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Help! I have had the problem of the last few days with dreaming of XWH and OW. It seems everytime I lay my head down, I dream of the two of them. I have had lots of dreams of XH, but now SHE is getting in them.
My dreams before this week were more or less of us getting back together. I had even dreamed I had 2 relationships before we got back together! Last night, on several occaisions, I dreamed we were together, and OW was there, too, and he kept sneaking off to be with her....
Who else has these problems? My sleep has been interrupted a lot because of my sick child (and I myself having caught this virus, too).
Could it be that I am still struggling with telling OW's BS? they are separated, but not DV, that I know of. I have not attempted to contact him, but several people tell me I should. Any advice?
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I did once... several months ago. He reminded me of a 50ish truck driver. I have never seen him... good thing for his sake as well as my criminal record. Nope... I haven't drempt about my ex for close to 6 months or more even. Now if I could just dream about that woman I met in the mall food court today... I would be stylin..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Sweet Dreams FC! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
I hope you dream of the mall lady! ha.
I suppose I am doing this as I have just gotten my papers back, and DV was final June 12. I'm legally able to move on now, and I'm scared to death.
I know he won't be back to "rescue" me now. XH is not into wasting money at all, and I know if he's gone through the expense to complete the divorce, then he won't go back on it. So I am on my on. I'm ok, financially, and I have my boys, and great family who stand by me, and also great inlaws who still love me, but I still feel alone.
I'm praying about that.
I hope that feeling alone goes away soon.
<small>[ June 20, 2003, 10:26 PM: Message edited by: kimmy2 ]</small>
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Sleep is good period. I haven't slept in almost a week but slept like a baby last night for four to five hours. That's huge for me.
I am sorry you're dreaming of them. I hope to goodness I don't dream of him because it would be a nightmare!
You should make up your mind and decide what to do about telling the OW's H. That may stop the dreams. Start exercising. Think about other things instead of x and ow.
I just wish I'd have a killer dream. Like Ricky Martin's porshce breaks down in front of my home and he stops and asks to use my phone...and I answer the door and well...I am stopping here..
I say use positive visualization before bed like Formerly Confused does.
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