I just read your post saying that you chose to go through with the divorce. Can I ask a favor of you on behalf of your husband? I KNOW you don't owe him anything, but if you can find it in your heart, call and tell him the papers are coming. Please. Even after I asked my X to do that, she still didn't. I was home alone and an officer pulled up in a police car to serve me the papers (in front of my whole neighborhood).

For the last amount of love you have left for him, call him - or even just leave a voicemail for him - or at the very least, send an email. Maybe you have already, but if not, please do...

My X also thought that they would just "come in the mail", that is what her lawyer told her. But unfortunately, I got served.

It will take a lot of strength for you to do give him notice, but believe me it is worth it to save him the possible embarrassment and hurt and pain of being totally surprised by the event.

If you can, just think about it...
K?

And of course the ever optimist I am, I'll be praying that this is just another step in the saving of your marriage... Who knows what God has planned... Take care..

Mike