Hello to All
It's been a long time since I have posted. See allot of old friends and lots of new ones....unfortunately...I see the trend continues....people distroying their lives and the lives of their families.....wow.....I was thinking the other evening about my oldest son....you know...not one of his closet friends is living with both parents....how sad. Wish that trend would change.
Well now for an update...divorce was final several months ago. Have to say it was the sadest day of my life, to know that I am now a statistic. Just like so many others. Well, I have actually gone out on a date or two, didnt feel any romantic feelings though, no butterflies or excitement. Nice person to share an evening of conversation and a meal with but nothing else. We all are embarking on new territory now, finding our way. You know what though...my happiness has to come from me...the saying...."You complete me" well, I really dont want to say that anymore or think that anymore of my future soul mate....It's up to me to find my own happiness and learn about myself....the person I share my life with, I want to be someone who like me, has done allot of soul searching, knows themselves, knows whats important to them, what they want in a mate. Someone who has had some life experiences, a few knocks along the way, it builds character. I will take the time to get to know myself and know what I want. I am actually getting comfortable with the opportunity I know have. I do have to say that letting go of my marriage was the hardest thing I have ever done....letting go of what it could have possibly been was hardest. But unfortunately I wasn't married to the right person so.....life goes on. For those of you who know me...my sons....gosh my wonderful sons are doing good.....they are great boys....and yes we have had some moments but I must say, we are making it.
Hope everyone is coping as best you can. Take care and I will get off now and read up on how some of you are doing.
Dianne

{{{Diane}}}

I have to agree with you about not wanting another person to "complete" me. I feel I should be able to complete myself before I get involved with anyone seriously again!

Sounds like you are doing well and have come through all of this with your mind and heart in the right place. Taking care of you and the boys.

Good to hear how things are going!

Lori

HI bangarra
Thanks for responding....how are you doing? Can you give me an update on what's been going on with you.

well, see the post I did about the wheel is turning. I think that pretty much sums it all up. I think I am doing very well, and I know the kids are doing better all the time! YAHOO, we SURVIVED!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Actually, still no final on the divorce, but think the judge just has to sign now, so hopefully any time. I ended up having to pay a lot and look as if I was "punished" to make Dippy go away.

Once divorce is FINAL, I will hit him for contempt on back medicals, the books I asked for, and cancelling my insurance, and will let the DAs and Victims of Crime Compensation deal with his half of my daughter's residential therapy. I have proof, won't need attorneys, and life will go on without me having to deal with Dippy.

IF he goes after custody of the younger daughter, I will get her a child advocate attorney for her own rights. Already had a conversation with Interface Child Services about it and they say the man should have no unsupervised vistation. For some reason, I am not worried about it anymore. I'll protect the kids if it comes to it, but other than that, just going to let that ol' wheel keep on turning at it's own speed.

I think the girls and I came out of the tunnel and the far side brought a lot of change and a much brighter future! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Lori