He has also told me that he is in control of the heart and will not change my waw's heart until I am the person that he wants me to be. Please pray thay God will continue to show me how I need to change to become more like him. Thanks Smiaj

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Jen,

I have sort'a, off and on, followed some of your threads. I guess being a BS I wanted to get into the mind of my WW. I remember someone else posted that you are "the WS that 98% of the BS's wish our S was". Of course meaning that you understood how much hurt the A had caused and amount of work you put into trying to restore the M afterwards. I want you to feel blessed that you have tried hard and all you have done won't be in vain.

I also want to let you know your prayer request is very appropriate for this thread. We pray, not only for the restoration of marriages, but against anything that stands in the way of or for anything that helps to build strong marriages.

God's gives you 100% of His attention because He is omnipresent. If He gives you that much attention, don't you think He is completely and totally interested in every single aspect of your life? And that is one of the reasons we can have a very intimate relationship with Him. Were you aware of that?

caj, As you know we will always be there in your corner (and your sister's).

LunaDove, God knows your heart and your heart's desire. Keep lifting up your H throught prayer and we will do the same. Keep us posted on things and remember in God's time, Trust Him.

SMIAJ, you've just described the kind of heart God can work with best. Keep getting closer to Him and watch miricles happen.

I have a small prayer request of my own. I will be finishing a project management class today and will be taking a test about 3pm today (That's 9pm for all of you out there on the east coast). I'm a bit anxious about it. Mahalo ya'll.

Blessing to you each of you.

S&C

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