My wife has felt emotionally abandoned for the last four years. Not to make any excuses but I was in a state of depretion due to the loss of four children at birth and my father within a three year period. My eyes are open now and I am medicated but I fear it is too late. She has now had an affair because "in her eyes we are no longer a married couple" and she is insisting on staying in touch with this person because "he is the only one that truely understands her." At this point she is not sure if she wants to save our marriage or not. She just doesn't feel anything for me other than contempt. I'm not sure I have the strength to get through this even though I want it to work out more than anything in the world. She has moved out into an apartment with our two girls and I can't help but feel she is in constant contact with the other man. Please help me, Lord!<P>Dave